TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
...have you ever had one of those people in your life that you constantly say "if only?"
Here's my situation.... I have known a SUPER nice guy for two years. We met on new year's eve 2008, and though he was really nice and easy to talk to, 1) he wasn't my "type" , and 2) The ink on my divorce papers was still wet, and I wasn't even THINKING about a man at the time. Anyway, we kept in touch (did I mention he lives 3000 miles away). During the entire time we were communicating, I made it VERY clear that I just wasn't into him.
I found out during our intermittent conversations that he was rather...comfortable-so comfortable that he flew me and two friends out to Las Vegas the following New Year's Eve (first class-all expenses paid) and we partied VIP style the whole time. We again got along very well, but I was stuck on him not being my "type" again. However, through the convincing of my traveling buddies, I tried to give him a chance, and for the next four months, he wined and dined me and really treated me well. We never could move past the "friend" level because he wasn't my "type"...
So why is he not my type?... He weighs 320 lbs!!!!! That is not a rough estimate! I have seen the scale with my own eyes. I was VERY honest with him about why we couldn't be more than friends. I tried to sugar coat it by saying I didn't want to get all wrapped up in him only for him to die early of some weight-related complication, but he got my drift.
Here's the thing... he has ALWAYS been there for me. He has ALWAYS supported me in whatever decisions I have made in life. He has nursed me through my most recent break up and been the sweetest person. I can't get past his weight.
I weigh 115 lbs. soaking wet with a brick in each pocket, and I work out at LEAST 5 days a week. I get so frustrated watching him eat. It's like slow suicide, and he doesn't seem to be bothered by it.
My mom says I am being too superficial, but 320 lbs? Am I a bad person for feeling this way? They say its what's on the inside that counts, but that's just GROSS. Thoughts?
Here's my situation.... I have known a SUPER nice guy for two years. We met on new year's eve 2008, and though he was really nice and easy to talk to, 1) he wasn't my "type" , and 2) The ink on my divorce papers was still wet, and I wasn't even THINKING about a man at the time. Anyway, we kept in touch (did I mention he lives 3000 miles away). During the entire time we were communicating, I made it VERY clear that I just wasn't into him.
I found out during our intermittent conversations that he was rather...comfortable-so comfortable that he flew me and two friends out to Las Vegas the following New Year's Eve (first class-all expenses paid) and we partied VIP style the whole time. We again got along very well, but I was stuck on him not being my "type" again. However, through the convincing of my traveling buddies, I tried to give him a chance, and for the next four months, he wined and dined me and really treated me well. We never could move past the "friend" level because he wasn't my "type"...
So why is he not my type?... He weighs 320 lbs!!!!! That is not a rough estimate! I have seen the scale with my own eyes. I was VERY honest with him about why we couldn't be more than friends. I tried to sugar coat it by saying I didn't want to get all wrapped up in him only for him to die early of some weight-related complication, but he got my drift.
Here's the thing... he has ALWAYS been there for me. He has ALWAYS supported me in whatever decisions I have made in life. He has nursed me through my most recent break up and been the sweetest person. I can't get past his weight.
I weigh 115 lbs. soaking wet with a brick in each pocket, and I work out at LEAST 5 days a week. I get so frustrated watching him eat. It's like slow suicide, and he doesn't seem to be bothered by it.
My mom says I am being too superficial, but 320 lbs? Am I a bad person for feeling this way? They say its what's on the inside that counts, but that's just GROSS. Thoughts?