Girl, I hear you and can TOTALLY relate. I hate my hair so much because it grows so slowly that I wouldn't mind putting it way for a whole year!! Yet, I can't even keep a weave in for 3 weeks! My hair has not grown any longer than it was in 12/08 and I have been doing protective styles, lol. My hair is natural, never worn it in a fro, only straighten once (if that much) per month, keep the back up, eats well, exercise, dc..., damn, I could go on and on......... Just typing this is getting me pissed, lol.
If this keeps on happening, I might just have to relax it out and call it a day. I don't recall going through this SLOW growth when I was relaxed. I would love to stay natural but short hair is too unflattering on me, and the potential of going another two years at shoulder is right there in the back of my head. I am not thrilled about that at all.