Hair Prejudice, From women of color

[Crystalicequeen123]

Yep, that's what happens to me too. Black women never compliment me, but Whites, Spanish and Indians always have something good to say. They even want to touch my hair.
Black women just stalk you trying to figure out if it's a weave or not. A couple of weeks ago I was in the check out line in H&M and these two black women were standing behind me. They were staring at my hair and suddenly started speaking in their native language (they were African)
My sis was standing off to the side and she said they were examining my hair very closly. I mean leaning in close and all that. Honestly I was aware of what they were doing so I turned around quickly to catch them unawares. They immediately stopped talking and glared at me. No kidding!!! I was like WTH! Then they went back to talking really fast like something big happened. My sis was still observing and she said they were glaring at me and rolling their necks and eyes. Yep!
And this is definitely not the first time something like this has happened.

WTH??? That's crazy? What on earth?? I can't even formulate the words to type on this keyboard. Such jealousy...over WHAT?? It's so crazy.
Can you imagine two white women (or Asian women, Indian women, whatever) in a checkout line making rude comments, or rolling their necks or eyes at a fellow white woman's hair?? That's so ridiculous!

Why do we do this to each other??

 

[uncutandgettinglonger]

I have a friend from africa, her hair is kinda bad looking. Mine isn't very much beter, I don't think, but I'm getting there

 

[MeccaMedinah]

I know it. I was working an internship in a new office this past summer and I wore my hair bunned everyday because I was doing daily co-washes and MTG. Well, if I ever had a date or something special to do, I'd blow it dry and flat iron it but it had probably been about 30 days before I wore it down to work for the first time and LITERALLY , it was as if the whole entire office (a division of about 120 people) were moving in slow motion when I'd walk by. Men and women alike but the men were way more vocal and frankly stymied by the hair as though I suddenly became a new woman. Men were staring. Stopping their conversations mid-sentence. Slowing down. Double-taking. etc. I was like, "WTH?" And, the only ones to compliment me on my hair were the men (black and white) and white WOMEN. No sisters. NONE. The men were all like, "I didn't know you had that much hair!" Or, "I really like your hair down, you should do that more often!". The sisters...."Mornin' CBC." lol.

The funny thing about this is that I witnessed this in my office a few months ago, but with a white female co-worker. She always wore ponytails & buns, but we were going to happy hour & when she let her hair down, it turned into the twilight zone. These were white men. It just seems that every race loves long hair. She & I still joke about that to this day.

 

[kizzylonghair]

Wow.

This has to be the most interesting post I've read in ages!
Kizzy, congrats on the turnaround!!! Not only is your hair reaching lengths, its very healthy....I have a saying: If nobody is jealous of you, how will you know your doing well?
What are your girls gonna say when you get BSL?


I guess it's also a myth that African American ladies have "better" hair than Black English ladies! There are haters all around tha world


Last december, my hair was not really in good condition. It was uneven, weak, not even above kneck length. But I was transistioning also. Now my hair is like shoulder length, nearlt arpit length and very healthy with consistent good growth.
I wear a weave 99.9%, so I'm wondering how my peers are gonna react when they see it at my graduation?
I showed my friend a picture of my hair, and she was like-" How did you get the weave into a pony tail so slick with no bumps?"
I was like "Thats not a weave, its my hair"
She was shocked.
But to be honest that was a sign of progress! If they think your hair's a weave, then it must be beautiful!


There is some kind of stigma black people have with long hair--almost that we cannot achieve it, and that if we do, we must have done one amazing thing. Perhaps I am guilty of that as I used to think like that as I'd never really seen any black girls with really long hair (apart from my cousin who had waist length hair---but her dad's Indian )

EVERY black hair product shop sells weave or extensions, and the common thought amongst most black people is that if you do have long hair, it must be because a) you're not fully black (? ???WTH?) OR B) It's a weave.

This site has helped me loads.....becuase before I thought that even shoulder hair was an amazing length to be able to reach, but from seing ladies like La La and Sherry, Robin the Hair Lady and others with near waist/waist length, I know that IT IS NOT SO HARD TO ACHIEVE LONG HEALTHY HAIR!!!!


I do beleive that Long hair is a womans glory, There's nothing wrong with wanting it, and being black is no bar to it, neither should it envoke negativity.


Summa x

PS Does anyone know how to post a picture onto this site from 'my pictures' C-Drive on a pc?

Thanks Summa,

Well done to you as well

I guess it's also a myth that African American ladies have "better" hair than Black English ladies! There are haters all around tha world

Preach!!!

As for you comp problem, post it in the help forum(or called something similiar) You will get a reply.

Kizzy

 

[Lovelylocs]

I guess it's also a myth that African American ladies have "better" hair than Black English ladies! There are haters all around tha world


Kizzy

I didn't know about this myth!