"extreme Self Care"

[Belle Du Jour]

I've come across this phrase in some of the relationship books/audio that I'm reading/listening too. The basic idea is that you have to take care of yourself FIRST. No one should be waiting to do "X" until she is in a relationship. Basically loving and taking care of yourself generates good feelings which create a magnetic happiness from the inside.

So I'm just curious: what are some ways you love yourself and boost your own happiness/confidence? How often do you do these things?

 

[Belle Du Jour]

My examples:
Traveling
Mani/pedi
Facials
Buying new skincare products
Buying new makeup
Buying a feminine item of clothing
Doing something educational or artistic
Cooking for myself

 

[LiftedUp]

I ensure that I look good every time I step out the house. Even if it's not fully made up have it together etc good, it's natural looking glowy skin neat good. People tend to treat women who look like they have it together well. Men may call it high maintenance but they treat you as such.

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I ensure that I look good every time I step out the house. Even if it's not fully made up have it together etc good, it's natural looking glowy skin neat good. People tend to treat women who look like they have it together well. Men may call it high maintenance but they treat you as such.

Men usually pretend to not like "high maintenance" women but secretly they love it. They love all the girly and feminine ways we are so different from them even if they tease us about it.And yes--how they meet you is how they figure they have to keep you! He will either step up of step off

 

[FemmeFatale]

I'm a firm believer of this and I exude it and I think my SO was definitely attracted to that quality of me. I workout religiously, my nails, feet, skin, hair, garden etc are very well maintained. I take my vitamins, green powder and drink tons of water daily. I go to the Korean spa to relax and deep clean. There's more detailed stuff but that's the bulk of it. I don't believe in being run down with stress and lack of self care. Now one thing I have to remember is to consistently wear my jewelry..My left piercing closed up on me and I reopened it and put my diamond studs back on, talk about an instant boost!

 

[brownb83]

The sentiments have already been echoed but I truly believe that a extreme health care starts with diet and exercise. After that it's grooming, proper clothing, hair grooming, nails skin etc.

I believe these things help you to love yourself since you are the focus. Lack of self care is often a symptom of other issues.

 

[SpiritJunkie]

• Bi-weekly mani & pedi
• Hair done
• Meditation
• Massage
• Make sure my face is done up
• Healthy eating

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I'm trying to keep reinforcing for myself that a healthy diet and regular exercise are actually examples of self-care. I think they are the foundation to a sound mind/body. I'm cooking much more for myself these days or eating "healthy" fast food (i.e. grilled chicken from TJ's with steamed spinach) instead of making excuses to go buy food at a restaurant. I was getting up at 5:30am to exercise and I think I'm going to start doing that again tomorrow.

 

[BrownSkin2]

Reading books magazines on money, health, travel
Reward yourself with a gift when you get a promotion at work
Treat yourself to a nice dinner at your favorite restaurant once a month
or date night with yourself to movie and dinner.
Facials/Massage/mani-pedi once a month
Travel to a different place a few times a year.
Learn about art & culture.
Work out / Eat healthy / get a personal trainer.
Keep your favorite tea, coffee/cream, wine stocked.
Call/ talk to your mom, sister and best friend weekly.
Have your house professionally cleaned every quarter.

 

[Lucie]

I adore this topic! *iPhone emoji eye hearts*

I have fresh flowers delivered on schedule.

I adore Journelle lingerie and buy new lingerie every two months.

I light my Burberry candles when I want to feel fancy.

I get my hair and nails done professionally once a month.

I work out 3-5 times a week and eat clean 3 weeks out of the month. That least week is tough, LOL.

I make sure my home, work space and car are lovely.

I put my phone on Airplane mode when I need to focus deeply.

 

[JustDoIt]

Love it!

I read for self care.

Workout and eat well

Need to work on looking amazing each time I leave home as well as doing my hair consistently

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I adore this topic! *iPhone emoji eye hearts*

I have fresh flowers delivered on schedule.

I adore Journelle lingerie and buy new lingerie every two months.

I light my Burberry candles when I want to feel fancy.

I get my hair and nails done professionally once a month.

I work out 3-5 times a week and eat clean 3 weeks out of the month. That least week is tough, LOL.

I make sure my home, work space and car are lovely.

I put my phone on Airplane mode when I need to focus deeply.

I like your style.

I buy flowers a few times a year--probably not nearly enough.

I've been saying for a while that I want to upgrade/update my lingerie--for myself.

I love Diptyque candles.

 

[FemmeFatale]

I think catching up with family and friends once a day and sharing a good laugh is important, it keeps you connected.

 

[Lucie]

I like your style.

I buy flowers a few times a year--probably not nearly enough.

I've been saying for a while that I want to upgrade/update my lingerie--for myself.

I love Diptyque candles.

Thank you. I don't go to Trader Joe's much anymore and upgraded to a florist in my area. I like her arrangements.

I love undies and candles!

 

[Belle Du Jour]

Thank you. I don't go to Trader Joe's much anymore and upgraded to a florist in my area. I like her arrangements.

I love undies and candles!

I usually get mine from TJs. I never thought to get flowers sent regularly. That sounds like something out of a forgotten era, lol, so classy.

 

[Atdow71]

I adore this topic! *iPhone emoji eye hearts*

I have fresh flowers delivered on schedule.

I adore Journelle lingerie and buy new lingerie every two months.

I light my Burberry candles when I want to feel fancy.

I get my hair and nails done professionally once a month.

I work out 3-5 times a week and eat clean 3 weeks out of the month. That least week is tough, LOL.

I make sure my home, work space and car are lovely.

I put my phone on Airplane mode when I need to focus deeply.

I buy flowers every pay period from TJ's and they make me so happy when I walk into the house.

 

[caribeandiva]

I love fresh flowers!! I buy them once in a while but I will get them delivered on schedule in the future though. Thanks @Lucie !
-I get my nails done every 3 weeks. My hair every 3 months (will bump it up to once a month eventually).
-I take walks in nature even if it's just a beautiful local park.
-I do my makeup daily because it helps me feel put together. And I dress up as much as I can. Looking cute is good for the soul.
-I started exercising and meditating today. My goal is 3 times a week for now until I can get to 5 times a week.
-I take myself out on dates and do whatever I feel like whether that be explore a nearby town or shopping plaza, browse in a bookstore, lay on a blanket watching the clouds at the park, go to the museum or my favorite restaurant ALONE.
-I've started using my daily planner religiously and the peace of mind it gives me is amazing!
-I do wanna add regular waxing appointments and dance classes too in the future. Once I get debt free then I can REALLY start living it up!

 

[Fine 4s]

But who waits though? I need an example of waiting because I can't believe any woman is saying "when I get a man, I'm getting more manis" or whatever. I'm not gonna lie, I'm slightly more motivated when I have someone. And then I know women who let them self go when they do have a partner. I'm just lazy either way really....

OAN- you know what I don't do much of? Those solitary activities, walking in the park, sitting in the park etc. if there's nothing to actually DO or SEE I really don't do it. People who leave their homes just because it's a nice day confuse me lol what are you going to DO? I'm so weird....

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

Lately I look like who did it and please don't do it no more! I am using the excuse of I don't have a man and there are none available so why bother? And my herniated disk is my reason I can barely walk let alone work out so I guess I am waiting.

 

[Fine 4s]

About candles- I've only recently discovered them. But I saw a show on Dr Oz some years ago about the fact that what we're breathing in isn't good for the lungs or body. So if you buy "healthy" candles, can you make recommendations please?
The person on the show said that you can add essential oils for sent. But those artificial candle scents are so good though!
Anyway, recs please.

 

[FemmeFatale]

About candles- I've only recently discovered them. But I saw a show on Dr Oz some years ago about the fact that what we're breathing in isn't good for the lungs or body. So if you buy "healthy" candles, can you make recommendations please?
The person on the show said that you can add essential oils for sent. But those artificial candle scents are so good though!
Anyway, recs please.

I use Voluspa candles which are made out of coconut wax. They're gorgeous, safe and smell amazing.

 

[sarumoki]

Aww, you guys are making me jealous. I love flowers, but the way these allergies are set up...

 

[Browndilocks]

My very first thought for extreme self-care is bathing and showers. Great showers and baths really do something good for me psychologically. I think I inherited the affinity from my mother who loved bathing and body care products. When I am feeling down I shower twice a day even if I have to force myself. It helps me to snap out of it. When I have a job that I hate (which has been many ), I put in the effort to smell extra lovely after a morning shower. Aside from being an obvious hygienic necessity, it is a very cheap way to psyche yourself up, unwind, or reassure yourself that you can and will start over. Feeling this way IMO opens the door for me to want to put more effort into other things such as hair and makeup. I even thought about doing an empties video on it.

 

[phynestone]

I'm not sure if I would place this under extreme self-care as I do a lot of things for myself, but I buy flowers for myself several times a year. Traveling. More time in prayer and meditation.

Manis, pedis, getting my hair done goes along with regular grooming. Even though it may seem small to me, the little things play a major role in my overall confidence.

 

[sapphire74]

Looking for more self care ideas!

 

[InBloom]

Looking for more self care ideas!

Thank you for bumping this...it screams at me right now

 

[InBloom]

I'm in a slump and I admit I don't do as much self-care as I should.

I am great in some areas, but slack in others.

I'm slack in the emotional self-care area....

The previous posts are wonderful ideas, and there are a few more things I'd like to get into the habit of doing for myself.

Consistent meditation
Journaling at the end of the day to purge troubling thoughts
Shop for pretty clothing more often (I get lazy and don't feel like going through the motions)
Wear my favorite perfume daily
Fancy up my baths (candles, bubbles, music)
Spa treatments/massages
Fiction (instead of investigative or heavy topics)
Play games (Hunt a Killer; board games) with others in a group setting
Solo trips to the movies
Play hooky from work (not habitually, lol)

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I have become a Sephora skin care junky...hey it beats emotional eating and leads to a side benefit of youthful skin LOL.
I'm loving my oil diffuser and use it almost daily.
I'm doing whatever it takes to pamper myself and stay light and stress free!

 

[Belle Du Jour]

@Lucie how do these prices compare to your local florist? http://www.bloomsybox.com/weekly-flower-delivery
I'm thinking $81 bi-weekly isn't a bad price?

 

[JustDoIt]

Bump!