Fine 4s
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SO has made some poor parenting decisions IMO and I think DD's mom is right but I don't want him to think I don't have his back.
For example a) He allows DD who is now 13 to play Call Of Duty (COD) but DD's mom doesn't want her to play any violent game. He feels that since he doesn't dictate what happens in HER home, she shouldn't dictate what happens in HIS home. He has valid reasons to not like some things in the other home. I tend to not like these types of vid. games for children and most likely wouldn't want my child to play it either.
b) She wants HIM to let her know when DD stays at his house ahead of time instead of the daughter deciding she wants to stay over his house and does so. DD visits dad whenever and has no set schedule.
The mother doesn't like that the father does not communicate with her on the sleep overs and perhaps feels like it's not the child's decision to inform her. SO feels that he shouldn't have to ASK her when and if DD can come visit him. However I think he missed the point. Her point seems to be not about ASKING but more about communication, giving structure and tightening up any opportunity for slip ups. Also, given that DD is doing things that the mother doesn't like (like playing COD) at her dad's they're not on the same page with the values they're teaching her and so there's also a lack of trust between them. One time, DD slept over her dad's house knowing she had household chores to do at her mom's. This is what the mother wants to avoid. Had the father called her to say hey, dd's sleeping over, he would have known that this was a play to avoid doing her chores.
Thank you for not quoting
SO has made some poor parenting decisions IMO and I think DD's mom is right but I don't want him to think I don't have his back.
For example a) He allows DD who is now 13 to play Call Of Duty (COD) but DD's mom doesn't want her to play any violent game. He feels that since he doesn't dictate what happens in HER home, she shouldn't dictate what happens in HIS home. He has valid reasons to not like some things in the other home. I tend to not like these types of vid. games for children and most likely wouldn't want my child to play it either.
b) She wants HIM to let her know when DD stays at his house ahead of time instead of the daughter deciding she wants to stay over his house and does so. DD visits dad whenever and has no set schedule.
The mother doesn't like that the father does not communicate with her on the sleep overs and perhaps feels like it's not the child's decision to inform her. SO feels that he shouldn't have to ASK her when and if DD can come visit him. However I think he missed the point. Her point seems to be not about ASKING but more about communication, giving structure and tightening up any opportunity for slip ups. Also, given that DD is doing things that the mother doesn't like (like playing COD) at her dad's they're not on the same page with the values they're teaching her and so there's also a lack of trust between them. One time, DD slept over her dad's house knowing she had household chores to do at her mom's. This is what the mother wants to avoid. Had the father called her to say hey, dd's sleeping over, he would have known that this was a play to avoid doing her chores.
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