LovinLea What setback are you having? I'm relaxed and bleach and color.
My setbacks were
- Imma try low maintenance routine and detangle once a week
- Oh Mega Tek is growing out hair faster? Let me try that
- Silicon Mix has a lot of slip - Let me use that as my leave-in, dc, co-wash and moisturizer
- Who really needs trims
- Yea I can trim my hair myself with these kitchen shears
-Everyone is using WEN, Imma get Hair1 from Sallys :burning:
-Joico is popular lets try thaterplexed
-I know this conditioner says 5 to 10 minute - but Imma leave it on overnight and get EXTRA conditioning
- Oh yeah and that one time I melted off all my bangs because I bleached and relaxed - that was totally my fault and I knew better
I'm going to the salon to get a trim.
I'm bored with this new color, so let me bleach it and dye it a different color.
I'm getting braids so I can leave them in for______months and not have to do my hair.
I'm getting a deva curl cut.
Getting wrapped in youtube videos or haircare routines where people blowdry.
I will sit here with my mouth hanging open, thinking that if I just lightly blowdry to stretch my hair, I can then style with no problem, just like so-and-so.
Well, no ma'am! I know from experience that all it takes is one blowdry and it's a wrap; breakage ensues from there.
And to make it so much more ridiculous on my part, I am only blowdrying to put my hair in a protective style, which is all I wear anyway.
Guess what? I haven't touched a blowdryer in at least two years and my hair has thanked me. Almost got hypnotized by a couple of youtuber's over the past week and I had to give myself a quick dose of reality:
"THAT DOESN'T WORK FOR YOU SO STOP TRYING TO CONVINCE YOURSELF IT WILL!!!"
Rookie me around the end of 2010: "Oooh her hair is so pretty and long, she says she uses bentonite clay to make her hair shiny and thick."
"I'm going to try this"
*Goes to Sally's to look for bentonite clay, stumbles upon Queen Helene Mint Julep Masque, reads ingredients*
:scratchch
*skips happily out of Sally's*
*goes home to shampoo hair, then proceed to slather half a jar of "bentonite clay" in my hair and leave in for 2 hours*
*goes to rinse, and it won't rinse*
I had to shampoo my hair for a whole hour to get that crap out, my hair was so dry and brittle. I had to deep condition 3 times a week over the course of a month to make my hair feel soft again.
"I wanted to try this new stylist/salon that I had never been to before...."
"She said I needed a trim......"
"She told me I needed a relaxer....."
"She told me stretching was bad...."
"I knew she was---- being too rough/left the relaxer on too long/was cutting too much/had the iron too hot/didn't neutralize me properly----- but I didn't say anything. Just paid and left......."
"I asked her to just clip my ends....."
"She wouldn't tell me what she was using on my hair but it didn't feel right......"
Ugh!!!! If I had a dollar for every setback post that started with one of those.....
Oh my gosh, this right here! I swear anytime I see a natural wash her hair w/o sections I'm like "It can be done!" Attempt it, then have the nerve to get mad when it comes out like a matted ball of wet string on my head.-Hey that youtube guru washed her 4a-b hair without sections! She just washed straight down! Im gonna try that too
"...and then she based my scalp with listerine..."
"My boyfriends ex is a liscensed cosmetologist...."
"I can't get my 4a hair straight. I'll go to the Dominicans."
"This product makes my dog/cat/horse/chubaca's cost really shiny. Hmm...."
"Ooh, I got so many compliments when I flat ironed my hair, let me do that every week!!!"
Fast forward 3 weeks later and my hair dried out like the Mojave Desert and started breaking like crazy. That was in December and I haven't looked at my flat iron since. A no direct heat regimen is the only way to go for my fine strands.
Rookie me around the end of 2010: "Oooh her hair is so pretty and long, she says she uses bentonite clay to make her hair shiny and thick."
"I'm going to try this"
*Goes to Sally's to look for bentonite clay, stumbles upon Queen Helene Mint Julep Masque, reads ingredients*
:scratchch
*skips happily out of Sally's*
*goes home to shampoo hair, then proceed to slather half a jar of "bentonite clay" in my hair and leave in for 2 hours*
*goes to rinse, and it won't rinse*
I had to shampoo my hair for a whole hour to get that crap out, my hair was so dry and brittle. I had to deep condition 3 times a week over the course of a month to make my hair feel soft again.