GET OVER HIM!!!

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SouthernTease

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My friend called me last night...
crying about this dude...
what's new... right?
Anyway... sometimes I get
frustrated with my friends and I just
say MOVE ON... GET OVER IT...
HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU
but that's easier said then done...

In the past, what's worked for me is...
1 - I've changed my number and phone so that I couldn't
call him and he couldn't call me. - CUT HIM OFF COLD TURKEY.
2- I found another dude.
3- I found a hobby and just devoted all my time to it,
but that didn't work because when I got bored with
the hobby I started dating the LOSER again :ohwell:

So my question is... how do you get over a guy???
 
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The easiest way to get over an old man is get under a new one

(jk)

All I can say is time. Nothing else really works for me.
 
The thing that worked for me is don't take his calls. When he comes to visit (espcially late at night) I don't answer the door. Nine times out of ten I'm out with my friends celebrating the fact that I got rid of that dead weight. I know it's easier said than done believe me. But once you get in the habit of doing it, it will be nothing.
 
Cold turkey or nothing if I really want to get over him. I think half the battle is with the self and actually wanting to make the change. Sometimes you don't get over someone b/c you don't want to get over them:perplexed.

Other things that work...
Listening to alot of Keyshia Cole songs
Working out, and thinking of how he's gonna regret letting you go when he sees you looking hot
Getting a really good compliment(you can't really make this one happen, but when it does it's an automatic spirit lifter)
Just letting it out(venting does wonders for the soul no matter what form it takes)

I have a ton more b/c I'm always having to get over some man :look:
 
bLackButtaFly said:
Cold turkey or nothing if I really want to get over him. I think half the battle is with the self and actually wanting to make the change. Sometimes you don't get over someone b/c you don't want to get over them:perplexed.

Other things that work...
Listening to alot of Keyshia Cole songs
Working out, and thinking of how he's gonna regret letting you go when he sees you looking hot
Getting a really good compliment(you can't really make this one happen, but when it does it's an automatic spirit lifter)
Just letting it out(venting does wonders for the soul no matter what form it takes)

I have a ton more b/c I'm always having to get over some man :look:
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Okay, so keep going...;)
 
I get over a guy by hanging out with my girls!:D We have so much fun just laughing and talking ( and meeting other men!!!!)...by the end of our day I'm like, "What's dude's name again?":lol:
 
To elaborate on the cold turkey thing, 60 day minimum no contact. Trust me. And if after that you still want to pursue him...I don't know what to say. Maybe another 60, :ohwell:.

Sleeping on it ( b4 you pick up the phone, take a nap, or go to bed instead)
Getting a manicure, or pedicure
Going out on a date
Getting yourself a present(something that you have had your eye on for a minute)
Do not overeat(you'll only feel worse, the food isn't filling your soul)
Flirting with someone else
Going out
Painting, or doing any activity that you've been meaning to try (after my last breakup, I took up running, which turned into a 5k, a 10k, and now a triathlon)
Talking about it (only to people you trust. A willing ear from a good friend is a great tool for getting over the hump)
Prayer and/ or church
Writing(in a diary, in a letter to your ex(but don't send it), you can look back at it later and see how far you've come)
Mirror mantras(I write something positive a quote, a positive thing about myself, on my mirror and I change it once a month. I don't say it everyday, but I see it when I look in the mirror and it does help, my new one for august is "I'm not bringin sexy back, b/c sexy never left":look: I'm a dork; i know)
Giving someone else a chance (I'm not saying get crazy, but there's nothing wrong with going out w/ a guy you wouldn't usually after a breakup. Even if it's a bad date you have a great story, and you never know)
Declutter your space
Getting a little tipsy w/some trust worthy friends (NO drunk dialing though)
#1 thing to help me get over the hump Doing something new to my hair, getting a blow out, color, cut whatever just so I look a little different, and can reclaim my cuteness:);)

Is that enough?:look:(these are some little shallow things just to get over the hump, and the dry season that sometimes follows.)
 
I like the lyrics to that Katharine McPhee song “Over It.” I think she really hits the nail on the head with ending a relationship! “Wanting you to be wanting me…no that ain’t no way to be..Moving on, it’s my time…you never were a friend of mine. Hurt at first a little bit, but now I’m so over it!”

I also think you have to take the time to get over a person. Sometimes, we just try to say “get over it,” but you really have to move on. And rebound relationships wouldn’t work for me. I just take my time to mourn and then I can move on.
 
bLackButtaFly said:
To elaborate on the cold turkey thing, 60 day minimum no contact. Trust me. And if after that you still want to pursue him...I don't know what to say. Maybe another 60, :ohwell:.

Sleeping on it ( b4 you pick up the phone, take a nap, or go to bed instead)
Getting a manicure, or pedicure
Going out on a date
Getting yourself a present(something that you have had your eye on for a minute)
Do not overeat(you'll only feel worse, the food isn't filling your soul)
Flirting with someone else
Going out
Painting, or doing any activity that you've been meaning to try (after my last breakup, I took up running, which turned into a 5k, a 10k, and now a triathlon)
Talking about it (only to people you trust. A willing ear from a good friend is a great tool for getting over the hump)
Prayer and/ or church
Writing(in a diary, in a letter to your ex(but don't send it), you can look back at it later and see how far you've come)
Mirror mantras(I write something positive a quote, a positive thing about myself, on my mirror and I change it once a month. I don't say it everyday, but I see it when I look in the mirror and it does help, my new one for august is "I'm not bringin sexy back, b/c sexy never left":look: I'm a dork; i know)
Giving someone else a chance (I'm not saying get crazy, but there's nothing wrong with going out w/ a guy you wouldn't usually after a breakup. Even if it's a bad date you have a great story, and you never know)
Declutter your space
Getting a little tipsy w/some trust worthy friends (NO drunk dialing though)
#1 thing to help me get over the hump Doing something new to my hair, getting a blow out, color, cut whatever just so I look a little different, and can reclaim my cuteness:);)

Is that enough?:look:(these are some little shallow things just to get over the hump, and the dry season that sometimes follows.)
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Thanks bLackButtaFly!
 
read this book! its great and super funny:

it's called a break up because it's broken.

it helped me tremendously, i just got out of a 3 year 2 weeks ago. this book really lifted my spirits!
 
I have always been social, so there weren't long periods where I didn't have another man waiting on the side. But if I am truly ready to get over it, I remove his number from my phone. I don't remember numbers at all if they aren't in my cellphone and I don't answer numbers that don't come up with names, unless I am expecting a new call....Its always worked for me...
 
e$h said:
Yeah but what if you have kids with this guy?
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I think only a handful of people here can say that they have had to get over someone whom they loved completely and had that love returned and were completely matched for each other, but things just didn't work out. The rest of us have this person as an ex for a reason. My ex-husband tries to give me the puppy dog eyes now and I just am not feelin it or fallin for it at all and we have a daughter together. In a very unemotional way, I reflect on the madness that was our relationship and where I am now and ask myself would I ever want to go back to that. The answer every time is no.

I do have to see him on a pretty consistent basis, but I am loving my life right now so I am unaffected by him. Maybe that is the key, do things to make your own life fulfiled.
 
SouthernTease said:
My friend called me last night...
crying about this dude...
what's new... right?
Anyway... sometimes I get
frustrated with my friends and I just
say MOVE ON... GET OVER IT...
HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU
but that's easier said then done...

In the past, what's worked for me is...
1 - I've changed my number and phone so that I couldn't
call him and he couldn't call me. - CUT HIM OFF COLD TURKEY.
2- I found another dude.
3- I found a hobby and just devoted all my time to it,
but that didn't work because when I got bored with
the hobby I started dating the LOSER again :ohwell:

So my question is... how do you get over a guy???
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I feel the same way as the bolded.

I used to cry over a guy but I stopped that. I used to say, here I am crying over him but is he doing the same thing or out with the next chick.

Emotionally, I am an on and off switch. I can hate you in an instant.

Go out and find the next dude and a back up for that dude.
 
The best way to get over a guy is to replace him with another one! That's what they do to get over us! Staying busy also helps! Sometimes we women need to be unemotional like men...
 
nu_nu_2002 said:
ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT! And find other things to do.
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I would say this too...but it has been years since I was dumped by my ex, and I still haven't gotten over it. I think it's because he was the most romantic,gentle guy I ever met.

So to answer the question, the only way you can get over a guy you were IN LOVE with is to find someone who is even better! :cry:
 
sunnydaze said:
I think only a handful of people here can say that they have had to get over someone whom they loved completely and had that love returned and were completely matched for each other, but things just didn't work out. The rest of us have this person as an ex for a reason. My ex-husband tries to give me the puppy dog eyes now and I just am not feelin it or fallin for it at all and we have a daughter together. In a very unemotional way, I reflect on the madness that was our relationship and where I am now and ask myself would I ever want to go back to that. The answer every time is no.

I do have to see him on a pretty consistent basis, but I am loving my life right now so I am unaffected by him. Maybe that is the key, do things to make your own life fulfiled.
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Loves it! I am definitely working towards that.
 
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