Amberlina
Well-Known Member
Ladies,
I have a serious dilemma. My So and I have been together for 5 years, and we are going to jump the broom veeerryyy soon. Out of the five years, we have been off and on - more on than off. We have a son together, are buying a home soon, etc. Anywho, I have cheated on him and I believe he has cheated on me (this was 4 years ago, and we are both over it) and the reason why I cheated is because I am not that sexually attracted to him. I love him so much and I would never want to be anyone else's wife....BUT, he is just a so-so lover.
Sometimes it can be really good, but those times are few and far in-between. I barely have sex with him now, and he thinks things will only get worse when we get married. I just don't have the heart to tell him that I am not fully satisfied. I know I will never cheat again, I was just young and fast, and not ready to commit at the time - and I love and respect him too much. But, I'm gone need him to start reading books, or watching instructional videos or something!!!!!
I kind of guide him and let him know what I like, but he is very "quick", kind of awkward, and.....I don't know how to explain it!!!! So, someone pleeeease just tell me you have been in a similar situation and you worked it out!!!!!!
*I hope I am not going to get in trouble for this topic, if so, I will delete this immediately*
I have a serious dilemma. My So and I have been together for 5 years, and we are going to jump the broom veeerryyy soon. Out of the five years, we have been off and on - more on than off. We have a son together, are buying a home soon, etc. Anywho, I have cheated on him and I believe he has cheated on me (this was 4 years ago, and we are both over it) and the reason why I cheated is because I am not that sexually attracted to him. I love him so much and I would never want to be anyone else's wife....BUT, he is just a so-so lover.
Sometimes it can be really good, but those times are few and far in-between. I barely have sex with him now, and he thinks things will only get worse when we get married. I just don't have the heart to tell him that I am not fully satisfied. I know I will never cheat again, I was just young and fast, and not ready to commit at the time - and I love and respect him too much. But, I'm gone need him to start reading books, or watching instructional videos or something!!!!!
I kind of guide him and let him know what I like, but he is very "quick", kind of awkward, and.....I don't know how to explain it!!!! So, someone pleeeease just tell me you have been in a similar situation and you worked it out!!!!!!
*I hope I am not going to get in trouble for this topic, if so, I will delete this immediately*