CarLiTa
Well-Known Member
Sigh.
So this male friend wrote a note on facebook complaining about "the chase."
He is saying that if a woman doesn't think that HE is worth chasing after, then he has no business chasing after HER
ANYWAY
Then a girl replied saying that women think they should be won over and that they expect men to do their part in the chasing [UM, DUH!] but she then added, that IT'S NOT THE WAY IT SHOULD BE...
so I had replied saying that if a guy initiates interest in a woman, and she is interested, then she should give him some indication that she is interested, then he can know that he can continue to pursue. That's just my opinion. From then on, once interest has been confirmed on both sides, then it can be a 50-50 thing or whatever.
Apparently some of the males who replied think that if a woman is acting "cool", then is she just TRYING to look smart about the whole thing.
I can't believe these dudes think they should be chased... the girl thinks there should be equality in everything. I assume she means paying for dates too!
it's so funny, because I used to think like that... but thank goodness for LHCF. I learned that if you are trying to let a man think you can do everything, then, SOME just might LET you do EVERYTHING, and then come the complaints about him not reciprocating enough, etc.
Yup, I also learned that through experience, sure enough.
Seems like some men want to forgo their roles!
Sigh. What do you all think? What do you think about this "equality" business in dating?
I'll give my answer... yes this is the 21st century, and I can make my own money, blah blah, am independent (or somewhat), but you STILL need to be calling, you STILL need to be paying for dates.
So this male friend wrote a note on facebook complaining about "the chase."
He is saying that if a woman doesn't think that HE is worth chasing after, then he has no business chasing after HER
ANYWAY
Then a girl replied saying that women think they should be won over and that they expect men to do their part in the chasing [UM, DUH!] but she then added, that IT'S NOT THE WAY IT SHOULD BE...
so I had replied saying that if a guy initiates interest in a woman, and she is interested, then she should give him some indication that she is interested, then he can know that he can continue to pursue. That's just my opinion. From then on, once interest has been confirmed on both sides, then it can be a 50-50 thing or whatever.
Apparently some of the males who replied think that if a woman is acting "cool", then is she just TRYING to look smart about the whole thing.
I can't believe these dudes think they should be chased... the girl thinks there should be equality in everything. I assume she means paying for dates too!
it's so funny, because I used to think like that... but thank goodness for LHCF. I learned that if you are trying to let a man think you can do everything, then, SOME just might LET you do EVERYTHING, and then come the complaints about him not reciprocating enough, etc.
Yup, I also learned that through experience, sure enough.
Seems like some men want to forgo their roles!
Sigh. What do you all think? What do you think about this "equality" business in dating?
I'll give my answer... yes this is the 21st century, and I can make my own money, blah blah, am independent (or somewhat), but you STILL need to be calling, you STILL need to be paying for dates.