CALLING THE NEXT CHICK....... HAVE YOU DONE IT B4??????

[JewelleNY]

The two guys that I dated that had exes calling me, there was definitely fire!

The first guy's ex would call, leave messages. At one point, she came to knock on his door midday while I was there and left when she saw me in the window. He said she was stalking him and couldn't get over him and that she called him later and said she saw me and that I looked young and like I couldn't handle him. He turned out to be a crazy psychopath. He was leading her on until I moved in fully with him and then he cut her off. He was unable to be alone.

Another guy was still seeing his ex and was using me to make her jealous. She called me once and said very nicely and calmly that she was still with him and asked did I know this. I did not respond but hung up and did my own inverstigating. I was embarrassed but I appreciated the heads up.

I would not call anyone personally. I have thought about warning the woman my crazy ex is now married to now when they first started dating as she seems so sweet and unassuming I had to let it go as I would have been putting my safety on the line and he is so manipulative, I am sure she would not believe me. I think about her sometimes and how she is doing. This guys is a psychopath and he knows it. I had to pray on it and let it go

 

[Browndilocks]

IDK. I never got one of these calls but I honestly can't say I wouldn't call the chick. Especially if we live together. I say do whatever makes you feel better. If throwing a wrench in his game feels worth it after being cheated on then do it. Why not let her know whats going to happen to her if she ever steps foot inside my place? I can't see myself calling anyone to get details... only to give them.

 

[sylver2]

eta lol
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[mscurly]

Even if dude is lying to both, going thru the phone and calling the other woman/women is VERY pathetic and immature. So yes such women ARE crazy

woimen need to stop defending that pitiful mess.

Deal with the dude and leave it at that

Thank you!!!

My point EXACTLY why deal with the chick. Deal with the man if that's really "your man" then your problem is with him not me.

It is very pathetic

 

[mscurly]

Is the op coming back to answer questions?

I wanna know HOW she got your NUMBER???

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y

Since you wanna know lmao

He went to her house after we went on on Friday night. Mind you I spent half the day with this man AND his family. He goes over there to tell her about me and that he doesn't want her anymore.

She flips out smacks him bla bla bla. But she went through his phone that night and thats how she got my number.

I honestly don't know what to believe because we aren't exclusive yet so I can't really accuse him of cheating. He says he needed to tie up some loose ends before we start a committed relationship.

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.


I just don't have time for drama and find it pathetic when chicks do that. I'm sorry I don't care if a dude is lying I still don't feel the need to call the next chick. What is that going to accomplish????? Not a damn thing!

 

[*CherryPie*]

sylver2

I was assuming that you were agreeing with the post that you quoted, where she said women need to stop defending that mess...as in women calling.

I deleted the comment. I tired today.

i thought we were talking about if u ever called the next chick. thats what the op asked.

 

[Browndilocks]

Since you wanna know lmao

He went to her house after we went on on Friday night. Mind you I spent half the day with this man AND his family. He goes over there to tell her about me and that he doesn't want her anymore.

She flips out smacks him bla bla bla. But she went through his phone that night and thats how she got my number.

I honestly don't know what to believe because we aren't exclusive yet so I can't really accuse him of cheating. He says he needed to tie up some loose ends before we start a committed relationship.

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.


I just don't have time for drama and find it pathetic when chicks do that. I'm sorry I don't care if a dude is lying I still don't feel the need to call the next chick. What is that going to accomplish????? Not a damn thing!

I don't buy that for one single second. You don't go to somebody's house at night to break up with them, right after you spend the day with another person. Sounds like he was tryina get some pucci, got comfortable at her place and she grabbed his phone whole he was in the bathroom. He probably didn't catch an attitude with her until she confronted him about what was in his phone. The family is going to be down for whatever he does, which includes smiling in your face knowing good and well he has another woman. For something like that I can't blame a chick for spitting venom. Messy situation=messy dude.

 

[*CherryPie*]

This sounds like he was still with her, but had to make a choice because you found out. So, he chose you and she got mad and slapped him. He would've still been with both of y'all if you...or she hadn't found out. He sounds like a mess.

She ain't crazy. She sounds like she was in a relationship with a cheating man and got angry when she found out. Then, she did what a lot of women out there do...try to find out for closure.

And, by the way, family keeps secrets the BEST! My brothers were HUGE cheaters. Women were always at family stuff. We just shook our heads...but we didn't tell. We talked and laughed with them. So, hanging out with the family don't always mean something.

Since you wanna know lmao

He went to her house after we went on on Friday night. Mind you I spent half the day with this man AND his family. He goes over there to tell her about me and that he doesn't want her anymore.

She flips out smacks him bla bla bla. But she went through his phone that night and thats how she got my number.

I honestly don't know what to believe because we aren't exclusive yet so I can't really accuse him of cheating. He says he needed to tie up some loose ends before we start a committed relationship.

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.


I just don't have time for drama and find it pathetic when chicks do that. I'm sorry I don't care if a dude is lying I still don't feel the need to call the next chick. What is that going to accomplish????? Not a damn thing!

 

[*CherryPie*]

@ tying up loose ends = One more for the road.

You better wake up girl.

Since you wanna know lmao

He went to her house after we went on on Friday night. Mind you I spent half the day with this man AND his family. He goes over there to tell her about me and that he doesn't want her anymore.

She flips out smacks him bla bla bla. But she went through his phone that night and thats how she got my number.

I honestly don't know what to believe because we aren't exclusive yet so I can't really accuse him of cheating. He says he needed to tie up some loose ends before we start a committed relationship.

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.


I just don't have time for drama and find it pathetic when chicks do that. I'm sorry I don't care if a dude is lying I still don't feel the need to call the next chick. What is that going to accomplish????? Not a damn thing!

 

[kaykari]

I don't buy that for one single second. You don't go to somebody's house at night to break up with them, right after you spend the day with another person. Sounds like he was tryina get some pucci, got comfortable at her place and she grabbed his phone whole he was in the bathroom. He probably didn't catch an attitude with her until she confronted him about what was in his phone. The family is going to be down for whatever he does, which includes smiling in your face knowing good and well he has another woman. For something like that I can't blame a chick for spitting venom. Messy situation=messy dude.

I havent read this thread, I just want to cosign. My brother cheats on his girlfriends, we all know because were his siblings and he tell us. He'll bring around whoever and we are polite. We might even have fun if we like the chick! My bros current girlfriend, a pretty girl who is a nurse at a prestigious university hospital, met the family months before he broke up with his old one. So hanging with fam means nothing.

 

[kaykari]

Also, beware of a man who calls his ex crazy. Very rarely are they crazy...sonetimes after dealing with games and this and that for however long, they snap. Or they lash out cuz theyre hurt. Please dont feel like the prize since he picked you.

 

[HanaKuroi]

So he gave her his phone for what reason?

It sounds like the phone was left "unattended for some reason".

I think we all know that "reason" must be.

Why would he hand her his phone when he went over there to break up with her? I cannot come up with any other scenario that makes sense.

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y

 

[MzLady78]

Since you wanna know lmao

He went to her house after we went on on Friday night. Mind you I spent half the day with this man AND his family. He goes over there to tell her about me and that he doesn't want her anymore.

She flips out smacks him bla bla bla. But she went through his phone that night and thats how she got my number.

I honestly don't know what to believe because we aren't exclusive yet so I can't really accuse him of cheating. He says he needed to tie up some loose ends before we start a committed relationship.

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.

I just don't have time for drama and find it pathetic when chicks do that. I'm sorry I don't care if a dude is lying I still don't feel the need to call the next chick. What is that going to accomplish????? Not a damn thing!

He a damn lie.

 

[TayMac]

I don't believe the story and if I did, still too messy for my tastes. He was getting with her very recently for her to be so upset

 

[pearcey]

even if she was doing all this, why call her all types of expletives? He did deal with this person at one point. it takes two. I would be alarmed to have anyone I chose to be in the company of to speak so poorly about someone he chose at one point and time to spend time with.

it isn't cute or something to feel special about being put on a pedestal at the expense of another. especially when it comes to childiren's mothers, etc.

this is a board of women. ladies. females. who have all been through something.

i am surprised your thread got this long with the intro. just move on. there are plenty to choose from.

she calls. you handle it as you see fit. but this is not LSA. I don't think you will get what you seek here...

 

[shenitab]

crazy = he's still messing with her on a routine basis or backtracking every now and then. Describing her as crazy to you sets it up to explain her future behavior...

crazy = he's crazy Why would he leave his phone around where she could get it? Why would he meet her somewhere other than a public place if she is so crazy?



There are all kinds of crazy dudes out there. I don't think calling, informal background checks, or formal back ground checks are out of order.

Call another woman desperate, foolish, insecure, ______ today, and you could find yourself in that situation in the future.

Some men lie so much and so well, it is crazy.
Now some women are off the chain but it is likely that the dude is stringing her along or messing with her some kind of way. If she's crazy, it's cause he allowed her to be / made her that way. <------ in most instances.

 

[HanaKuroi]

even if she was doing all this, why call her all types of expletives? He did deal with this person at one point. it takes two. I would be alarmed to have anyone I chose to be in the company of to speak so poorly about someone he chose at one point and time to spend time with.

it isn't cute or something to feel special about being put on a pedestal at the expense of another. especially when it comes to childiren's mothers, etc.

this is a board of women. ladies. females. who have all been through something.

i am surprised your thread got this long with the intro. just move on. there are plenty to choose from.

she calls. you handle it as you see fit. but this is not LSA. I don't think you will get what you seek here...

What would happen on LSA?

I can't see any mentions on my IPhone. PM me if it is a must see. Allons y

 

[spelmanlocks]

Since you wanna know lmao

He went to her house after we went on on Friday night. Mind you I spent half the day with this man AND his family. He goes over there to tell her about me and that he doesn't want her anymore.

She flips out smacks him bla bla bla. But she went through his phone that night and thats how she got my number.

I honestly don't know what to believe because we aren't exclusive yet so I can't really accuse him of cheating. He says he needed to tie up some loose ends before we start a committed relationship.

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.


I just don't have time for drama and find it pathetic when chicks do that. I'm sorry I don't care if a dude is lying I still don't feel the need to call the next chick. What is that going to accomplish????? Not a damn thing!

Sounds like ya'll are both the current chick and that's causing her to flip out. It happened to my best friend. She was contacted by her man (now ex) supposed ex girl on facebook to say that they were still having sex. Of course he denied it for months and told my friend that his ex was stalking him. The only reason my friend found out his ex-girl was telling the truth is that one of his homeboys wanted my friend and outed him.

 

[FelaShrine]

He apologized and sent me these screen shots of text messages from the girl talking about I'll "move on and get a life" Goodbye and Good luck.
!

I say let him go. again I agree that ol' girl coming at you was really lame and pathetic of her..however his story is wack. didnt he break up with her before getting with you? whats the nonsense about going to her house and telling her its over blah blah..please. Story is fishy and seems too dramatic for something not even exclusive. js.

 

[FelaShrine]

85% of the "women" here are on LSA so its the same ish then again they are known to say one thing here and say another there so..

Call another woman desperate, foolish, insecure, ______ today, and you could find yourself in that situation in the future.

and you act like a grown woman and deal with the man. No one is saying they are above a man doing the same, SOME OF US are just too grown for that ghetto bird like behavior of harrassing the other woman. It is what it is/

 

[shenitab]

I believe that harassing is one thing but calling to get information is another. I don't see the issue with calling to give or receive information in a calm and polite manner (shrugs). I don't think I saw that the OP was harassed during the telephone call that was received - unless I'm mistaken.

 

[HanaKuroi]

His story was lame. I would have let his lame self go. No further explanation needed. I deserve a man and not a boy playing games. Sowwy.


In fact as soon as some woman called me (got my number) I would have pressed on. I don't have time for childrens's games. They aren't exclusive and I don't do messy.

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[FelaShrine]

I believe that harassing is one thing but calling to get information is another. I don't see the issue with calling to give or receive information in a calm and polite manner (shrugs). I don't think I saw that the OP was harassed during the telephone call that was received - unless I'm mistaken.

I dont know you and some random loon is calling me for "information"

That's harrassment and chickenhead bahvior

 

[FlyyBohemian]

The guy isn't innocent, but then again, if these women see that their man is cheating on them, then why can't they be strong enough to walk away? Instead of calling the woman, you do what these guys do which is pull a Houdini. Disappear with no calls, text, Facebook messages, nothing. Do it for at least 30 days. He will blow up your phone and won't stop thinking about you when he is with the other woman. I did that to one guy who was playing me. He was messing with me but told me he was buying a house with a woman who was just a 'friend'. I disappeared on him for six weeks. He blew up my phone looking for me until he gave up. When I appeared, he never forgave me and talked about how much I hurt him. Guys don't like it when you play the games they play.

P.S. You only pull Houdinis on guys who are really messed up. Not every guy deserves that. Some do deserve an explanation.

 

[Naveah2050]

Girl...you should be grateful she called you cause this dude is straight up lying and playing you for a fool. How did she get your number? Why did he go there at night after spending all day with you? Ok...

 

[dannie]

I dont know you and some random loon is calling me for "information"

That's harrassment and chickenhead bahvior

Not necessarily. I am the type who doesn't notice things until they are brought directly to my attention. In my case, my dude lost his phone and left a vm greeting talking about "I lost my phone so if you need to get ahold of me email me, dannie, brooke, everybody." I was like, who the heck is Brooke? He talking about, my homeboy from high school. You can ask questions, but some guys will just lie and lie and lie and lie

So yeah I found Brooke's number and no it wasn't a guy. And no I do not regret calling like "I know you dont know me and I dont mean disrespect, but I found your number in my bf's phone and was wondering if you were seeing him". And when I got my answer I got off the phone and broke up with him. End of story.

And I know thats not the popular LHCF answer but it is what it is.

 

[ms-gg]

^
That dude was just DUMB and told on himself with no shame lol.

 

[FelaShrine]

So yeah I found Brooke's number and no it wasn't a guy. And no I do not regret calling like "I know you dont know me and I dont mean disrespect, but I found your number in my bf's phone and was wondering if you were seeing him". And when I got my answer I got off the phone and broke up with him. End of story.
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I wouldn't have faulted her if she hungry up on you. Honestly it's just unnecessary drama no woman should place on another woman. No one owes the other ish. It's just plain ghetto imo..demanding info..no matter how nice it is..you are still accusing/putting said person on the spot/in an awkward position

Men aren't great liars you would have found out soon enough or like Slovenian said Houdini works well.

Anyway hopefully OP blocked the girls # and is done with dude. Both are a complete mess

 

[*CherryPie*]

OP is not done with dude. She said, she doesn't care if he's been seeing that woman because its early in the relationship.

I wouldn't have faulted her if she hungry up on you. Honestly it's just unnecessary drama no woman should place on another woman. No one owes the other ish. It's just plain ghetto imo..demanding info..no matter how nice it is..you are still accusing/putting said person on the spot/in an awkward position

Men aren't great liars you would have found out soon enough or like Slovenian said Houdini works well.

Anyway hopefully OP blocked the girls # and is done with dude. Both are a complete mess

 

[dannie]

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