brides with absent fathers - walking down the aisle

[BlackMarilyn]

who did/do you want to walk with you down the aisle to give you away when your father has been absent most of your life?

what happens when there are no close males to do it? can a bride walk down the aisle with her mother? by herself? anyone she wants?

tia

 

[DarkHair]

A bride can walk down with anyone she wants. A brother, uncle, cousin, neighbor, it doesn't matter. I planned to walk alone, but my absent father was gung-ho about doing it. I'm a mama's girl, but she wanted her own time to shine.

 

[Keen]

I would think it's OK for the mother to give the bride away. I wouldn't let a distant male relative do it just because he is a man. That man would have to be really close to the family or it's the Mom's role.

 

[SelahOco]

I've seen it done with mothers, but I think it's prettier when the bride goes alone if she wants to. Then the mom can stand and say she's the one giving you away.

My brother gave me away and if he wasn't in the picture I would have chosen my mother only because I think it would have really touched her. It would have made a memory.

My entire wedding was about making memories and doing my best to make my loved ones cry It was great.

 

[JustKiya]

I gave myself away - and for me, it wouldn't have been honest any other way.

 

[sylver2]

my uncle(mothers brother)gave me away.

 

[Summer_Rain]

I am going to have my grandfather do it


ETA: but plan to have a portrait of my father at the altar as well.

 

[Alisha08]

I agree and say that anyone can do it. I plan to have my grandfather to walk me down the aisle. Even though I did/do have a loving relationship with my dad (parent's divorced when i was young), my grandaddy was the male figure in my life. He's always given me the world, and now he gets to give me away to a man that will do the same. I cant wait. Love my grandaddy.

 

[phynestone]

My dad is deceased and I would prefer my mother to give me away.

 

[ixoyegodisgood]

I gave myself away - and for me, it wouldn't have been honest any other way.

I am not getting married, but this would be the case if I were.

 

[HeChangedMyName]

My cousin had her son to walk her down the aisle. It was THE CUTEST THING EVER.

My father is deceased so WHEN I get married, I guess it'll either be one or both of my sons or one of my brothers

 

[cutiebe2]

My father is kinda around now but I would not want him to do it. I really wouldn't want him to be at my wedding. He is too much of an embarrassment that you always have to be watching him and making sure he doesn't mess up


I am dreading that situation when the time comes. When I try to imagine my wedding (which is probably years away) that is the first thing that comes to mind

Ideally I would walk by myself and my mom would be at the alter to give me away

 

[StarFish106]

I had my fave male cousin on my father's side walk me down. He is the next male related to me on that side of the fence so it made sense. My mom didn't mind and she thought it was cool since he is more of a brother than my cousin to me anyway.

 

[lucy]

I had a framed photo of my dad at the alter, and his youngest brother give me away. We live in different states and we aren't that close, so I initially wanted my mom to do it. However, he offered, and after giving it some thought I realized that it would be an honor and my dad would be so proud of him for stepping up. I wrote him a letter and sent it snail mail telling him that Id be honored to have him walk me down the aisle.

 

[bludaydreamr]

My father is deceased and I have no brothers. My Uncle(by marriage) since my father passed, he has not missed any event big or small in our lives. We introduce him as "Uncle", but as he would say he is the "everything" in our family, and I will be honored for him to give me away.

 

[Aniyasmommy]

If I ever get married....thats a pretty big if LOL but if i ever get married and my granddaddy is still alive it will be him to walk me down the aisle .My granddaddy is the sweetest man anybody could ever meet. He made my childhood beyond wonderful .

 

[Urban]

A friend of mine (I think her father declined to be at the wedding) had her brother walk her down. Another friend (who's father is deceased) had an uncle from her father's side do it. Both weddings were beautiful.

 

[taz007]

I had my brother do it as my father passed.

I did have a moment, before we said our vows, where my brother and I released two doves in honor of my father. My mom started crying ...

ETA: I think that it is so beautiful to walk alone and have the mother give you away.

 

[TayMac]

I'm going to walk alone.

 

[madamdot]

I walked alone. I wanted my mother to walk with me but she has had a stroke and it was difficult for her to go all the way. She met me a few steps from the alter and walked me the rest of the day. It turned out fine.

I would recommend walking with someone because I nearly fell over. But obviously this honor should not go to just anyone.

 

[Livingmylifetothefullest]

If I get married and my father wasn't here then I would want my mother.

 

[BlackMarilyn]

i like the idea of walking alone and meeting my mother at the top. i dont think it appropriate for anyone else to walk me down when they havent really been as close and as there for me as my mom.

thanks for the responses.

 

[song_of_serenity]

My sister had our uncle (by marriage) walk her.
My father was not in the picture and he has since passed away. If my uncle is willing/alive by the time I get married, I'd be honored to have him. Or my sister's husband, my big bro in law. Is that weird?

 

[Highly Favored8]

My daddy has passed on. I will either have my Uncle, oldest brother and or walk alone.

 

[lonei]

My uncle did it (my mums brother) and he had been a father figure all of my life. In hindsight, I would have chosen my mother as she has made the most contribution to my life.

 

[ThickHair]

No one has to have anyone to give them away. I would just walk by myself.

 

[MoniintheMiddle]

My father is deceased so I had my brothers and stepfather (was done per my mom's request) to walk me down. Each walked me to a certain point to meet the next person.

 

[makeupgirl]

Well this is something my sister and I talk about a lot. We don't really care too much for our stepfather and our dad isn't involved in our lives. Our grandfathers are dead. Our mother is very traditional. Personally, I could care less who walk me down the aisle because the goal is to marry the man that God ordained for me to marry and nothing else on that day. But, if I can choose and I will strongly pray about this during the preparation and planning with my husband to be, it will more than likely be my mother. She's raised me and has been there from my birth and through every tear, hurt, happy moment, etc. Whereas, my dad has not. Why would I want him to give me away when he hasn't deserve that. Push come to shove I'll walk myself.

 

[loved]

My relative had the uncle who had been the male in her life walk her down the aisle and her mom stood to give her away.

Her sorry arse father was from a very prominent family and was embarrassed that he was not the one to do it. He paced outside the bridal boutique like a rat on a wheel and claimed that he was ill. He did not attend the ceremony.

 

[mw138]

I remember attending the wedding of one of my teachers from high school, she invited our entire class (which only consisted of about 10 people ). She walked down the aisle by herself and when the minister asked "who gives this woman to be married," her mother answered. To my knowledge, she had a strained relationship with her father. I don't think it was a situation in which he was no longer living.

My best friend from high school had a very strained relationship with her father after he cheated on, and eventually left, her mother. I thought for sure that she wouldn't have him walk her down the aisle b/c she always said she wouldn't. I don't know what changed her mind, but sure enough, she walked down the aisle with him. I think they repaired their relationship after her mom passed away last year.