And you sound unrealistic to human nature.
Women keep themselves single. Not stories. No offense taken.
P.S. I don't watch romantic comedies.
Hmm......interesting quote you've mentioned here
CurlyMoo
I'm curious to know more about this. Do you mind elaborating?
I think of how great a guy he is and what exactly makes him great. Rather than daydreaming about our sexual encounters, I find myself reflecting on our interesting conversations.
(Which sounds super boring, I know.)
chronicity
Aww.....that doesn't sound boring at all! I think you've just found your future hubby lol!
I think that unfortunately, Hollywood movies and TV shows have tricked us into believing that whenever you fall in love there will be fireworks and bells and whistles each and every time. This is simply not always true! In fact,a lot of times for women it's quite the opposite!
The only reason why I think you should stick with this guy is because you described him as sharing your same morals and values in life, he's established, and you said that you definitely have an emotional connection to him with GREAT conversations. Honey.....that is awesome! Do you know how many relationships and marriages fail because of a lack of these things in general?
Plus, those butterflies are superficial sometimes. I used to get butterflies ALL the time for a guy who I was super attracted to, but was an awful match for me, and didn't treat me right at times.
Look, if this guy is treating you well, he's attractive to you, you have good conversation with him, you feel "content" around him, and you RESPECT him (which it sounds like you do), then by all means please keep seeing him.
Chasing the elusive butterflies in the stomach and looking for that "perfect 10" keeps most women (especially women of color) single for a very long time...
erplexed
Remember.....women are like ovens, and men are like blowtorches....or, at least according to John Gray's book "Mars and Venus On a Date" lol
(great read btw!
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Hope everything works out for you OP!
He sounds like a lovely guy, and I now firmly believe that it's better for the guy to love you more