misscrystal
Nappy and Happy
post 'em here if you do!
i'm not tryin to start mess.......just curious
i'm not tryin to start mess.......just curious
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misscrystal
Nappy and Happy
Poohbear said:naysayers and haters about what? products? people?
lol. i mean anybody who's given you trouble about growing out your hair, started rumors about your hair being weave, hated on you for HAVING long hair....anything like that.
like i said, i'm just curious. this could be an interesting thread i think.
unlvgirl
My Crown and Glory
I work with an elderly lady who is about 70 years old, usually she's really nice. Yesterday I wore my hair down and she says oh I like your hair why don't you ever wear it down? Before I could respond I felt a hard tug on my hair and she says I really like it. I was so mad that I quickly clipped my hair up. I would have gone off on her if she wasn't as old and frail as she is. I was so mad! I my hair was a weave she would have pulled it out.
MomofThreeBoys
Well-Known Member
I posted this in another thread, but here it goes again......
Me, DH and kiddies went to NY for Christmas and saw my in-laws. I got a dominican blow out the day b4 so my hair was looking extra good! It's also the longest its every been. Anway, we go to see my father in law whom we haven't seen in almost two years. He says "Nat - lay" (yes, that's how he says my name
) your hair looks nice." (Think country accent). Then he proceeds to grab and tug on my hair!
I give my DH "the look" (Why the hell is you father up in my hair!)
What does DH do? He smiles. Sheesh.
My 400th post!
Me, DH and kiddies went to NY for Christmas and saw my in-laws. I got a dominican blow out the day b4 so my hair was looking extra good! It's also the longest its every been. Anway, we go to see my father in law whom we haven't seen in almost two years. He says "Nat - lay" (yes, that's how he says my name
) your hair looks nice." (Think country accent). Then he proceeds to grab and tug on my hair! I give my DH "the look" (Why the hell is you father up in my hair!) What does DH do? He smiles. Sheesh.
My 400th post!
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Poohbear
Fearfully Wonderfully Made
misscrystal said:
Oh okay! I've probably posted this several times before but I'll go ahead and post it again plus some more since I like to post anyway!
Anyway, as you may know I'm transitioning to natural. My mom and sister have told me how "nappy" my hair is (they're using it in a negative way). I keep telling them "it's natural and this is the hair God made grow out of my head." One day, I wore a braid-out to church and my dad found out some way that I was going natural. Why did he say "don't mess up your hair by not getting a relaxer" WTF!!!
Also, my best friend said "Jessica, you need to do something with that S***." I let her feel my new growth one time and she said it felt like worms were growing out of my head! Then, I had that one lady at church who said "What cha gonna do? Where an afro all the time?" ...what people don't know. My ex-boyfriend (we're really close) is the only one that supports me with going natural. I'm sure my Aunt Gloria who transitioned to natural is supporting me too while she's up in Michigan. I've talked to her a couple of times about what she did during her transition. Whatever anyone says about my hair, I don't let it bother me or get to me because I'm doing something for myself and I'm enjoying every minute of it in the process of transitioning. I just keep thinking of the day when I will be completely natural. 
Crysdon
Well-Known Member
The little girl in my son's fifth grade class told him that I have tracks in my hair. 
My son came home from school and asked "mom, what's tracks?" After I told him what it was, he says "____________ said you got tracks in your hair." I went to his school to host a Valentine's Day party and very kindly asked the little girl why she said that and she didn't have an explanation. I even let her feel my hair. I'm thinking to myself, "now she won't say that anymore".
WRONG!
A few weeks ago she told my son that I do have tracks and that her mother told her that Black ladies with long hair have tracks.
Oh well!
My son came home from school and asked "mom, what's tracks?" After I told him what it was, he says "____________ said you got tracks in your hair." I went to his school to host a Valentine's Day party and very kindly asked the little girl why she said that and she didn't have an explanation. I even let her feel my hair. I'm thinking to myself, "now she won't say that anymore".
WRONG!
A few weeks ago she told my son that I do have tracks and that her mother told her that Black ladies with long hair have tracks.
Oh well!
Shatani
New Member
damn!!!! talk about warping the minds of the little ones!!! how sad is THAT nonsense....Crysdon said:The little girl in my son's fifth grade class told him that I have tracks in my hair.
My son came home from school and asked "mom, what's tracks?" After I told him what it was, he says "____________ said you got tracks in your hair." I went to his school to host a Valentine's Day party and very kindly asked the little girl why she said that and she didn't have an explanation. I even let her feel my hair. I'm thinking to myself, "now she won't say that anymore".
WRONG!
A few weeks ago she told my son that I do have tracks and that her mother told her that Black ladies with long hair have tracks.
Oh well!
jaded_faerie
Well-Known Member
my room mates hair who is longer then mine got her hair cut and came back and told me i needed to go get a trim...i was like "uhh no, i had my trim a month ago"....i know she was upset about the cut, but it does not mean that i need my hair cut up now...she also gets on me for doing my daily washes, and looking at my hair strand when they fall out to see if they have the white bulb on the end or if my hair is breaking.
misscrystal
Nappy and Happy
Crysdon said:The little girl in my son's fifth grade class told him that I have tracks in my hair.
My son came home from school and asked "mom, what's tracks?" After I told him what it was, he says "____________ said you got tracks in your hair." I went to his school to host a Valentine's Day party and very kindly asked the little girl why she said that and she didn't have an explanation. I even let her feel my hair. I'm thinking to myself, "now she won't say that anymore".
WRONG!
A few weeks ago she told my son that I do have tracks and that her mother told her that Black ladies with long hair have tracks.
Oh well!
that's sad. is this little girl white or black? if she's white, her mother should be ashamed of herself for spouting ignorance to such an impressionable young girl
if she's black, then her momma's just as ignorant.
One relative who has a big bald spot in the middle of her head and around 4 inches of hair on the side (she damaged her own hair by trying to comsume alcohol and relax at the same time 
or so the story goes) and yet loves to do her own updating of my hair progress when I see her around the holidays on the condition of my hair. I wear it pulled back because I have 4 months of new growth and about 8 inches of relaxed hair. Because I have not cut my hair into a style since I had a short hair cut over a year ago I still have bangs that are not quite as long as everything else. So at the first month of my hair growing out (in her opinion of course) is (1) "Oohh you got hair just like mine thin and can't grow, how you do that style?(my bantu knot set). Third month of my hair growing out (2) "Oooh its getting so thick but I think I see some breakage, like mine".Fourth month of my hair growing out (3) "You got a good grade hair" and then proceeds to name 300 other people she knows with the "good grade".
Ridiculous and thats family! I have more but this one really irks me...
or so the story goes) and yet loves to do her own updating of my hair progress when I see her around the holidays on the condition of my hair. I wear it pulled back because I have 4 months of new growth and about 8 inches of relaxed hair. Because I have not cut my hair into a style since I had a short hair cut over a year ago I still have bangs that are not quite as long as everything else. So at the first month of my hair growing out (in her opinion of course) is (1) "Oohh you got hair just like mine thin and can't grow, how you do that style?(my bantu knot set). Third month of my hair growing out (2) "Oooh its getting so thick but I think I see some breakage, like mine".Fourth month of my hair growing out (3) "You got a good grade hair" and then proceeds to name 300 other people she knows with the "good grade".Ridiculous and thats family! I have more but this one really irks me...
A lot of people hate just to hate. Nothin better to do. In high school I had my hair in this huge bun in the back of my head and it looked like a big ball of synthetic hair...this chick walking behing me in the hallway says, "Now she know she needs to stop-she know that ain't her real hair," but of course it was. This chick even walked by me once in high school and pulled my hair and said, "You know that ain't yours." People are crazy. My homegirl was working in front of me and this girl that has hated on me from day one was talking and looking in my direction. Well my friend tells me she asked was my hair real, and when she told the girl yeah, she says, "Well, she shouldn't have dyed it black, because now it looks fake." Well she had nice hair her self, but put blonde streaks in it and now its broken off...so who should have stayed away from color?
People are crazy. My homegirl was working in front of me and this girl that has hated on me from day one was talking and looking in my direction. Well my friend tells me she asked was my hair real, and when she told the girl yeah, she says, "Well, she shouldn't have dyed it black, because now it looks fake." Well she had nice hair her self, but put blonde streaks in it and now its broken off...so who should have stayed away from color?
Kalani
Well-Known Member
Jewell said:A lot of people hate just to hate. Nothin better to do. In high school I had my hair in this huge bun in the back of my head and it looked like a big ball of synthetic hair...this chick walking behing me in the hallway says, "Now she know she needs to stop-she know that ain't her real hair," but of course it was. This chick even walked by me once in high school and pulled my hair and said, "You know that ain't yours."
I got the "you know she wearing a weave" comment alot during high school whenever I would rollerset my hair and wear it out. The crazy thing is my hair was barely touching my shoulders at the time. I was like you idiots, if I was going to get a weave I'd get something longer than this!
brownhaired_bonanza
New Member
jaded_faerie said:
It sounds like she needs to get out more. The broke-hair-hunting-hobby is not healthy.My mother.....she thinks she's an hair expert. I wash twice a week and she's like "with all your washing, your hair isnt even growing". And i tell her at least its in better shape than yours. She also tells me im unbalancing the PH of my hair by washing it that often. I just ignore her. We have different hair types and i always make sure i remind her everytime she brings up something about my hair. I tell you her hair is a mess. And she also told me that using "white" products on my hair when she saw my bottle of lacio lacio cos it has the drawing of a white woman. 
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BklynHeart
Well-Known Member
In January I had my hairdresser's assistant trim my hair. I had long layers. Instead of just trimming, she looked at it and cut my hair to the shortest layer, which was an 1 1/2 past my shoulders!! I was so upset! When I was at work, one of my co-workers overheard me discussing it to someone and was like "oh please, its not even short!". the person I was talking to already have waist-length hair (yep, she's Black!) and she looked at the other woman and just said "you wouldn't understand". And my husband was telling me I was overreacting as well. He doesn't realize my hair finally had a growth spurt, I was almost to bra-strap. Plus, I had a really nice layered cut. She gave me a blunt cut.
kombov_dymond
New Member
My dad in a funny way. I'm trying to be white and I'm gonna wash all the emollients out of my hair. But at touch up time it's "Oooo, you better not cut your hair, girl."
My mama used to trip about washing my hair all the time, until she noticed my progress.
My aunt whose a beautician, patted me on the top of my head when I was sitting. (You know she was checking for tracks). The last time she saw me, I had a really short cut. I knew I was onto something good when she did that.
I wouldn't call them haters though. Just amazed.
My mama used to trip about washing my hair all the time, until she noticed my progress.
My aunt whose a beautician, patted me on the top of my head when I was sitting. (You know she was checking for tracks). The last time she saw me, I had a really short cut. I knew I was onto something good when she did that.
I wouldn't call them haters though. Just amazed.
Daughter
UK Blak
Hmm over the years:
1. When my hair was relaxed one girl I used to hang with always said I paid too much to have my hair done and I should go to HER hairdresser. My hair was in good condition (used to relax every 12 weeks or so), hers simply wasn't, though her hair is absolutely lovely looking now.
2. When I was transitioning, one of my former work colleagues asked me "Hey, what's up with this back to Africa s***?!". She's from Africa herself and had either natural or texturised hair herself and had a beautiful face - don't know what THAT was all about.
3. My sister - I love her, I really do. But she says all the time "Why don't you do more with your hair, it would look BAD if you straightened it..." blah blah blah... true I used to hair many different styles when I had relaxed hair but now I'm trying to grow it longer I prefer to leave it alone as much as possible.
4. When I was a kid, I used to get all the "she has thick hair, shame it isn't nice/good like her dad's". I only heard this a few times but the damage was done, I began to see my own hair as inferior to straighter/loosely curled types, that took YEARS to undo.
Apart from that, I've not had too many negative experiences with my hair in recent times, probably more questions and compliments than anything
1. When my hair was relaxed one girl I used to hang with always said I paid too much to have my hair done and I should go to HER hairdresser. My hair was in good condition (used to relax every 12 weeks or so), hers simply wasn't, though her hair is absolutely lovely looking now.
2. When I was transitioning, one of my former work colleagues asked me "Hey, what's up with this back to Africa s***?!". She's from Africa herself and had either natural or texturised hair herself and had a beautiful face - don't know what THAT was all about.
3. My sister - I love her, I really do. But she says all the time "Why don't you do more with your hair, it would look BAD if you straightened it..." blah blah blah... true I used to hair many different styles when I had relaxed hair but now I'm trying to grow it longer I prefer to leave it alone as much as possible.
4. When I was a kid, I used to get all the "she has thick hair, shame it isn't nice/good like her dad's". I only heard this a few times but the damage was done, I began to see my own hair as inferior to straighter/loosely curled types, that took YEARS to undo.
Apart from that, I've not had too many negative experiences with my hair in recent times, probably more questions and compliments than anything
luv04
New Member
While eating in our school cafeteria this lady who is also a student here at first comes up to me i think just to say hello and then she says your hair is so pretty and the next thing i know she has her hands in my HAIR and ask me if it is track and starts searching im like give me a break. i said it is mine isnt that enough this also happened to me in highschool last year when i was a senior this boy in my class was like i know that is not all your hair and i constanly told him it was and then one day he finally believed me after awhile !!! and its really random when your having a conversation with someone and they say is that your real hair and try to act like it was what you were talking about when it didnt have anything to do anything. i know that was long winded but i had to get that out.lol
ChocoKitty
Well-Known Member
My family were out to dinner with a family friend and her sister. We were standing in line when she decided to grab my ponytail...
"This girl doesn't know what she wants to do with her hair! One minute she wears it straight--the next minute she wears it curly..."
I wanted to tell her "That's the beauty of me being natural! I can wear my hair however I choose. Whether it be curly, straight or nappy!!! Just because you keep loosing your hair trying weave it, color it and or braid it does not give you license to be concerned about how I style mine."
Anywho... the following week she asking me to write down some product recommendations while we were in church.
"This girl doesn't know what she wants to do with her hair! One minute she wears it straight--the next minute she wears it curly..."
I wanted to tell her "That's the beauty of me being natural! I can wear my hair however I choose. Whether it be curly, straight or nappy!!! Just because you keep loosing your hair trying weave it, color it and or braid it does not give you license to be concerned about how I style mine."
Anywho... the following week she asking me to write down some product recommendations while we were in church.
Healthb4Length
New Member
when I was in highschool this random chick that I ain't even know just came by and tugged my hair...really hard (it hurt for like a hour) she wanted to test how real my hair was...it was only 3 inches past my shoulders nothing wonderful...and I get this one all the time "you know people with your texture hair usually don't get that lenght hair...you got good hair." that just irks me that's why don't even bother wearing my hair straight sometimes
erplexed ...I wonder what they'll be saying when I'm waistlenght!
erplexed ...I wonder what they'll be saying when I'm waistlenght!
moda
New Member
Once I went to a new salon to get fingerwaves and a french roll (it was 12 years ago). At the time my hair was to my bra stap and natural. Well my hair was up in a high ponytail. As I go to sit down in the girl's chair and wait for her, she just kinda looks at me crazy, then she comes over and says "aren't you going to take your hair out", I said "well I took the hair ball out", she says "no this, as she goes to tug at my hair" 
"I am sorry I thought that was a piece". I was dumbfounded, I had never realized people thought my hair was fake. After all that this chick screwed up my hair, I looked a hot mess when I left there, I had to return the next day and allow another stylist to fix my hair. I should have known when she thought my hair was fake that she did not know anything about hair
"I am sorry I thought that was a piece". I was dumbfounded, I had never realized people thought my hair was fake. After all that this chick screwed up my hair, I looked a hot mess when I left there, I had to return the next day and allow another stylist to fix my hair. I should have known when she thought my hair was fake that she did not know anything about hair 
Mariaat40
Well-Known Member
This is more of a naysayer story than a hater story. When I first decided to grow my hair it was damaged and mid neck length. My girlfriend, whose a former stylist, had been doing my hair for maybe 6 months. I searched the internet and found the hair boards. I told my girlfriend that I had decided to grow my hair long. She said, "You and everybody else." Now she marvels at how long my hair is.
brownhaired_bonanza
New Member
I realize that I am not allowed to complain to my mother about my hair because she then says "cut it all off and you won't have a problem anymore"! I don't reply. I just give her this look: But my moms is not a hater. Bickering is what mothers and daughters are supposed to do.
But my moms is not a hater. Bickering is what mothers and daughters are supposed to do. 
melodee
New Member
My mother, as sweet as she is, was never one for haircare. I didn't know alot about which products to choose and techniques. She taught me that the hairdresser knows best. Well, they don't always know best.
Whe I was a little girl and I teased my little brother for his unkept afro, I remember her saying that my brother's hair was "nicer" than mine. That one stuck like superglue all these years. I can understand what she meant, but my brother's lack of maintenence of his hair to me makes for "not so nice" hair.
My hair had been stuck at 17 inches form the hairline for the entire time I went to that salon. She always cut my hair to the same place just below the shoulders. She always raved about my sister's long curly hair and it always made me feel like my more tightly coiled hair could never get any longer. I am still struggling with the notion that my hair is at it's growth limit. Although my hair is now about 6 inches longer than it was when i started, I feel it's at a standstill. I'm currently battling dryness-another story.
People mainly refrain from any complements now, with a few exceptions. My ends are just at the brastrap currently. But I know they notice when I wear it curly and someone says "did you cut your hair?"
Whe I was a little girl and I teased my little brother for his unkept afro, I remember her saying that my brother's hair was "nicer" than mine. That one stuck like superglue all these years. I can understand what she meant, but my brother's lack of maintenence of his hair to me makes for "not so nice" hair.
My hair had been stuck at 17 inches form the hairline for the entire time I went to that salon. She always cut my hair to the same place just below the shoulders. She always raved about my sister's long curly hair and it always made me feel like my more tightly coiled hair could never get any longer. I am still struggling with the notion that my hair is at it's growth limit. Although my hair is now about 6 inches longer than it was when i started, I feel it's at a standstill. I'm currently battling dryness-another story.
People mainly refrain from any complements now, with a few exceptions. My ends are just at the brastrap currently. But I know they notice when I wear it curly and someone says "did you cut your hair?"
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