HeChangedMyName
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working on getting my self out the same situation.. im not afraid to say it here cause none of you guys know me. I was good for three years straight and the devil saw that and came botherhing me again and i fell. At the time the devil came was good planning on his part i must say cause i was having trouble with my relationship with god. I felt empty and i was sad about life. So the devil i guess thought what a perfect opportunity to bring someone to "fulfill" me. I did fall but i can honesstly say im getting myself out of this situation. I like having a person around its a nice but actually sex itself doesnt do anything for me at all so its like why am i having sex if i dont like it. Im sinning and not getting anything out of it.. which is actually a good thing. I thank god for that cause if it was the opposite i would get my self in big trouble. I wont judge anyone at all cause alot of ppl may say its not that hard.. but i want to ask those have u ever been there cause its not easy.. not making any excuses is wrong for sure but we all have our weak points.. all i gotta say is dont stay there.. make an effort to do right and keep pressing on. God will see your desire to change and help you as long as you help your self.
That is how the devil does. Afterall, he is the ruler over the fleshly things, so he knows what to do to get at your flesh---Your Adam. He knows exactly what we all struggle with and that is what he goes after
I would admonish those of us who are struggling with sexual sins to guard your heart with all dilligence. Be careful of what you expose yourself to. That means if you're single don't listen to love songs and watch intimate scenes in movies and on tv. If you're trying to abstain, listening to and watching stuff that you COULD be doing is not going to help the situation at all. Also avoid fellowship with folks who are willfully fornicating. You need to be around strong saints, iron sharpens iron. Those are temptations that can be easily avoided.
Folks say that the fastest way to get from point A to point B is a straight line. Well the fastest way to get to get from your point A, your sin life, to your point B to God's will for your lives, where you want to be is the straight truth of God's Word. Our wills are the strongest thing on earth. The only thing that breaks it is the Word of God applied to our situations. If you want to stop sinning, apply what God says about it to your life by repeating/speaking the Word of God over it until you've conquered your flesh. Find and memorize every scripture that speaks against fornication/sexual sins and say it until it becomes a part of you. It's the quickest,easiest most efficient way to get out of our messes. Saying "I'm just not going to do so and so anymore" is not gonna cut it. You'll be prone to backslide. It's the Word of God, not ours, that's powerful and pulls down these sexual strongholds. Repeat the Word over your areas of weakness.
The devil becomes more subtle the stronger you become. Because he knows he can't pull just any old crap with you, he'll come at you with a "Christian" mate because he knows you'll know he's setting you up if he throws a sinner your way. Don't become so comfortable with someone that you let your guard down little by little and find yourself in a sinful relationship with him.
Be especially cautious when you find yourself becoming stronger in the Lord and have successfully become abstinate. That's when the test comes.
Praise God for your wisdom. SMH SMH. Wow. Everything you said here is on point. First of all, when I was struggling with it, I noticed that there were songs that would bring back memories or movies or whatever and that is when my flesh began to get the best of me. The devil will give you want you think you want, when you are not wanting what the will of God says is best for you. He will make you feel fulfilled and satisfied. I find that if I get too comfortable, that there is actually something wrong. Being a Christian is not always a confortable life to live. Let's not talk about those who willfully fornicate. I was one--to an extent. But dated a guy once--literally, we went out once, and he tried to justify with scripture why we could have sex without reprocutions. I am working on speaking the word into my own life in all areas--this one included and it is amazing how when you start talking Gods words over yourself how things will turn around for his good and not for your own personal gain. I agree at the subtlty of the devil. Once you get hip to his games, he has to become more clever to fool you. Sending a good Christian into yourlife can be a wonderful thing, but like you said, that can also be a trick---been there, done that. Good Christian upstanding men struggle too and when their struggle is also your struggle, then it may be best not to be together alone at all---not even in the car(seriously).