Be honest, are you really happy with your hair right now?

[glamazon386]

Nope. I'm getting a weave. I can't deal with it right now.

 

[WesternEyes]

Not like I used to be. I over processed my hair horribly, and constantly dyed it many different colors. So my hair has no life and i'm transitioning to natural as a result of this. The two textures together are like oil and water. But i am loving my natural texture.

 

[SeatownSista]

No not really because it grows soooo sloooowly. Other ladies' hair on here seems to grow so much faster. It seems like I will never get to BSL. I swear I've been APL for the LONGEST time!

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

Now that I have a working regimen and I'm texlaxed, I'm pretty happy. I can actually feel and see the difference that persistence makes.

 

[lolo2470]

NO, I suffered a setback and I'm so upset about it. I was doing so well until I switched from Affirm to ORS Worst thing I could've done the whole middle section of my hair has broken off.

 

[Sunshine0801]

I love my hair right now. I just started bunning after I wash instead of braiding and it has made things so much easier.

 

[skipper]

pretty much, im kind of ready for a cut to give it some shape but i want to wait until i get some more length.

im watching 30 minute meals and im really feelin rachel rays (of all people) hair cut, the long layers are very nice.

other than that its been behaving very nicely now that i switched up my products i started using ors creamy aloe shampoo and the ors replenish pack that comes in bottle form my hair has been very happy now i just have to find someone to cut it by the time that rolls around my hair should be long enough to cut

 

[Duchesse]

It's crazy how many of ya'll with drool worthy hair aren't happy right now, but I totally understand.

As for me, my hair is too dark, too dry,and looks like it has come to a growth standstill. I've hennad twice this month to combat my warm weather OCD hair bleach pattern, but it's not as auburn as I would like it. I flat ironed last week knowing my hair can't handle it, and I noticed a bit of breakage, nothing too crazy though, but I have been seeing splits lately. I probably need a trim but don't want to lose any length.

On the upside, I'm happy that my hair didn't relax as straight as I thought it did. My wash and go's look so cute and curly and isn't that diff from my nat. txture, so I wont texlax again till Sept hopefully. I just really need to never flatiron my hair, thats all.

 

[Aggie]

Thrilled... except I need to get ANOTHER water softener. We moved and I've been rinsing my hair with bottle water. It's getting annoying, but it does the trick.

oooh Sareca, your hair looks delish!!

By the way everyone, I really love my hair right now. I feel that I made some really wise choices for my hair of late. One of those choices is the introduction of ayurveda hair products to my hair care regimen including henna. It's liberating to know that I no longer have to depend on chemical hair rinses to color my hair. Another wise choice I made is tried the crown & glory method of braids extensions as my new protective style.

My hair is responding very very well. I can't keep my hands off my new growth. My hair is responding extremely well to relaxer stretching as well and the C&G technique is making it fairly easy to do so.

ETA: Locabouthair, I know it can be extremely frustrating when our hair is not responding to all the care and attention we're giving it, but you know what, continue to love those tresses girl and in time they will respond in kind, okay honey. Good luck and don't give up.

 

[RegaLady]

I have extentions in, but I miss my hair, already.I love .hair. I just want the bangs to grow in and my bald spot. Soooooo, I guess I am not happy with my hair, right now. Well, I am well on my way!

 

[PrettyBlackHair]

actually I'm proud to say YES! yes I am very happy with my hair! it is beautiful, healthy, longest it has ever been, and I know ppl must be thinking "Is she mixed with something?" Nope! I'm an African-American young lady with 4 a/b hair and yes we can make it too! BSB here I come!!

 

[Isis]

I'm not. And I think that's what's preventing it from growing. let me explain. In the past when I was content with my hair, it suprised me by growing and did well but when it was at it's worst and all I did was focus on the breakage and the damage my hair stood at a standstill.

Right now, i'm underprocessed (I could pass for a natural and I'm not exaggerating). My nape is completly broken off. It's growing back but verrrryyy slowly. I'm constanly looking at other females, wishing I had their hair. I need to break this habit because my damage could be much worse.

I really believe not being happy with our hair right now can prevent it from growing just like too much heat, no moisture, etc...

Just something I was thinking about.

Exactly. And we can change how we feel about our hair in a hot minute. Just as one chooses not to feel good about their hair, one can just as easily choose to feel happy with their hair.


I am more than happy with my hair, underprocessed (also called, texlaxed) and everything! I love and appreciate my hair more each day and in turn, my hair thrives.

 

[MizAvalon]

For the most part yes. It's a work in progress though and will be forever, I imagine.

 

[jrae]

Yes! Its healthier, longer, stronger, shinier than its ever been. I've found products that give me good results, so I'm very happy.

 

[gradygirl]

Yes and no. It is growing nicely but as it grows my hair is turning on alot of products that were my staples so now I have to figure out what to use on my hair just when I thought I had my regimine down pat. It's very frustrating.

 

[MonPetite]

For the most part...I miss my length. My TWA keeps me looking for accessory ideas. The flower has returned to my wardrobe.


I'm still looking for a leave-in that gives uber shine AND moisture though. Sigh.

 

[Traycee]

Honestly.....I want it to grow longer..but I'm happy with the health of my hair ....Between what I already knew and the things that I learned from you ladies took my hair over the top....

Very happy

 

[gymfreak336]

I'm on the fence. I have more good hair days than bad but I don't feel like it is as good as it could be.

 

[vestaluv1]

I am NOT happy with my hair right now AT ALL.
Um...I never really have been, but I am trying to change that now.
Don't focus on the negative so much. Focus on your goals and tell yourself that it will change because I do feel that negative attitudes more often than not lead to unfulfilling results.
I also have severe breakage around my nape area. It's a pain.
But lets get results together! It's just gonna take time and patience .
Hang in there.

 

[Moonxyz]

Despite protein and extra moisture I still have breakage and lots of shedding .

I don't know what to do

 

[cecilie]

I want more lenght in my nape area .

 

[DivaD04]

no...i want to be at my first goal sl right now working on my next goal

 

[hothair]

Despite protein and extra moisture I still have breakage and lots of shedding .

I don't know what to do

What's your full regimen someone here may be able to help.

 

[Moonxyz]

I Dc 2 -3 times a week with a dc conut treament + coconut nilk

Moisturise 2x a day (usualy shea butter0

my hair seems to hate protein (at least mild or hardcore). so i'm thinking about just mixing 1 beaten egg to my conditionner.

Anywyas my hair is a mess ; I just have to touch a little and tons of hair comes out

 

[Sequoia]

It's alright- it's thicker now- though had to cut off damage to achieve this. It grows a bit slowly but i'm trying to be more patient. And when i get too frustrated i braid it up.

 

[KiniKakes]

I'm not happy with mine. Ever since I stopped taking progress pictures a few months back, i feel like i've been slipping!

I realize, in retrospect, that there is just something about having to be accountable (via pictures every 3 months) to others that makes me stay on my p's and q's when it comes to hair care. I swear in these last several months I havent moisturized, barely DC, no protein treatments, and havent taken any hair vits. *smh* The only thing i do these days is wash once per week and protective style. At least that hasnt changed.

I've decided to go back to taking my pictures because i know when i had those pics coming up, i was taking care of my hair properly! These days my hair is sooo neglected, and it deserves some TLC again! So i decided to make myself accountable to my hair by committing to every 3 months hair pics. At least then i know i'll be doing the right things to my hair, as i cant tolerate the shame of not coming correct for my hair fam come picture time. That alone keeps me on point.

 

[LynnieB]

I Dc 2 -3 times a week with a dc conut treament + coconut nilk

Moisturise 2x a day (usualy shea butter0

my hair seems to hate protein (at least mild or hardcore). so i'm thinking about just mixing 1 beaten egg to my conditionner.

Anywyas my hair is a mess ; I just have to touch a little and tons of hair comes out

Moonxyz, shea butter doesn't make a good moisturizer if your hair is dehyrated. the #1 ingredient should be water followed by anything else.

try to put together a nice water based moisturizer. find a spray bottle and add to it a couple tablespoons of a non-silicone conditioner (try suave, vo5 or nature's gate) and perhaps a couple tablespoons of veggie glycerin. start simple, later on you can add other things like an oil.

use this in the morning then again at night before you go to bed.

also try a deep conditioner like lustrasilk (the orange one) or lekair (the green one), aubrey organics honeysuckle rose. even elasta qp dpr-11 and ors replenishing packs make for good conditioners too.

when and if you need a protein cond. then use something very mild like aubrey's GPB - it will not leave your hair dry.

for a good way to jump start your moisture levels, next time you wash your hair and deep condition it, leave the conditioner in your hair overnight with a showercap.

it may take a week or 2 (maybe 3) to see an improvement so you're going to have to stay ontop of your moisturizing game - don't forget to do it or get lazy.

 

[StarFish106]

I'm happy with my texture but I am wishing my sides grew in more. They are so short and it seems like nothing is going on with them. I co-wash 2x a week and wash on the wknd. I don't use direct heat and have been wearing braidouts for the last 2 months. I don't know why it is doing this. I still want length as well but right now I need to work on my sides. I may put braids in this summer.

 

[MD_Lady]

I'm not. And I think that's what's preventing it from growing. let me explain. In the past when I was content with my hair, it suprised me by growing and did well but when it was at it's worst and all I did was focus on the breakage and the damage my hair stood at a standstill.

Right now, i'm underprocessed (I could pass for a natural and I'm not exaggerating). My nape is completly broken off. It's growing back but verrrryyy slowly. I'm constanly looking at other females, wishing I had their hair. I need to break this habit because my damage could be much worse.

I really believe not being happy with our hair right now can prevent it from growing just like too much heat, no moisture, etc...

Just something I was thinking about.

First, let me start off by because I ALWAYS do what you stated in bold. This forum is the first place I've done this in a constructive way. Seeing the beautiful heads of hair on this board motivate me to improve upon what I already have instead of tearing myself down and asking "why me".

IMO, the main way not being happy with your hair keeps it from growing is that you get in a rut and focus on what's wrong instead of doing what you can to make it right (at least, that's what happens with me). Also (with me, any way), when you notice damage and breakage, you're constantly examining and pulling at it, which could cause fragile hair to break more. Plus, when your frustrated and unhappy with your hair, you're less likely to feel motivated to do the things necessary to fix it.

Stay positive because this really is a work in progress and things WILL get better!!!

 

[MD_Lady]

I'm happy with it. It's growing better than I had expected. And I am learning so much about my hair and texture, so for me that's been fun

What a wonderful attitude to have That's how I'm trying to approach my hair journey. I'm currently relaxed (and have been for about 16 years), but I'm realizing that I still have a lot to learn about my hair.