ever feel like people are more attached to you hair then you are?

[honeisos]

I was thinking about doing the Big chop sooner then I said I was...
And my pal had a fit .... she was like "noooooo don't do it "

Over the years this has been said to me many times over the years by diff. friends... I'm like what does it matter to you ??

I was never one to be scared to cut/color my hair or try a new style.. I get bored very easy ...

my friends always have a fit .... I'm like ...it will grow back!
One of them told me one time .. " maybe it won't next time"

"ok , crazy " I told her ... "it's my hair , and it will be ok"

 

[ThickHair]

Yes, I did the BC and told no one before hand. You would have thought that I killed some one. "How could you cut all that pretty hair?" "It will never grow back". I could not believe what people were saying. Well as the years went on, I have 3x's as much hair natural as I had relaxed and I had a lot of hair then. Some people ask me was I going to cut my natural hair, I said I may I may not, it is only hair and it WILL GROW back. It will definatley be gone by the time I am 40, so I am 33 right now, I got 7 more years before my Camille Cosby hair.

 

[musiclova]

I can relate ladies. Every time I cut my hair my parents and friends would ask "Why did you do that?" or really catch an attitude. I would respond the same as you all and say " It's hair. It will grow back." It always puzzles me when people react this way because they really act like it is the end of the world. I just cut my hair again and people made remarks like "All that pretty long hair" or " But her hair was sooo long" lolol They kill me with that. Like my hair is doomed because I cut it.

 

[honeisos]

Yes, I did the BC and told no one before hand. You would have thought that I killed some one. "How could you cut all that pretty hair?" "It will never grow back".




LOLOLOL.... I have heard this one too....I think we have the same friends ! LOL

 

[pookeylou]

I am so feeling you on this! You are in my head. I had this experience once before when I cut my mid back length hair right before back surgery 8 or 9 years ago. My mamma cried harder than anybody. Like somebody died!

That's why I didnt even tell anybody when I was going to do the BC. I just did it. I didnt want to hear their mouths.

 

[brickhouse]

I dated a guy back in 93 or 94 and I told him I was cutting my hair and he told me that I should not cut it since it was my best feature. He is now ancient history.

 

[myco]

My friends are like that, both male and female. They start acting like they need to stage an intervention or something. One friend told me that she didn't want me to cut my hair because I was proof that black women can have long hair without weaves.

 

[UmSumayyah]

When I was little I used to never want my aunt to cut her hair. She was natural (still is) and it was so long and fluffy. She used to let me get a brush and brush it like she was my doll. Whenever she talked about cutting it I would get upset.
1) I couldn't play in it anymore, but also I think that as I got older,
2) I didn't think I could ever have long hair so I really enjoyed hers.
3) I love long hair in general, I still don't like to see women cut their hair unless they are 100% positive about it. A friend of a friend was saying she was going to cut her hair off and go natural. I advised her to be positive. She cut it, and then ended up relaxing it again after a few weeks. I was like, all that hair gone for nothing! That's why when people BC I really hope they stay natural for a long while, otherwise it seems like a waste.

But mostly I'm concerned with my own head.

 

[Nefertiti0906]

Yeah I can relate. Back in '99 when I had a perm and bra-strap hair, I constantly felt that way. I felt much better after I chopped my hair off. It took away the "fake ones" who were obsessed about my hair length, but then again, it brought on the people who were obsessed with being natural/neo-soul