Angel1881
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Thanks, Alma!!!
Here is Day 6 hair, if I'm counting correctly.
YvetteWithJoy, Your hair looks fantastic! Such nice curl definition.
Thanks, Alma!!!
Here is Day 6 hair, if I'm counting correctly.
I'm wearing a lace bob wig. I put some messy curls in.
View attachment 427961 I still wash and dc my hair twice a week. It's braided underneath
Eta. I interviewed for another job today and I got it!!
After last week's activities of shampoo, protein, only a so-so DC, and clay on Saturday, my hair was feeling a little dry. I moisturised it last night by dampening with water, smoothing in some APB Creamy Hair Pudding and Shea mix. I usually don't like so much product but my parched hair's thirst was quenched and today my hair feels lubricated but not greasy. I baggied my ends before tying up for bed and will baggy again tonight.
ETA: I've taken my hair down and it does feel kinda greasy, well it leaves my fingers greasy...but I'm ok with it for now.
I understand completely. Two years ago, I battled the exact same things - constant breakage from applying product, a high level of breakage, tangling and shedding from my hair flying towards each end of the moisture-balance spectrum, never quite finding a good balance, fearful of combing and styling my hair because it was fragile, etc. My hair was suffering and I had no idea what to do. So, I approached things methodically by keeping track of what I used, when I used it, how I used it and the effects of each. Here are some things that I learned:
- Identifying what my hair looked like and how it behaved when it was: (1) fully moisturized; (2) balanced; (3) imbalanced and in need of moisture; (4) imbalanced and in need of protein; and (5) imbalanced due to porosity issues. IME, many people seem to equate moisturized hair with softness, e.g., if their hair is soft, then it's moisturized. IMO, that's not the case because dehydrated hair can still be soft. For me, a sure fire sign that my hair is truly moisturized is when it feels and looks plump and juicy when dry; and when it feels cold to the touch, as if it's still wet when it isn't. It also hangs differently, as if it is weighted with product when it's bare. Conversely, when my hair is balanced, it looks and feels springy and resilient. I wholeheartedly believe that the key to solving any issue that arises lies in knowing my hair's characteristics (and as a senior citizen, I can emphatically state that these characteristics can and will change over time, so I keep on top of them).
- Knowing the ingredients and additives that produces the best results for my hair. Having this knowledge makes my routine simple and predictable, and it also enables me to pick the right products. For instance, I know that DCs that contain cocoa butter, jojoba, EVOO and pumpkin will give me ultra moisture; anything with avocado will be very smoothing, but less moisturizing; all ayurveda and fruit (except banana) makes my hair hard and rough; naturesilk, venasilk, guar silk, et al gives good slip and softness, and honey/agave gives great moisture, but must be offset by other emollients or it will be a disaster. Knowledge is power.
- Porosity matters. If it is thrown off in either direction, it will effect everything that is done to it and how it behaves. The methods for moisturizing and achieving balance differs between those who are low, normal and high porosity. Knowing and correcting my porosity was a game changer.
- The DC matters. What I choose to DC with is crucial. If the product of choice does not provide long-lasting moisture until the following wash/DC day, it's ineffective and needs to be tossed. I shouldn't have to spend the subsequent days after DCing bolstering or making up for a lackluster DC. So, I chose to use only highly effective DCs. Just as I wouldn't advise any woman to work with a broke brother, I don't advocate working with a substandard DC. Fire it and get a more efficient employee.
- All proteins aren't created equal. My hair responded to each protein differently and not necessarily in the manner in which they're defined, e.g., keratin is purported to be strengthening, whereas silk and wheat are described as being more moisturizing. However, on my hair, it's the opposite - if I want serious strength, I turn to wheat and quinoa; if I want moisture with a small kick of strength, I use keratin or silk; if I need elasticity, collagen is always my first pick.
- It's important to use the right protein at the right time. I ditched the schedules and ignored the manufacturer's directions, and did what my hair told me it needed. When I listened, it rewarded me by sticking around and not breaking, tangling and shedding.
- Differentiating between protein treatments and protein-laden conditioners. I use the former for restructuring and the latter for maintenance.
- Avoid all protein-laden finishing products and keep an eye on hidden proteins because they could inadvertently throw things out of wack (some examples of hidden proteins are algae, aloe vera, EVCO, coconut cream/milk, yogurt, kelp and seaweed).
- I initially erred on the moisture side of the equation because correcting moisture overload is easier and quicker than addressing protein overload. This meant that I only used moisturizing, highly emollient DCs and finishing products. If a product had any protein, it was stored away until later.
- Using a complex protein treatment gives the best results. At the time, I preferred to have all of my proteins at once, so I picked a product that offered them all in a highly effective product - Komaza Protein Strengthener. I got keratin, silk, wheat and collagen served on the same plate with great slip. This product is unparalleled.
- Until the crisis abated, I only used DCS that were light albeit highly moisturizing, and finishing products that were light with a silky or slimy consistency. I put aside my ultra thick, creamy products and opted for APBs DCs along with JC Untangle Me and TGIN LI. As much as I love a thick, creamy product, I found that lighter products produced less mechanical damage, and provided more slip and smoothing.
- Only seal with oil and avoid heavy butters, creams, greases and grease-like products. I only use the heavy butters and creams to keep my ends smoothed out and tangle free. All greases are a big, flat no. That's a recipe for hard, greasy hair.
- Once I achieved balance, I maintained it through the use of balancing DCs. IMO, moisture-only DCs are only good for the protein sensitive, after a hard kick of protein and before straightening. I'm able to achieve long-term balance with protein-laden DCs.
There's more, but I think this rather obese post should get you started in addressing your concerns. Start slowly and methodically, and things will turn around. I wish you the best.
@Angel1881
OMGoodness, I am loving your proactive approach! Yes, girl, keep taking those notes and analyzing the data because it will lead to greater breakthroughs, more refinement and increased hair health. One of the greatest things about it is that the epiphanies never stop coming. For instance, just as you noticed that twisting your hair a second time on wash day produced better results, I realized that allowing my hair to air dry at least 50% before applying a LI and S on wash day resulted in smoother, sleeker, shinier, ultra moisturized hair with greater elongation. Even though I stumbled upon it due to procrastination, this new development has taken my routine up a notch. As always, I wish you the more progress, more discoveries, more breakthroughs, more health. Just more, more, more, more!
Thank you so much for your encouragement and thoughtfulness.
Ok, so my question is this. Do I have to keep heat completely out of my hair? I figured out that the last time I chopped more than 2 inches off my hair was 9 mos ago. Anytime I chop 3-4 inches, I consider it a BC. I finally have the thickness but I am missing my length. I guess it was unavoidable because when it was straight I had that triangle in the back and it looked ugly. Last time I did heat was almost 2 weeks ago. I'm trying to keep a log of that too this time...
Great answer, thank you! It can be drying to our poor ends... Once a month is perfect, especially when i can afford to have it done. I really look forward to that.You're probably the only one who can answer that. Some ladies can use heat regularly without much detriment. Others use heat and it causes so many issues for them.
Personally I try not to use heat more than once a month and I have periods where I just don't use heat at all and my hair is better for it. When I do use heat regularly I just have to be prepared to trim more often.
Great answer, thank you! It can be drying to our poor ends... Once a month is perfect, especially when i can afford to have it done. I really look forward to that.
I've accepted that also along with to grow healthy hair that looks good when u do use heat, it should be used sparingly with making sure it always has moisture.Yeah I've accepted that I like heat and there will always be a place for it in my routine; I'm just controlling how often I use it!
Ok, so my question is this. Do I have to keep heat completely out of my hair? I figured out that the last time I chopped more than 2 inches off my hair was 9 mos ago. Anytime I chop 3-4 inches, I consider it a BC. I finally have the thickness but I am missing my length. I guess it was unavoidable because when it was straight I had that triangle in the back and it looked ugly. Last time I did heat was almost 2 weeks ago. I'm trying to keep a log of that too this time...
Following up. I realize that Sunday’s haircut has given me hair OCD. That overwhelming focus on hair and how it’s looks. So I’m going into a protective style. I paid a crapload of money for a fall wig for my wedding but didn’t use it, so plan is to go somewhere and get it braided and wear my fall for awhile. Have to make sure I find someone who doesn’t braid too tight and have to figure out how long after a relaxer I need to wait before getting my hair braided.
It's ok, we'll be alright My cut makes me feel some type of way at times. However, I'm thinking pulling it back wet to make it look straight constantly may have hurt me. So being it's cut in a shape. I try to let it shrink up and dry before pulling it back as the hair professional told me. I just wasn't ready to do that because my shrinkage looked ridiculous. Healthy hair at any length is always a gain.Following up. I realize that Sunday’s haircut has given me hair OCD. That overwhelming focus on hair and how it’s looks. So I’m going into a protective style. I paid a crapload of money for a fall wig for my wedding but didn’t use it, so plan is to go somewhere and get it braided and wear my fall for awhile. Have to make sure I find someone who doesn’t braid too tight and have to figure out how long after a relaxer I need to wait before getting my hair braided.