"Does your hair grow?"

[locabouthair]

If someone said this to you, how would you react?

Someone said this to me and all I said was that I just cut my hair, which I did.

But later on, I was thinking dont they know hair always grows, what type of question is thaterplexed

But I think I was overreacting a little bit. I didnt say anything though.

 

[beans4reezy]

I would use this as an opportunity to educate. I would say, "yes, my hair does, but I struggle with retaining what I grow". Let's face it, we are going to be hit with these kinds of questions a lot as AA women. No need to get in a huff, just use this as a chance to provide another view point to someone who doesn't already know what our issues are in regards to hair care.

 

[locabouthair]

I would use this as an opportunity to educate. I would say, "yes, my hair does, but I struggle with retaining what I grow". Let's face it, we are going to be hit with these kinds of questions a lot as AA women. No need to get in a huff, just use this as a chance to provide another view point to someone who doesn't already know what our issues are in regards to hair care.

This person is black with MBL almost WL hair so I didnt see the point of explaining hair care practices.

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

If the person is trying to be rude I would ask them the same question or bring up something I know they're insecure about or makes them uncomfortable. Its always the people with glaring inadequacies that have comments to make.

If she's your friend or something and she's saying this then explain to her that hair always grows and you're trying to retain length better.

 

[locabouthair]

I would ask them the same question or bring up something I know they're insecure about or makes them uncomfortable. Its always the people with glaring inadequacies that have comments to make.

This person didnt understand why I was wearing half wigs. And they were bothering me about it for while. I dont why people are so interested in my hairerplexed

The whole reason I'm wearing this wig is because the stylist didnt wash out the perm properly, it fell out and I had to cut my hair. I didnt say all of that though.

Honestly I avoid talking about hair outside out the board. I've always been known as the girl with the "bad hair" so I never talk about it.

 

[beans4reezy]

This person is black with MBL almost WL hair so I didnt see the point of explaining hair care practices.

If she's asking the question or making the assumption that Black women can't grow hair, then MBL hair or not, she needs to understand the distinction between growth and retention.

If she is deliberately trying to be rude, and you are certain of this, then proceed to tear her a new one.

 

[SND411]

I would say:

Is the sky blue?
Do leaves change colors with the seasons?
Do bees sting?
Do birds chirp?
Does gravity exists?
Does the sun shine?
And go on and on until they walk away lol

 

[IDareT'sHair]

Loca: IA with BMP. Girl, Just Blow that Mess Off and KIM. You are doing a Great Job with Your Hair, and Hair Care Practices.

You are very transparent about your challenges and you make every attempt to overcome them. You are handling your healthy hair-care journey extremely well.

Don't let that comment discourage you. Just keep doing what you're doing. You know We All Got Your Back Here.

Girl, IK There are some days I look at my Po' Head and think:erplexed

It's Only Going to get better, it has to. And that's what helps keep me motivated to do that next conditioning treatment, plan that next weekly wash-day regimen, research that next product, drink that extra glass of water, etc....

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

This person didnt understand why I was wearing half wigs. And they were bothering me about it for while. I dont why people are so interested in my hairerplexed

The whole reason I'm wearing this wig is because the stylist didnt wash out the perm properly, it fell out and I had to cut my hair. I didnt say all of that though.

Honestly I avoid talking about hair outside out the board. I've always been known as the girl with the "bad hair" so I never talk about it.

I'm so sorry about that sweetie

Growing up as a type 4 I was told regularly I had "bad hair" too but when my hair got long suddenly I'm dismissed as having "good hair" so that will be your experience too as long as you stick to this.......just watch. I hope you no longer go to that "stylist" maybe you should look into self-relaxing, there are many ladies on youtube wo have vids on doing that, like kami

Next time she comes out her face ask her a blunt question about something that makes her uncomfortable to make her have a taste of her own medicine.

 

[IDareT'sHair]

This person didnt understand why I was wearing half wigs. And they were bothering me about it for while. I dont why people are so interested in my hairerplexed

The whole reason I'm wearing this wig is because the stylist didnt wash out the perm properly, it fell out and I had to cut my hair. I didnt say all of that though.

Honestly I avoid talking about hair outside out the board. I've always been known as the girl with the "bad hair" so I never talk about it.

1st Bolded: Because they can 'see' it bothers you. When I lost all my Hair and I was getting the Side-Eyed Looks.....I just talked about what happened, tried not to look/act uncomfortable. Although, I wanted to 'hide' under a Rock, because I didn't cover it up. But I worked it. (or thought I was)

2nd Bolded: You know my Story. We have basically the same one. You were one of the first LHCF's to Embrace Me (and Comfort Me) when I first Joined back in April. I'd be brief and KIM. I would never show how bothered I was my their stares or their questions AND/OR Helpful "suggestions" about..... "girl you should, girl, if i was you i would"....."

3rd Bolded: And in My Case, it was the total opposite. Even though, I've kept it in shorter 'styles' since College, I was always questioned, stopped in stores, restaurants etc...about my Hair, Hairstyle, where I got it done, was it a 'wig' etc.....until I lost it allerplexed So, that was incredibly Humbling and Totally Devastating At the Same time.

But As Bachelorette use to say: Haters Gon' Hate Now, those same people are looking at me like: "Girl, You DID Said You were Going to Grow Your Hair Back" and/or "Girl, Whatever you're doing it sure is working."

That's why I say: KIM Sis.

 

[SelahOco]

She was trying to hurt you, I think. Some people are blunt, others are just rude. Don't let her get into your head. People will find any little weakness to prey upon, b/c it makes them feel more powerful. Don't let Ms. Stupid Question have any of YOUR power.

 

[PrincessLinzz]

I'm so tired of people thinking they can say whatever they want. Ugh.

 

[ChristmasCarol]

That sounded really rude. But, success is the best revenge. Find a good reggie, stick to it and keep your head up. The lady who said that to you has self-esteem issues.

 

[PerplexingComplex]

I would say, "no" and keep it moving.

 

[knt1229]

All the other ladies gave some good advice. But if you want a smarta$$ comeback. Here goes:

Her: Does your hair grow?
You: Does yours?
Her: (with a smirk) I have long hair of course mine grows.
You: (Looking perplexed) Girl I thought that was a weave or extensions....(look her directly in the eye, laugh, then walk away)

Guarantee she'll never question you about your hair again.

 

[locabouthair]

If she's asking the question or making the assumption that Black women can't grow hair, then MBL hair or not, she needs to understand the distinction between growth and retention.

If she is deliberately trying to be rude, and you are certain of this, then proceed to tear her a new one.

I really didnt feel like explaining it.

All the other ladies gave some good advice. But if you want a smarta$$ comeback. Here goes:

Her: Does your hair grow?
You: Does yours?
Her: (with a smirk) I have long hair of course mine grows.
You: (Looking perplexed) Girl I thought that was a weave or extensions....(look her directly in the eye, laugh, then walk away)

Guarantee she'll never question you about your hair again.

Thats a good one

I would say:

Is the sky blue?
Do leaves change colors with the seasons?
Do bees sting?
Do birds chirp?
Does gravity exists?
Does the sun shine?
And go on and on until they walk away lol

Thats what I was thinking.

I'm so sorry about that sweetie

Growing up as a type 4 I was told regularly I had "bad hair" too but when my hair got long suddenly I'm dismissed as having "good hair" so that will be your experience too as long as you stick to this.......just watch. I hope you no longer go to that "stylist" maybe you should look into self-relaxing, there are many ladies on youtube wo have vids on doing that, like kami

Next time she comes out her face ask her a blunt question about something that makes her uncomfortable to make her have a taste of her own medicine.

Thanks. I havent been to the salon in almost 7 months. I do self relax, doesn't come out perfect but I'm working on it.

1st Bolded: Because they can 'see' it bothers you. When I lost all my Hair and I was getting the Side-Eyed Looks.....I just talked about what happened, tried not to look/act uncomfortable. Although, I wanted to 'hide' under a Rock, because I didn't cover it up. But I worked it. (or thought I was)

2nd Bolded: You know my Story. We have basically the same one. You were one of the first LHCF's to Embrace Me (and Comfort Me) when I first Joined back in April. I'd be brief and KIM. I would never show how bothered I was my their stares or their questions AND/OR Helpful "suggestions" about..... "girl you should, girl, if i was you i would"....."

3rd Bolded: And in My Case, it was the total opposite. Even though, I've kept it in shorter 'styles' since College, I was always questioned, stopped in stores, restaurants etc...about my Hair, Hairstyle, where I got it done, was it a 'wig' etc.....until I lost it allerplexed So, that was incredibly Humbling and Totally Devastating At the Same time.

But As Bachelorette use to say: Haters Gon' Hate Now, those same people are looking at me like: "Girl, You DID Said You were Going to Grow Your Hair Back" and/or "Girl, Whatever you're doing it sure is working."

That's why I say: KIM Sis.

I think I do a good job and not letting it show. I dont even mention my setback. They dont know about my hair goals. The person did complement me on my new wig.

I'm sorry the same thing happened to you but Im glad that there is someone that can relate to salon mishaps.

 

[gimbap]

I would've said "What the do you think"

 

[kandake]

I probably would have just given her a look and sad "excuse me" She knows that hair grows.

The comment was rude and kinda mean. Almost like she was purposely trying to take jab at you or something.

 

[LadyRaider]

I've always been known as the girl with the "bad hair" so I never talk about it.

Well that sux. That kind of stuff is all in your head you know. I was raised to think I had "good" hair. Now I'm realizing my hair ain't all that, but I still have that core of confidence. So it's all about self perception. I hope you can shake that off!

 

[teysmith]

sound like one of those chicks that got themselves some long hair and think they just on top of everyone with short hair.

I had a friend/coworker who is always bragging on her hair...one day she walked by me me and was just flapping her hair everywhere in a showoff kind of way..then she was like "jealous?" I was like "no..If I wanted long hair I would grow my mines"... her response was "It wont grow!!"

 

[locabouthair]

sound like one of those chicks that got themselves some long hair and think they just on top of everyone with short hair.

I had a friend/coworker who is always bragging on her hair...one day she walked by me me and was just flapping her hair everywhere in a showoff kind of way..then she was like "jealous?" I was like "no..If I wanted long hair I would grow my mines"... her response was "It wont grow!!"

WOW!!!!!! Loving your hair is a good thing but to rub it in others people's faces is just wrong. That girl has issues. erplexed

 

[teysmith]

WOW!!!!!! Loving your hair is a good thing but to rub it in others people's faces is just wrong. That girl has issues. erplexed

girl I hope your not talking about my avatar picture....girl I was weaved up!! I'm only neck length..I wish that was my hair...

 

[locabouthair]

girl I hope your not talking about my avatar picture....girl I was weaved up!! I'm only neck length..I wish that was my hair...

No I meant its okay for that girl to like her hair, but to flaunt it in other peoples face is just wrong and mean.

 

[teysmith]

No I meant its okay for that girl to like her hair, but to flaunt it in other peoples face is just wrong and mean.

oops!!!LOL! I thought it read.."WOW LOVING THE HAIR"

 

[LadyRaider]

This hair thing is all and good, but people that interested in bragging about their hair need to get their priorities straight. How's the education on these girls?

 

[Tarae]

I would've said no and went about my business. I'm not the one who feels the need to "educate" people about (Black) hair, especially when I don't feel that their inquiries are genuine.

 

[30something]

"Does your hair grow?"
"Does your brain think?"

 

[BostonMaria]

What a stupid question. I don't understand why people mask their rude comments by turning them into questions. Blah. Tell her to kick rocks.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

from my own experiance. i used to be called bald headed. teased all the time that i had no hair. so when i got on my mission to grow it, i wore only half wigs everyday, some days i wore them crooked lol.....didnt put it on right. i didnt careee what people thought of my hair!!!! cuz i knew one day i would have mbl hair... now im sitting back with the last laff, and so will youuuu. ihad bald spots too. and my bf asked me, "does your hair grow?" i said "does yours?" just keep head upp, other people dont matter

 

[I Am So Blessed]

i think she just wanted you to praise her hair. thats why she came over to you and asked if yours grew so you could spew over hers and ask her for advice... thats what im thinking