Ivonnovi
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I stumbled upon this gem of a topic, and was intrigued. Your Thoughts?
ETA: Usually Victims feel "stuck"... this could have overwhelming and long lasting effects
But anywho, now I am working on recovering and found myself amazed at how this plays into how I currently handle anxieties, phobias, and stress . Retail therapy anyone?
I DIDN'T see a thread on this when I searched so I figured I start one.
Financial abuse prevents victims from acquiring, using or maintaining financial resources. Financial abuse is just as effective in controlling a victim as a lock and key. Abusers employ isolating tactics such as preventing their spouse or partner from working or accessing a bank, credit card or transportation. They might tightly monitor and restrict their partner’s spending. Victims of financial abuse live a controlled life where they have been purposely put into a position of dependence, making it hard for the victim to break free.
Read more at: http://purplepurse.com/get-the-facts/about-domestic-violence/about-the-invisible-weapon
Financial abuse often begins subtly and progresses over time. The aim of financial abuse, as with other forms of abuse, is to gain power and control in a relationship. Financial abuse along with emotional and physical abuse, manipulation, intimidation and threats are all aimed at getting and maintaining control over another person. The purpose is to trap them in the relationship.
Financial abuse is a tactic used to control relationships by preventing access to money or other financial resources. It might include:
Read more at: http://www.bwss.org/resources/econo...nderstanding-financial-abuse-safety-planning/
Huffington Post Blog entry: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ginger-dean/financial-abuse-6-signs-a_b_5627463.html
Unfortunately this type of abuse can be seen in other relationships too such as Parent/Child.
Your Thoughts and TAG suggestions are welcome!
Rejected [reasonable] tags include: Financial abuse, Domestic Violence, Abusive relationships, abuse, finance
ETA: Usually Victims feel "stuck"... this could have overwhelming and long lasting effects
I was also taken aback when I realized that "I" had been a victim of this; AND THAT due to some somewhat predictable outcomes I've never really recovered. Over the past few years, I have been consciously working to change my relationship with money.
SIDEBAR:
About 2 years ago we were discussing a book titled: The Key's to The Kingdom, by Allison Armstrong. She also has an audiobook titled: In Sync With The Opposite Sex: Understand the Conflicts. End the Confusion. Make the Right Choices., in which she talks about a mindset of Scarcity [in dating].
SIDEBAR:
About 2 years ago we were discussing a book titled: The Key's to The Kingdom, by Allison Armstrong. She also has an audiobook titled: In Sync With The Opposite Sex: Understand the Conflicts. End the Confusion. Make the Right Choices., in which she talks about a mindset of Scarcity [in dating].
- As she put's it with this Scarcity-of-Men mindset women will “ twist and contort ourselves to be what we think that man wants. We may often sacrifice what will make us happy to keep this man.”
- Off hand I can't remember exactly what she said that made me make the connection between that and how I handle money or make financial choices; but suddenly it Clicked.
But anywho, now I am working on recovering and found myself amazed at how this plays into how I currently handle anxieties, phobias, and stress . Retail therapy anyone?
I DIDN'T see a thread on this when I searched so I figured I start one.
Here are 2 Definitions of Financial Abuse; (Their full articles provide awesome insight):
Financial abuse prevents victims from acquiring, using or maintaining financial resources. Financial abuse is just as effective in controlling a victim as a lock and key. Abusers employ isolating tactics such as preventing their spouse or partner from working or accessing a bank, credit card or transportation. They might tightly monitor and restrict their partner’s spending. Victims of financial abuse live a controlled life where they have been purposely put into a position of dependence, making it hard for the victim to break free.
Read more at: http://purplepurse.com/get-the-facts/about-domestic-violence/about-the-invisible-weapon
AND:
Financial abuse often begins subtly and progresses over time. The aim of financial abuse, as with other forms of abuse, is to gain power and control in a relationship. Financial abuse along with emotional and physical abuse, manipulation, intimidation and threats are all aimed at getting and maintaining control over another person. The purpose is to trap them in the relationship.
Financial abuse is a tactic used to control relationships by preventing access to money or other financial resources. It might include:
- Controlling how money is spent
- Withholding money or “giving an allowance”
- Withholding basic living resources, medication or food
- Not allowing their partner to work or earn money
- Stealing their partner’s identity, money, credit or property
- May justify behaviour as cultural.
Read more at: http://www.bwss.org/resources/econo...nderstanding-financial-abuse-safety-planning/
Huffington Post Blog entry: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ginger-dean/financial-abuse-6-signs-a_b_5627463.html
Unfortunately this type of abuse can be seen in other relationships too such as Parent/Child.
Your Thoughts and TAG suggestions are welcome!
Rejected [reasonable] tags include: Financial abuse, Domestic Violence, Abusive relationships, abuse, finance
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