I'm not WI, so maybe it's different culturally. But I am Southern, and it's rude to stay in bed and not eat when your host has cooked breakfast. It's double rude to go out for breakfast when your host has already cooked it. It sounds like she may have been hyped up by some gossip/talk going on behind your back, and also feeling slighted by you not eating or at least helping with cooking. It would have been better to offer to make some grits or to eat the breakfast without grits.
Also, your comment to her husband... I would have kicked you out, too, though. Just being honest. Even if it was true.
Don't stay at abusive and critical family members' houses. The only person you can control is you....so you take yourself out of the abusive environment. Period.I have a question based on the comments/advice. Let's say that Ganjababy didn't want to go out to eat and was respectful the entire time? How else would someone handle a rude, nosy, busybody bad mouthing you in front of your husband besides leaving? I never understood people that do this. What is the point of it? To shame her into behaving the way she wants? To get her husband to leave her? What is the real goal when someone does this?
And my family is from the south like someone else mentioned and when staying at relatives you do have to get up and have breakfast with them because they have opened their home and are trying to be good hosts so I get it. However, there are a handful of people in my family that will cook whatever they want (with no regard for their guests which they have every right to do but do I really have to make myself sick eating their disgusting food all in the name of being polite?!) And then if you stay in a hotel you'll never hear the end of it because that's rude too! Damn, managing people's feelings is such a minefield. Even when - in fact especially when! - you are a decent and polite person.
We left early the next morning. Dh wanted to go to a hotel as soon as uncs said to leave his house. That was the only time he opened his mouth. But I wanted to annoy uncs so I refused to leave. Also I could see myself getting emotionally hysterical if I left. At least my aunt put her foot down regarding that.
I should never have gone to her house. I honestly feel that some of my family members think that i should be treated like crap by by husband and I feel as if my aunt is projecting her feelings onto me. She actually said in jest that I needed a beating from my husband. No joke.
When I confronted her she said it was a joke. I took her word because I knew that she would kill her husband before she allowed him to beat her. But over the years he has beaten her spirit with all his affairs. Now she is happy with him because he is all whored out.
I hate when people try to police others' marriage...in front of the spouse. That is disrespectful imo. And like @LdyKamz said, what is the point of this?
From your post ganja, it seems like your aunt was mostly upset that you weren't up helping her in the kitchen, cooking for your husband. Moreso than simply not eating the breakfast she prepared. So, even if yall had ate the breakfast she'd prepared, she still would've disrespected yall by talking bad about you around the breakfast table. So why have breakfast with someone like that anyway? I wouldn't have ate her damn breakfast neither.
People are commenting that what you said to your aunts husband was disrespectful. Lol. Was what he said to you first, in front of your husband, not disrespectful? What were you supposed to say back? Ok thanks? He said he didn't like how you treat your husband and you basically replied with well i don't like how you treat your wife. That seems perfectly reasonable to me.
I understand your husband not saying anything to your aunt. I feel like the onus of defending is on the blood relative. Did your husband at least talk ish about her/ them in private, to you?
He said we are all crazy
I could be wrong but, I don't think anyone had a problem with her response back to the uncle in that manner, only the not leaving the house part. I could be wrong. I can say, I know I only spoke of disrespect in that sense. But in her response to his shenanigans? I died laughing on that part becauseI hate when people try to police others' marriage...in front of the spouse. That is disrespectful imo. And like @LdyKamz said, what is the point of this?
People are commenting that what you said to your aunts husband was disrespectful. Lol. Was what he said to you first, in front of your husband, not disrespectful? What were you supposed to say back? Ok thanks? He said he didn't like how you treat your husband and you basically replied with well i don't like how you treat your wife. That seems perfectly reasonable to me.
I understand your husband not saying anything to your aunt. I feel like the onus of defending is on the blood relative. Did your husband at least talk ish about her/ them in private, to you?