Getting offended that others think your hair is a weave...

[exoticmommie]

OK, so I use to get offended when I read others getting offended about people thinking there hair was a weave...

That is until I looked in the progress thread ediese made. You chicks should be ashamed of yourself for getting mad.

The hair in that thread is sooooo beautiful what else do you expect? The hair in that thread looks BETTER than a weave, so much so that it's unbeweavable.

Great job ladies.

 

[Miss AJ]

I have never gotten offended by that question lol. My hair wasn't even that long the last time I got weave checked, i think I was at full SL. The only thing that offended me was her feeling for tracks AFTER I already told her it was not a weave.

 

[4evershika]

I SO wouldn't be annoyed when I get to the point where ppl start wondering if my hair's a weave!

 

[happylife]

i dont get offended. its no big deal for me.

kinda rather they would assume or ask instead of touching.

 

[varaneka]

well it's annoying because its stereotypical connotations

plus some ppl don't just assume

they weave check

 

[cch24]

I just had an experience similar to this two days ago. I have been bunning my hair for over a year and rarely wore it down. I straightened it for Christmas and took a picture of myself, and made it my profile picture on Facebook. I received nothing but complimentary comments for a few days, and then a girl posted "look at you with your extra hair! welcome to the dark side". Now I haven't had my hair down in a while, and I could see why someone would think it was a weave. I have nothing against weaves, I wore one for 6 weeks in the beginning of my hair journey and I didn't like not being able to reach my scalp. I was very angry about this comment only because I have had several conversations with the girl about how I was growing my hair out and how much it had grown. She only posted on my picture to put doubt in other peoples minds about my hair. I was really angry, and corrected her politely under the picture, and then sent her a message asking why she did that. I informed her that I had a goal in mind, I did the research, I made sacrifices, and I have reached one of my goals, and NO ONE will question me about my hair. Period.

Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[Miss AJ]

I just had an experience similar to this two days ago. I have been bunning my hair for over a year and rarely wore it down. I straightened it for Christmas and took a picture of myself, and made it my profile picture on Facebook. I received nothing but complimentary comments for a few days, and then a girl posted "look at you with your extra hair! welcome to the dark side". Now I haven't had my hair down in a while, and I could see why someone would think it was a weave. I have nothing against weaves, I wore one for 6 weeks in the beginning of my hair journey and I didn't like not being able to reach my scalp. I was very angry about this comment only because I have had several conversations with the girl about how I was growing my hair out and how much it had grown. She only posted on my picture to put doubt in other peoples minds about my hair. I was really angry, and corrected her politely under the picture, and then sent her a message asking why she did that. I informed her that I had a goal in mind, I did the research, I made sacrifices, and I have reached one of my goals, and NO ONE will question me about my hair. Period.

Thanks for letting me vent!

You handled that very well. I wish I could check people with class. I'm a ticking time bomb so I shoot first, ask questions later lol.

 

[charmtreese]

My SIL thought that I was wearing a weave the other night...if felt good to be like "NOPE this is all me"!!! However, I can see how one might feel insulted by someone assuming that they are wearing a weave!

 

[a_shoe_6307]

It never bothered me. When I was BSL I use to get weaved checked all the time. Last time I was checked I was in AZ about 2 yrs ago and a women walked up to me in the mall and asked me where I got my weave done at.

The only thing that bothered me was when people would put there hands in my hair to "check" for themselves.

 

[Taina]

I'm happy when somebody -anybody - pays attention to my hair.

 

[MilaXs3]

My own mother weave checked me the last time I wore my hair down!! I PS 95% of the time and only wear it down for length checks after relaxers and it's right back in a bun the next day...this time she caught me with it down and ran her fingers in my scalp, "is this a weave" she asked ...and at the time I was about two inches from APL...not what I consider long at all...I would rather someone just ask instead of putting their hands in my hair tho...that is what would offend me, I don't like people touching me let alone putting their hands in my hair!

 

[delitefulmane]

I was kinda at first when I went to hug one of my closest friend and she weave-checked me. I was like "did you just weave check me?" She was like "yeah." But knowing her that meant my hair was getting longer and looked health for her to want to doubt my growth!

I am only offended when people touch my hair! One of my pet peeves is having other people all in my head!

 

[BostonMaria]

You handled that very well. I wish I could check people with class. I'm a ticking time bomb so I shoot first, ask questions later lol.

Blahahaha! Mental note: be nice to Miss AJ

cch24, that would have really ticked me off. I'm glad you said something to her though. It was almost as if she didn't believe anything you said to her OR she was drinking some hateraide LOL

well it's annoying because its stereotypical connotations

plus some ppl don't just assume

they weave check

Yeah that's where I draw the line between a compliment and somebody just being ignorant

i dont get offended. its no big deal for me.

kinda rather they would assume or ask instead of touching.

I had a co-worker ask me if I was wearing extensions. I said no and then kindly asked him not to do that again. Another black woman would've punched him in the gut LOL He's so lucky he asked ME and I wasn't PMSing that day.

 

[Miss AJ]

LOL @ Maria: I promise I'm a sweetheart, but I get my temper from my real dad and his nickname was C4...press one button and he blew up lol.

This has never happened to me, but I would be uber offended if someone asked if my hair was real before or after asking if im "fully black".

 

[BostonMaria]

LOL @ Maria: I promise I'm a sweetheart, but I get my temper from my real dad and his nickname was C4...press one button and he blew up lol.

This has never happened to me, but I would be uber offended if someone asked if my hair was real before or after asking if im "fully black".

I'm the other way around, I get offended when I tell people I'm Dominican and they assume that my hair is this long because I'm Latina. In the meantime I couldn't grow my hair past shoulder length for 25 years LOL But somehow I'm genetically prone to grow hair past my waist at the blink of an eye. Wish somebody had told me that mess 20 years ago

Oh and before I forget, my scalp was molested LOL back in the summer time by a good friend that hadn't seen me in months. She kept sticking her hand in my hair. I was really surprised at her behavior. She's a sweet girl with 3a curls and I honestly think she was surprised that I was able to grow my hair faster than hers. How you like them sour apples? LOL

 

[Miss AJ]

Lol, my bff is Dominican and her mom saw a picture of me on her Myspace when my hair was longer and I could hear her on the phone one day practically yelling in Spanish that I GOTTA have white in me somewhere lol I kept saying I was all black but she just wasn't having it lol. I'm still trying to break my friend of the good hair/bad hair crap.

 

[FNP-2009]

I tell them "Why yes! It is a weave" Especially if the dye job is growing out and they can see the roots!
Don't really care what others think (negatively, not the good stuff....I LOVE that!!!)

 

[ellebelle88]

Most people know that my hair isn't a weave because I never really have my hair neat like a weave. I stretch relaxers and since I only get about 3 a year, most of the time you can see my new growth. Usually before the end of the day, it's a big frizzy mess...weave doesn't frizz up and poof out like how my hair does. BUT! When I have just gotten a relaxer, boy do the weave checks start. I get them the most when I am giving someone a hug...many of them act like they are patting my hair but I know the deal. I can't lie though, I do get a small amount of hidden satisfaction from this.

 

[tri3nity]

I love it when people assume that I wear a weave. One of my most famous stories is I was in an Anna's Linen and I could hear these women on the other aisle arguing. One was saying that is not that girl's hair and the other one was saying I do believe it is. I hit the corner with my basket and told them "yes it's all me" they couldve just about died. I smiled and kept shopping.

 

[Naphy]

When I had longer hair, this happened to me. But in a way, I kinda like it, because it doesn't mean that your hair look cheap & fake, but rather that it looks full, shiny and well maintained.
I can't wait to go back to that state =D !!!

 

[SouthernStunner]

I dont know how to feel about this one. I got weave checked!!! Yes, I should be happy but I got checked by my 6yr old in front of the YT babysitter.

My twist out was on point and it was not the fact of it being long cause it wasnt I am only a little past collar bone but it was shiney (henna treatments).

So my son says in front of this lady: "mommy your hair is pretty is that a weave or a wig?"

I said its my hair, and he pulls me forward to check my scalp!
I laughed it off but when we got in the truck I gave it to him

I said boy dont you ever ask a women about her age, weight, or hair!

 

[taj]

Absolutely NOT, I've always been told that and I take it as a compliment.

 

[LaidBak]

How can we get offended in a post "Good Hair" world? I am at a new job location and the men I work with (who saw Chris Rock on Oprah) asked me if my hair was a weave. And I'm only CBL! I told them no and that allowed them to feel comfortable enough to ask me their hair related questions.

 

[ellebelle88]

How can we get offended in a post "Good Hair" world? I am at a new job location and the men I work with (who saw Chris Rock on Oprah) asked me if my hair was a weave. And I'm only CBL! I told them no and that allowed them to feel comfortable enough to ask me their hair related questions.

That's great that this movie is helping to open up the doors for discussions about hair within the black community.

 

[goodmorningruby]

I love it when people assume that I wear a weave. One of my most famous stories is I was in an Anna's Linen and I could hear these women on the other aisle arguing. One was saying that is not that girl's hair and the other one was saying I do believe it is. I hit the corner with my basket and told them "yes it's all me" they couldve just about died. I smiled and kept shopping.

This irks me. At least you can respect the people who have the courage (or the temerity?) to approach a person about an issue that directly concerns them. Even if someone is rude when they approach me about my hair at least that person went to the source and didn't speculate about it in a full blown conversation on the sidelines with another person in a public setting when they think I have bricks for ear drums!

And don't get me started on the ones who just straight up invite themselves to play massage therapist with their potentially dirty fingers all up in a scalp. It's like...okay, you're curious, I understand that. But was it really necessary to violate my personal space, especially without my consent? Is it that serious? Not to mention the entire situation is painfully awkward.

Sure, anyone can make it their business to find out if my hair is real or not, but I'm down to check anyone who crosses that line.

 

[Traycee]

I'd rather people ask than molest my head....Also I hate when black women do ask..You tell them its your hair and they don't believe you and say things like ..I know a weave a mile away...Hahahaha.

The question by itself..Is your hair a weave..Doesn't bother me...Its the people that take it too far..

 

[wannabelong]

I got weaved check during Christmas by my older sister. I didn't mind being weave checked, I actually expected it. However, I got annoyed when she put both hands through my hair and messed up my hair style. This is the second time she's done that.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

I was so happy that my mom kept asking me at Christmas if my hair was all mine. I am not even APL yet. She did not weave check me but she asked a couple of times if it was my own hair and then she commented, a couple of times, about how healthy my hair looked. She even commented about growing out her own hair and using whatever I'm using.

My mom keeps a super short Halle Berry cut, has for most of my life BEFORE Halle Berry stepped on the scene, so for my mom to comment about growing out her own hair was amazing. I cannot wait to hit BSL.

My own mother weave checked me the last time I wore my hair down!! I PS 95% of the time and only wear it down for length checks after relaxers and it's right back in a bun the next day...this time she caught me with it down and ran her fingers in my scalp, "is this a weave" she asked ...and at the time I was about two inches from APL...not what I consider long at all...I would rather someone just ask instead of putting their hands in my hair tho...that is what would offend me, I don't like people touching me let alone putting their hands in my hair!

 

[Shun34]

Maybe it's just me, but I think it is rude to ask someone if she is wearing a weave. I would NEVER ask someone that. I might tell her she has nice hair and ask where she got it done. If she is being honest, she will tell me the origin of her hair.

 

[bellebebe]

Girl, when people ask me about my hair, I get so happy because it's all mine. They wanna touch my scalp and junk. I let them and that makes me feel so proud of myself.