shespoison
Well-Known Member
***Vent
I have had a male best friend for almost 15 years. It started out as a middle school crush but we didnt date until my senior year of high school. He was my prom date bla bla bla. We dated off and on for maybe a year but we both ended up in serious relationships with other people and have been friends ever since. We are so close my sisters call him their brother. We slept over each others houses and all the other things you do with a really close friend.
Last year, when I broke up with my ex he said something that made me ask "are you in love with me?" his response was "maybe". But honestly I kind of knew by the way he treated me and did things for me not even my family would. Last month I ended up sleeping at his house because I was in my hometown for a funeral. I was supposed to sleep at my friend "Dee's" house but she didnt pick up when I called.
As we were laying down he held me for a sec and I squirmed away because it was awkward because by now, I see him like a brother. He tells me that he would not even try to date me now, he would wit until all his sh*t was together because he could never have a casual relationship with me. It would be a prelude to marriage and he would have to provide for me. I just listened as I always do when he is saying things I cant reciprocate.
So I went on vacation out of the country for 2 weeks and on the last day i find out he is dating one of my best girl friends. It pissed me off and I am not entirely sure why. I want to be happy for them but it is just soooooo awkward for me. And when he is telling me how it started he had the ****** nerve to say hanging out with her is like hanging out with meerplexed
I told Dee it pissed me off and she claims she didnt remember that we dated, even though she went to prom WITH us and I spent my teenage years talking about him. She claims that I dint tell her about his recent attempts to talk to me. But I am pretty sure I mentioned it. Whenever I visited her in my hometown it would be him that came and picked me up to take me out to eat and drop me back off.
I sent him a text saying that it was awkward and why would he say all those things to me and then date my close friend. He didnt respond to me until she confronted him. And then denied saying all the things he said. I just hung up on him because I was in disbelief. It is hard to explain the closeness we have had all these years but for him to lie about sh*t he said 2 days ago just pissed me off. It feels like he tried to replace me with my friend who he perceives is just like me. It feels disgusting.
There is so much more to this story that makes it even more twisted but I will stop there.
I have had a male best friend for almost 15 years. It started out as a middle school crush but we didnt date until my senior year of high school. He was my prom date bla bla bla. We dated off and on for maybe a year but we both ended up in serious relationships with other people and have been friends ever since. We are so close my sisters call him their brother. We slept over each others houses and all the other things you do with a really close friend.
Last year, when I broke up with my ex he said something that made me ask "are you in love with me?" his response was "maybe". But honestly I kind of knew by the way he treated me and did things for me not even my family would. Last month I ended up sleeping at his house because I was in my hometown for a funeral. I was supposed to sleep at my friend "Dee's" house but she didnt pick up when I called.
As we were laying down he held me for a sec and I squirmed away because it was awkward because by now, I see him like a brother. He tells me that he would not even try to date me now, he would wit until all his sh*t was together because he could never have a casual relationship with me. It would be a prelude to marriage and he would have to provide for me. I just listened as I always do when he is saying things I cant reciprocate.
So I went on vacation out of the country for 2 weeks and on the last day i find out he is dating one of my best girl friends. It pissed me off and I am not entirely sure why. I want to be happy for them but it is just soooooo awkward for me. And when he is telling me how it started he had the ****** nerve to say hanging out with her is like hanging out with meerplexed
I told Dee it pissed me off and she claims she didnt remember that we dated, even though she went to prom WITH us and I spent my teenage years talking about him. She claims that I dint tell her about his recent attempts to talk to me. But I am pretty sure I mentioned it. Whenever I visited her in my hometown it would be him that came and picked me up to take me out to eat and drop me back off.
I sent him a text saying that it was awkward and why would he say all those things to me and then date my close friend. He didnt respond to me until she confronted him. And then denied saying all the things he said. I just hung up on him because I was in disbelief. It is hard to explain the closeness we have had all these years but for him to lie about sh*t he said 2 days ago just pissed me off. It feels like he tried to replace me with my friend who he perceives is just like me. It feels disgusting.
There is so much more to this story that makes it even more twisted but I will stop there.