Well actually I only read different opinions, no impositions at all but I guess for you both have the same definition?
The only people you (general you) can actually IMPOSE anything about hair choices or anything else for that matter, is yourself and your children IMO.
Other than that, people have
their own opinions about hairstyles, types, textures, acceptance, being natural, definitions, conceptions etc.
Unless you feel COMPELLED to embrace and act upon somebody else's perception of acceptance of your natural hair, nobody imposes you anything by a mere response to a thread.
For instance if in a thread about healthy lifestyles I say that : "everybody should exercise everyday for at least 30 mn for health benefits" (that's an example cuz I sure don't
).
Are you going to feel that I'm imposing this on you?
No. Because it's
an opinion and you have
the choice to either:
-agree and do it
-agree and don't do it
-disagree and do it /don't do it
-partially agree and do it / don't do it
-challenge my definition of "health benefits" / exercise
-state that exercise is not mandatory in a healthy routine
etc...
Correct me if I'm wrong but are you telling me that I shouldn't have expressed what happens in my real life with my family?
Well my hair is not virtual you know ...
it is on my real head, in my real life... people in reality see it everyday and they're judging it positively and /or negatively.
So I did answer the question about embracing my natural hair. Very clearly in fact:
I think that my natural hair is beautiful, healthy and I love it.
I LOVE everything about my hair. But I mean AY-VUR-HEY-FING: The texture, the type (4a/b), the options, the hairstyles, the length (though I've not reached my goal yet), and yes, even the knots.
Why? Well seriously, I would have to write pages to answer that question. So I'm just gonna sum up by saying that :
My natural hair enabled me to find my true complete self in ways I just could have never imagined.
Therefore I can say that I fully embrace my natural hair and I will not relax. That's my opinion.
I'd be an hypocrite to say something different than what I truly believe.
I also did pay 13 something $ to be able post my opinion here...
I did it
politely and
will continue to do so.
So I don't really see why I should refrain, just to not "offend" anybody who
would not agree with me.
Ok now about the "raw state debate".I read EVERY SINGLE POST before answering, I always do. Especially if I'm going to say anything else than my own opinion.
What I gathered from Msa's / Jennboo's posts is that : if someone feels the
need to ALWAYS alter their hair from their raw state.
If they cannot stand, they won't accept their hair without any kind of alteration (products, heat etc.),
If they are UNABLE to see the beauty of their natural raw hair, just for what is.
If they vainly keep trying to achieve a hairstyle / hair state their hair was just NOT meant to achieve because of its type / texture,
THEN there must be an underlying issue.
Because to truly accept your natural hair, you need to love it EVEN when (and not ONLY when) it's totally naked.
Why? Simply because it is what grows out of your scalp... it is YOU... if that's not good enough reason, what is?
Which DOES NOT mean that blowdrying your hair = hating yourself.
( I completely understand and agree and feel the same!!)
What I gathered from your post is that: You've been natural for about 15 years. You know about everything there is to know about YOUR hair (and I believe you because it's be-ouh-tee-foul
)
You know what your hair is in it's natural(raw or not) state looks like, feels like and acts like because you've been dealing with it on a daily basis for more than a decade.
You don't hate your hair (and nobody even IMPLIED you do) at all but do not keep your hair in its raw state, mostly because it's much easier for you to deal with it (
I completely understand and agree, and do the same!!)
Many people have tried to tell you that you are saying the same thing than they are... with all due respect, I think your mind got stuck at the "raw state" statement and you "refused" to read what was written...
But it's human to get defensive when we feel threatened/ insulted / judged negatively....
That's why I advised not to take someone's opinion so seriously.
There! I'm out.