SvelteVelvet
Well-Known Member
Do you think having a list of the things you are looking for and not looking for in a man is a good idea? I think so if it's done right.
So many women repeat patterns in relationships, stick with the same type and put up with same b.s. so why not really make your failed relationship experiences learning experiences by putting pen to pad, reviewing, studying, and creating a system?
Yes I"m serious..
I think this will definately be helpful to women who have no problems getting to know more than one man at a time, or women who get bombarded with men and don't know who to choose. It can even be helpful if you only deal with one by stopping you from committing under false pretenses.
The point of this is to drill it into yourself that you stand for something, so that you don't fall for any ol'thing, waste precious time, or endure further heartbreak.
Start with reviewing your dating history - Note the things you liked, the things you didn't like and prefer and why. Create checklists organized just the way you want and put it away.
When some dude or dudes start tuggin at your skirt or heartstrings, make a copy of the checklists with their name on top. As you go on dates start checkin those bad boys off as you learn info (your style in this is up to you, whether you straight up grill him like Wendy or try to find out in a less obvious manner)
If he's suitable for future dates after the first, start a progress report, dated for the times you see each other and conversate, note whether he calls or if you called and how the convo went, how the date went etc.
You set your own perimeter (make it a good one) of what it will take to get an A B C D or F and send the dude packin or if he's relationship material.
A diary (not journal) of his or their overall stats to take a glance at would be helpful too.
You can revisit and modify your materials based on the experiences as well.
This is no challenge, just an idea I had sitting here. I've been through the ringer with men but still have hope, never bitter. Finding the right one can be a struggle and we don't always have control over chemistry and emotions and the strongholds that can be created..not so good ones. It could help us in not wearing our heart on the sleeves for the wrong guy showing up at the right time.
Men play games. We women need to have game plans.
Should I take my own advice..I'll let you know if it's helped me.
Feel free to add suggestions too.
So many women repeat patterns in relationships, stick with the same type and put up with same b.s. so why not really make your failed relationship experiences learning experiences by putting pen to pad, reviewing, studying, and creating a system?
Yes I"m serious..
I think this will definately be helpful to women who have no problems getting to know more than one man at a time, or women who get bombarded with men and don't know who to choose. It can even be helpful if you only deal with one by stopping you from committing under false pretenses.
The point of this is to drill it into yourself that you stand for something, so that you don't fall for any ol'thing, waste precious time, or endure further heartbreak.
Start with reviewing your dating history - Note the things you liked, the things you didn't like and prefer and why. Create checklists organized just the way you want and put it away.
When some dude or dudes start tuggin at your skirt or heartstrings, make a copy of the checklists with their name on top. As you go on dates start checkin those bad boys off as you learn info (your style in this is up to you, whether you straight up grill him like Wendy or try to find out in a less obvious manner)
If he's suitable for future dates after the first, start a progress report, dated for the times you see each other and conversate, note whether he calls or if you called and how the convo went, how the date went etc.
You set your own perimeter (make it a good one) of what it will take to get an A B C D or F and send the dude packin or if he's relationship material.
A diary (not journal) of his or their overall stats to take a glance at would be helpful too.
You can revisit and modify your materials based on the experiences as well.
This is no challenge, just an idea I had sitting here. I've been through the ringer with men but still have hope, never bitter. Finding the right one can be a struggle and we don't always have control over chemistry and emotions and the strongholds that can be created..not so good ones. It could help us in not wearing our heart on the sleeves for the wrong guy showing up at the right time.
Men play games. We women need to have game plans.
Should I take my own advice..I'll let you know if it's helped me.
Feel free to add suggestions too.