Coloring: He calls you a sl*t.... What do you do?

:lachen::lachen: I know quite a few women that like being called slut and B during sex. I guess its their type of role play. Whateva floats ones boat. If they like it I love it.

:look:I'd probably try to cut him!
 
I wish my husband would do it lol. I remember one time I was drunk and wanted him to pretend I was a slutty stranger he found on the street somewhere :look: and it seemed to really bother him.
I would love to be called those kinds of names though.
:look:
 
There are different ways to view and experience sex. When I used to see sex as something dirty or sluttish, that kind of talk could be appealing or tolerable to me because it fitted in with the whole good-sex-is-dirty mindset, but I don't view sex like this anymore.
 
DragonPearl said:
There are different ways to view and experience sex. When I used to see sex as something dirty or sluttish, that kind of talk could be appealing or tolerable to me because it fitted in with the whole good-sex-is-dirty mindset, but I don't view sex like this anymore.
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this is a very interesting pov.

I see sex as alot of things. First and foremost, it is one of our most natural instincts and I feel it should be explored without any inhibitions. There's nothing like having a partner that you feel safe around and can be yourself with. I don't see sex as dirty anymore either, but that doesn't mean that I can't do the role play thing...it's just another facet of the experience. If a woman likes to be tied up by her husband, is it rape even though she gives permission? So why does calling your partner a dirty name count as disrespectful? Especially if it leads to climax?

All in all, I think it's a bit odd to judge what consenting adults choose to do behind closed doors. It's also kind of hilarious that the kinky community makes fun of the "vanilla" sex folks.
 
LOL...this happened once. "Coloring" didnt end because I was mad but because I found it so funny and burst out laughing so the moment was over anyway. :lachen:
 
keyawarren said:
this is a very interesting pov.

I see sex as alot of things. First and foremost, it is one of our most natural instincts and I feel it should be explored without any inhibitions. There's nothing like having a partner that you feel safe around and can be yourself with. I don't see sex as dirty anymore either, but that doesn't mean that I can't do the role play thing...it's just another facet of the experience. If a woman likes to be tied up by her husband, is it rape even though she gives permission? So why does calling your partner a dirty name count as disrespectful? Especially if it leads to climax?

All in all, I think it's a bit odd to judge what consenting adults choose to do behind closed doors. It's also kind of hilarious that the kinky community makes fun of the "vanilla" sex folks.
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I agree with you that sex is one of our most natural instincts, but as socialized human beings, this natural instinct is often colored by the prevailing attitudes of society. If you look at a lot of the words commonly used to describe having sex, those words are quite telling. Freaking. Doing the nasty. Bumping uglies. Creeping. Tapping that ***. Hitting that. Those are not exactly words that describe a natural instinct. There was a recent thread about a celebrity who admitted to sleeping with another celebrity, and both of them were single and unattached, and most posters felt she should have kept her mouth shut, as though she had done something bad or shameful.

As for calling your partner "dirty" name and it leading to climax, do we draw a line or anything goes? What might be acceptable to one person may make the other upset. If a poster said that her White SO likes to call her N#@&er B@#$ when they have sex, this entire forum would explode.
 
MzLady78 said:
@keyawarren and @DragonPearl,

I'm interested to hear why you thought of sex as "dirty", if you don't mind explaining.
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I was raised in a very Catholic environment, plus in my family, sex was not discussed by my parents, only alluded to in hush tones and cryptic statements. Bless their hearts, but they had a lot of hangups about it. Then when I was 12, my mom decided to tell me about the birds and the bees with the intention to scare me enough that I wouldn't have sex out of wedlock until marriage. :nono:

Again, bless her heart, she meant well. Even though I rebelled against these philosophies in my 20s and 30s, it wasn't until I was in my 40s that I began to work at removing these imprints from my mind.
 
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DragonPearl said:
I agree with you that sex is one of our most natural instincts, but as socialized human beings, this natural instinct is often colored by the prevailing attitudes of society. If you look at a lot of the words commonly used to describe having sex, those words are quite telling. Freaking. Doing the nasty. Bumping uglies. Creeping. Tapping that ***. Hitting that. Those are not exactly words that describe a natural instinct. There was a recent thread about a celebrity who admitted to sleeping with another celebrity, and both of them were single and unattached, and most posters felt she should have kept her mouth shut, as though she had done something bad or shameful.

As for calling your partner "dirty" name and it leading to climax, do we draw a line or anything goes? What might be acceptable to one person may make the other upset. If a poster said that her White SO likes to call her N#@&er B@#$ when they have sex, this entire forum would explode.
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There's no "we" drawing the line when it comes to personal private business. If 2 people like swinging from chandeliers in their own home without bothering others...why should it be up to debate by non-participants? So yes, if a black woman likes her white SO to make her pick cotton as foreplay, then so be it. When did it become an issue to me or any of us?
 
backslap him and call him a b%^&h... :grin:

While I don't care for sl*t, dirty talk goes with the territory so bring it...:whip:
 
goldielocs said:
backslap him and call him a b%^&h... :grin:

While I don't care for sl*t, dirty talk goes with the territory so bring it...:whip:
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:grin: thats right!!


Personally, im all for dirty talk and spanking! LOL.....the word slut has never came up but hwy if you gonna dish it out...im dish it back:yep:
 
Its on and poppin. I expect to be called one since that's what I am behind closed doors. :look:
Beats the hayle out of being called "babycakes" #creepy
 
keyawarren said:
There's no "we" drawing the line when it comes to personal private business. If 2 people like swinging from chandeliers in their own home without bothering others...why should it be up to debate by non-participants? So yes, if a black woman likes her white SO to make her pick cotton as foreplay, then so be it. When did it become an issue to me or any of us?
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It's all well and good, but like I said, if someone posted that tidbit of info here about her sexual practices, she would be getting major side eyes and eye rolls from most posters and the whole forum would explode.
 
BrownBetty said:
Hi Ladies,

I was reading a "colorful story" and the guy says to the girl "strip for me my little sl*t". This got me wondering if:

a) Do guys do this? not now but it happened before,no offense taken aas the man was in love with me.
b) How do women respond? Do they enjoy it? some do ,some dont .
it turns me on in with the right person at the right moment.

I have had my fair share of coloring sessions. I have never had anyone call me a sl*t, h*e, b8tch etc... no matter how sexy they tried to make it seem.
i hate the word b tch ..thats a big No no for me

Has this every happened to you? How did you react? Did you like it?
i liked it cuz the man knew i wasnt one and loved me and respected me in every way .
What say you?
tell me You re my slut,mine mine " in the middle of sex .lol
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keyawarren said:
There's no "we" drawing the line when it comes to personal private business. If 2 people like swinging from chandeliers in their own home without bothering others...why should it be up to debate by non-participants? So yes, if a black woman likes her white SO to make her pick cotton as foreplay, then so be it. When did it become an issue to me or any of us?
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:look: fo real?

:lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
i have been suspecting for awhile now that bf likes to talk dirty during sex :look: which is funny, because he doesn't really swear in regular conversation. i cuss more than he does.

i don't think i would go for being called a b during sex. but "slut" is different, i think :look:

anyway, we were having a conversation today about kinks. i think i said i was surprised how many people have kinks, particularly dom/sub sort of kinks, and that i didnt have any kinks. he says that i do, in that i seem pretty in control and problem-solvey in my regular life so i tend to want him to take control in bed :look: i think dirty talk is his kink. this came after a night of tipsiness, then sex, then listening to some loveline-esque sex podcast before falling asleep. i didnt quite get up to mentioning that maybe i want to explore some other things out there... (but not dom/sub bdsm type stuff. so cliche.)
 
Im all for dirty talk, but "slut" is a bit too far for me. I'd stop, and he'd be practicing self love for the rest of the night.

I mean, I dont think my SO would like it if I said "thats a good boy" while he's, uh, performing lip service.
 
I would probably start grinding harder. LMAO. **singing Beyonce** **Grind upon it girl show em how you ride it**
 
keyawarren said:
There's no "we" drawing the line when it comes to personal private business. If 2 people like swinging from chandeliers in their own home without bothering others...why should it be up to debate by non-participants? So yes, if a black woman likes her white SO to make her pick cotton as foreplay, then so be it. When did it become an issue to me or any of us?
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LMAO ommg i think i just died lollol
 
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