Blonde Hair Anyone?

[*Happily Me*]

I don't think long bleached blond hair looks good on black women, it just looks like they're trying too hard. Bey, Christina M, Mary J, Eve, Mariah, Naomi and the rest of 'em looked much better when their hair was darker than they did blond, at least to me. Bleaching blond just looks like a desperate attemp to draw attention to themselves.

Although, in the August issue of Hype Hair there is a photo spread of Paula Jai Parker and she has a short spiky 'do that is platinum blond, and she looks fantastic! She is med-light complected and the color looks great on her. I'll even go so far as to say she is the only entertainer I have seen who can work this color. I wish I could find and post a pic for ya'll, but I ain't figured out how to do that yet. erplexed

As for Mama Diddy, well all I can say is it takes ALOT of money to look that cheap.
Again, JMO.

I think Paula Jai Parker looks good with blonde hair too. Very cute.

asphyxxia, why do you dislike the color on black women so much? Did it have anything to do with the responses from your black/blonde hair poll a few months ago?


anyhoo, i thought the blonde hair color looked cute on you .

 

[esoterica]

asphyxxia, why do you dislike the color on black women so much? Did it have anything to do with the responses from your black/blonde hair poll a few months ago?


anyhoo, i thought the blonde hair color looked cute on you .

this doesnt have anything to do with my "black or blonde" poll. even though lots of people said the blonde did suit me i didnt feel comfortable with it. so i didnt have it put back in.

i started this thread after seeing pictures of quite a few black female celebs going blonde and looking awful. good looking women with enough money to look as good as they wanted to, are choosing to go the blonde route when it clearly does not suit them. of course, it looks good on some people, but not the vast majority. i just wanted to see what you ladies thought.

 

[1Specialk]

My choice was not listed, but here it is:

If they like it, then I love it!

 

[mahoganee]

I think it depends on the person skin tone and also how light the blonde is. But I dont think in general black women look stupid with blonde hair.

ITA. I usually wear honey blonde but in the summer I've been mixing it with a darker shade since I'm darker then. I don't like the really light blondes on myself but some people can pull it off. This past october the bss didn't have the color I normally wear and I got a sew in that had a lighter blonde mixed in it, but I didn't realize that most of the hair was that color. Lawd have mercy! I saw a picture of myself with that hair and said to myself , "hmm,hmm,hmm. Never again!" It looked better towards the end because I'd lightened up some.

 

[ThickLongHair2008]

I remember about 13 years ago, my darker skin sister and I were dying our hair golden blonde. Anyway, we were at my oldest sister house and they had cut the water off because they were working on the lines. Well little did we know they had cut the water off until we tried to rinse the dye out. We had no water to rinse the dye out of our heads,so my sisters boyfriend told us to get into the car and he would drive us to my house, which was about 15 minutes away. Here we are on the highway and my sister's boyfriend car breaks down. Yes, my sister and I still had the dye in our hair. Long story short, we stuck on the free way with a broken down car and dye in our hair that had been in for at least 45 minutes. We spent about an hour on the freeway trying to fix the car. My sister and I was sitting in the back seat laughing talking about "ooo gurl..if we don't hurry up and get this stuff out of our heads, we are going to look like two black Lucille Ball's. Almost 2 hours and some later, we got to my house and rinsed it out. It was Murder...Our hair was orange and was tore up(damaged). That was the last time I ever looked at dye..

Sorry so long!

I would have dunked my head in the toilet. Yes I agreee, people need to stop jumping on the blong bandwagon. Keisha Cole too with her platinum lace front wig. WTF?

 

[aileendq]

I have an issue with people of color being blonde not because of how it looks, but because it seems as if it's just about Hollywood conformity and not about "self expression." I personally think that the "Blonde Hype" that's nothing but propaganda from Hollywood is just another way of saying that the only truly attractive people are blonde (or, white). I think this is crap.

Look at all the people of color that have gone blonde: Jessica Alba, Mariah, Serena. And the people who are not of color keep going even blonder!

Don't get me wrong, dye your hair purple, blue, yellow or orange, I don't care, just do it for the right reason. Examine your motivations...

 

[esoterica]

I have an issue with people of color being blonde not because of how it looks, but because it seems as if it's just about Hollywood conformity and not about "self expression." I personally think that the "Blonde Hype" that's nothing but propaganda from Hollywood is just another way of saying that the only truly attractive people are blonde (or, white). I think this is crap.

Look at all the people of color that have gone blonde: Jessica Alba, Mariah, Serena. And the people who are not of color keep going even blonder!

Don't get me wrong, dye your hair purple, blue, yellow or orange, I don't care, just do it for the right reason. Examine your motivations...

I'm glad you mentioned this because it's very true.

 

[MzTami]

Don't want to be a blonde no mo..

 

[hopeful]

Don't want to be a blonde no mo..

Me either!

 

[~*~ShopAholic~*~]

Do you mean all Dark skinned women look stupid? Because I've seen some black women sport some blonde hair and they look beautiful, and with the right features, body, style and attitude some Dark skinned sisters look just as good, I believe, as w/most things, not all the right ones are sporting it. Never was blond and never wanted to try it I just never liked bleach, IMHO.

 

[mshoney2u]

The people that are bashing blonde what color are you thinking about because blonde come in many different shades. From almost white (platinum) to a medium brown color (sunlight blonde). Some of yall are using the word blonde very generally. Because those people that you all are usually talking about are very light blonde. Which for the most part doesn’t look good on some white people. No matter what shade you have to take a persons undertones in to consideration. I am medium brown skinned and my hair is honey-blonde, has been that way on and off for 9yrs my name is nickname is honey (been that since I was 6 wks old) and I just like the color on me. I remember when I was in HS and I told a couple of people including my color struck cousins that I was thinking of going honey blonde and they were like. I don’t think it would look good and might I add I am a caramel color well any way I despite what they said and know about skin tones I did it and those say nay-sayers were the same one’s in my face telling me how gorgeous my hair was and how pretty it was on my complexion. My stylist is making me do a morning tv apperance with her because of my texture and color

*To add you also have to take the style and the way the peson look into consideration too. I just saw jahimen's new video and that girl hair is so pretty to me, she is pretty too and she is the same shade as olivia from g-unit and it is the same color but different under tone they look totally different the girl look good, olivia not so good -MO

 

[beyondcute]

What kinda blond are we talkign here? I have a copperrish ligth brown color in ym hai. Some peopel call it blond but I look damn good with this color. Platinum, beach blond, and some other colors look awful on anyone. I knwo soem albinos that have platinum blon hair and it looks awful. I hat that color onanyone... BUT it all depends on getting the right color. I dont htink everything necessarily looks bad all around. My sisters and I were born with sandy brown hair also called dirty blond. Is it ugly? Nope. Its unique. Call me red-head, or sandy or dopper but dont call me ugly Ill haev to hurt cha!

 

[controlFreak]

I haven't read through all the replies, but all i can say is that MOST (apprx 99.9%) NON CELEBRITY black women sporting blonde do's look real bad. And i'm sure the celebrity women who appear to look good in magazines with the blonde do, would also look like like crap if seen in the flesh. The black skin undertone just does not suit MOST shades of blonde. Fortunately, there aren't many black blonde women here, the trend is more common amongst indians, and they look just as ridiculous.

 

[controlFreak]

I haven't read through all the replies, but all i can say is that MOST (apprx 99.9%) NON CELEBRITY black women sporting blonde do's look real bad. And i'm sure the celebrity women who appear to look good in magazines with the blonde do, would also look like like crap if seen in the flesh. The black skin undertone just does not suit MOST shades of blonde. Fortunately, there aren't many black blonde women here, the trend is more common amongst indians, and they look just as ridiculous.

 

[Sweetyb]

I voted "no." The question is like asking if white women look good with perms. Well, imo it depends on how it's done and who's wearing it and how the curls look on them, etc.

I personally can say some black women don't look so great with blond wigs, or, um, wigs period.

I think the poster who linked to a pic of Halle in blond was a good example of a black woman who looks great with blond hair.

 

[AceH]

I see waaaay too many of us going illegally blonde. I am currently trying to find my way back to my natural "roots" so to speak, and I have finally realized that I am not meant to have "straight" hair because my hair does not grow out of my head straight. I am not meant to have "blonde" hair because my hair does not grow out of my head blonde. IMO, we incur too much damage to our hair because we try so hard to "fit in" as far as society is concerned. Straightening and coloring our hair does cause some sort of damage whether we want to acknowledge it or not. HOWEVER, I feel that everyone should do what makes them happy, ESPECIALLY if it looks good...

Now, consider this theory: Blondes (in white society) do get preferential treatment compared to white brunettes. Whites have their own "complexes" and other issues going on just like blacks have our own issues... (we actually discussed this in one of my sociology classes in undergrad).

 

[Netta1]

I guess it depends... I've had my hair blonde and straight before and I have a brown complexion. Of coure now-a-days I prefer my hair napptural and I know that blonde hair would be too damaging of a hair color for me.

 

[jaded_faerie]

My choice was not listed, but here it is:

If they like it, then I love it!

agreed!

 

[esoterica]

My sisters and I were born with sandy brown hair also called dirty blond. Is it ugly? Nope. Its unique. Call me red-head, or sandy or dopper but dont call me ugly Ill haev to hurt cha!

i'm talking about bottle blondes. not natural ones. sorry if that wasnt clear.

 

[beyondcute]

Okay..... Do you think its just looks too white? Or fake?

 

[esoterica]

Okay..... Do you think its just looks too white? Or fake?

i have nothing against blonde hair. it looks great on lots of people. but when a group of women who are unlikely to have it naturally choose to get it artificially and it does not make them look any more appealing, and sometimes they look downright awful, i have to wonder why they do it. especially when it just happens to be the color that is held in such high regard by white hollywood/society.

 

[beyondcute]

....like blue eyes? I just thought it was wierd that you would point out a "standard" of white beauty while negesting the others. Every has heard of the blond haired blue eyed skinny white chick that America is raving about. And for someone to down black women that choose to sport the blond look Id expect them to be as close to natural as possible. Some people look at us and think that we relax to have straight hair. Wouldnt that be a white cop-out also? Now onthe other hand everything doesnt look great on every body or head for that matter but if she is happy with it then why hate? We look past all the accomplishments she's made in pioneering the way for black female atheletes and are more concerend about what her hair looks like..... I say if you got it great, if you dont and you want it buy it, or get it however you please. Would you consider your blue eyes (Im guessing thats you in your posts) could be considered fake and a cop-out to America white beauty standards? Pleae dont take this more than just a question, Im not trying to be mean or anything but I relaly would liek to hear your answer.....

 

[nchristina]

They look atrocious!

 

[esoterica]

....like blue eyes? I just thought it was wierd that you would point out a "standard" of white beauty while negesting the others. Every has heard of the blond haired blue eyed skinny white chick that America is raving about. And for someone to down black women that choose to sport the blond look Id expect them to be as close to natural as possible. Some people look at us and think that we relax to have straight hair. Wouldnt that be a white cop-out also? Now onthe other hand everything doesnt look great on every body or head for that matter but if she is happy with it then why hate? We look past all the accomplishments she's made in pioneering the way for black female atheletes and are more concerend about what her hair looks like..... I say if you got it great, if you dont and you want it buy it, or get it however you please. Would you consider your blue eyes (Im guessing thats you in your posts) could be considered fake and a cop-out to America white beauty standards? Pleae dont take this more than just a question, Im not trying to be mean or anything but I relaly would liek to hear your answer.....

ok, i think maybe i need to clarify at this point that i am wearing WHITE contact lenses. not blue.
ever seen marilyn manson? THOSE kind of contacts. in case its still not clear, heres a photo.

on someone with naturally light eyes they will be even brighter than they are on me. a bit like this:

and maybe you are right and i am a hypocrite. after all, my hair does have a few relaxed ends. or maybe you are wrong. as far as i'm concerned, just because i think p.diddys mom looks like a fool with her hair the way it is does not mean that i need to be sporting an afro. if you assume that because i think blonde hair looks dumb on certain women, that i am anal or ultra conservative about all things hair related then you are surely wrong. this thread is in reference to black women sporting "straight blonde hair" when it does not suit them. nothing more. what you choose to read into it is up to you.

 

[RainbowCurls]

asphyxxia, I think your white contacts look cool! I think it's a totally different thing from wearing blue contacts.

 

[esoterica]

asphyxxia, I think your white contacts look cool! I think it's a totally different thing from wearing blue contacts.

it's gonna be hot to death once i get some fangs!

 

[MeccaMedinah]

it looks great on lots of people. but when a group of women who are unlikely to have it naturally choose to get it artificially and it does not make them look any more appealing, and sometimes they look downright awful, i have to wonder why they do it. especially when it just happens to be the color that is held in such high regard by white hollywood/society.

That's pretty much how I feel about relaxers

 

[esoterica]

That's pretty much how I feel about relaxers

i'm glad someone sees what i'm saying.

 

[beyondcute]

No I was just wondering... Most iof the time when you hear someone sayign that somethign is "white" they seem more likely to embrace the natural look. I dont think anythign is wrong with your contacts. On my computer screen they came across as ice blue. Now on the other hand as a personal opinion I can understand you pointing out Pd Diddy's mom because I dont particularly care for her style of dress. BUT I wont down her and say she looks a hot sh!tty mess. I dont think we should down others or talk about how they look. With that said I will say that I have slipped and Im not perfect and Im sure Ive talked about people but Ive learned that if they like it then who am I to say they shouldnt do it (especially if its not hurting anyone.) ANd mecca Im with you too I think that ther eis nothing wriong with our hair and why shoudl we have to submit out hair and scalp to chemicals. I was relaxing for all the wrong reasons. But I dont think they are coloring thier hair to be more "white" or to assimilate further. Asphyxxia I do thank you for answering my question I dont think youre anal I actually think you have beautiful hair and a very unique personality. Your opinions are very interestign to me. Again thank for answerign without chopping my head off alot of peopel woulda cussed me out LOL

 

[esoterica]

No I was just wondering... Most iof the time when you hear someone sayign that somethign is "white" they seem more likely to embrace the natural look. I dont think anythign is wrong with your contacts. On my computer screen they came across as ice blue.

i see what you're saying about the pro-natural look. i do wear green contacts every now and then when i remember i have them. the white ones are for special occassions. highly unnatural.

Now on the other hand as a personal opinion I can understand you pointing out Pd Diddy's mom because I dont particularly care for her style of dress. BUT I wont down her and say she looks a hot sh!tty mess.

but she kinda does though with that wig...

I dont think we should down others or talk about how they look. With that said I will say that I have slipped and Im not perfect and Im sure Ive talked about people but Ive learned that if they like it then who am I to say they shouldnt do it (especially if its not hurting anyone.)

we might need to shut down the whole entertainment board if thats true... cause theres a whole lotta bashing going on in there all the time.

ANd mecca Im with you too I think that ther eis nothing wriong with our hair and why shoudl we have to submit out hair and scalp to chemicals. I was relaxing for all the wrong reasons. But I dont think they are coloring thier hair to be more "white" or to assimilate further.

i would like to believe that theyre doing it to look better in general. only problem is, most end up looking worse!

Asphyxxia I do thank you for answering my question I dont think youre anal I actually think you have beautiful hair and a very unique personality. Your opinions are very interestign to me. Again thank for answerign without chopping my head off alot of peopel woulda cussed me out LOL

thats ok, i might be blunt, im no cusser-outter. and thanks for the compliment.