bluewater01
New Member
I don't post often, but I wanted to know if other people have observed this...
I got married last year (at the age of 30) and I swear I am treated differently by a lot of people. There are friends of mine that I have not heard from since announcing that I was getting married as well as people who have treated me better. The reason that I mentioned my age is because I had a chance to experience being single for a good long while so I was able to tell the difference more clearly than if I had married at an earlier age.
I notice in general when out and about shopping or what have you, people tend to treat me with more respect than they used to.
In particular, I have an aunt that prior to me getting married would always point out in a negative way that I was not married yet. I also never really heard from her my whole entire life and she never tried to form a relationship with me. The only time that I would speak with her was at family reunions/get togethers, etc.
When I got married that all COMPLETELY changed. She began sending me cards and letters saying that she would like to get together for lunch some time. Just recently, she sent an e-mail saying specifically that she can now add me to her Christmas card/anniversary/birthday contact list because I am grown up and now married. (She actually said exactly that in the message.) She asked me for my current address, cell number and birthday so that she will be sure to send me something. WTF? Is she saying that now that I am married that I am more of a person worthy of attention and acknowledgement? I am slightly offended by that. I mean why wasn't I worthy of respect and attention when I was not married? I'm still the same person!
That really had me wondering. Has anyone else experienced something like this?
I got married last year (at the age of 30) and I swear I am treated differently by a lot of people. There are friends of mine that I have not heard from since announcing that I was getting married as well as people who have treated me better. The reason that I mentioned my age is because I had a chance to experience being single for a good long while so I was able to tell the difference more clearly than if I had married at an earlier age.
I notice in general when out and about shopping or what have you, people tend to treat me with more respect than they used to.
In particular, I have an aunt that prior to me getting married would always point out in a negative way that I was not married yet. I also never really heard from her my whole entire life and she never tried to form a relationship with me. The only time that I would speak with her was at family reunions/get togethers, etc.
When I got married that all COMPLETELY changed. She began sending me cards and letters saying that she would like to get together for lunch some time. Just recently, she sent an e-mail saying specifically that she can now add me to her Christmas card/anniversary/birthday contact list because I am grown up and now married. (She actually said exactly that in the message.) She asked me for my current address, cell number and birthday so that she will be sure to send me something. WTF? Is she saying that now that I am married that I am more of a person worthy of attention and acknowledgement? I am slightly offended by that. I mean why wasn't I worthy of respect and attention when I was not married? I'm still the same person!
That really had me wondering. Has anyone else experienced something like this?