moda
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Would your man offer financial assistance without you needing to ask?
I was thinking about this because of the can this marriage work thread. This is more for the unmarried ladies or the married ladies before they said I do. I think there is a big misconception out there about a man's role in a relationship and I would like to see if others feel the same way.
I remember a friend of mine was about to be evicted and her boyfriend told her she should get a 2nd job to avoid this in the future. He did not offer any money or say she could stay with him he would have been an ex that moment but she stayed with him for like a year after that. Luckily she did not get evicted.
When I was dating my husband I went to PetSmart to buy some dog food. He called me and asked where I was and when I told him he literally starts screaming "I can't believe you did not ask me for help". I was dumbfounded and said "for what, the bag of dog food is not that heavy". He said "Ohhhh I thought you said CheckSmart" (a place that gives pay day loans) this was within a couple months of dating. When he started spending more time at my house he came to me and told me he felt like he should be helping me financially so he started paying my mortgage although he did not move in.
Now I am not saying that a man has to start paying your bills but if he cannot be there for you when you are at your worst he does not deserve you at your best.
Any other stories?
I was thinking about this because of the can this marriage work thread. This is more for the unmarried ladies or the married ladies before they said I do. I think there is a big misconception out there about a man's role in a relationship and I would like to see if others feel the same way.
I remember a friend of mine was about to be evicted and her boyfriend told her she should get a 2nd job to avoid this in the future. He did not offer any money or say she could stay with him he would have been an ex that moment but she stayed with him for like a year after that. Luckily she did not get evicted.
When I was dating my husband I went to PetSmart to buy some dog food. He called me and asked where I was and when I told him he literally starts screaming "I can't believe you did not ask me for help". I was dumbfounded and said "for what, the bag of dog food is not that heavy". He said "Ohhhh I thought you said CheckSmart" (a place that gives pay day loans) this was within a couple months of dating. When he started spending more time at my house he came to me and told me he felt like he should be helping me financially so he started paying my mortgage although he did not move in.
Now I am not saying that a man has to start paying your bills but if he cannot be there for you when you are at your worst he does not deserve you at your best.
Any other stories?
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