greenmetro99
Well-Known Member
Hello ladies, give me your opinion !!
I met a guy 1 month ago. He is a 40 year old professional guy, never married. He’s very nice and calls and texts all the time. So I talked to him a lot. But here’s the problem. He doesn’t seem to be a good planner. He invites me on dates, but never makes a plan about what restaurant or a definite time. It seems like he wants me to tell him a time and place… I’m not use to that.
On the first date, I came up with a quick plan because I saw he wasn’t going to take initiative. There was a screening going on at a local theater so I don’t out to his neighborhood about 20 minutes away from my home….no problem. He showed up 13 minutes late and didn’t really have an excuse other than “I’m not perfect. He only lives about 5 minutes away from the theater so he didn’t have much of a drive. Ok I looked over that. We had a decent time. He paid for the date food and drinks. And asked me out again that same day.
So he had a whole week to plan the second date. I’ve talked to him on the phone a lot during this week, so I assume the date was still on for Saturday. At 3pm he calls and asked if or not we still were going out. I said of course….you invited me out! So I assume we were still going. Then I asked him what we would be doing, restaurant, time, etc. He was clueless.
He kept saying that he doesn’t know my area well so he wasn’t able to find a restaurant or bar. There are 100s of lounges, bars, restaurants in my area……The thing is that he only lives 20 minutes away from me and he works in my area regularly lol. He could easily went on any restaurant review website to find a local restaurant, recreational center, movie theater, laser tag etc.. I explain to him that this is awkward because there is no plan, I don’t know what attire to wear, etc. He said I seemed mad. He told me he wasn’t perfect again…… I was mad and I canceled the date. Was I wrong to cancel plans? He was very nice. But I don’t see a point in dating a man that won’t take the lead.
I have no problem with making plans… But the first couple of dates I’m use to the man initiating the plans. He asked me out!
Let me know what you think ladies
I met a guy 1 month ago. He is a 40 year old professional guy, never married. He’s very nice and calls and texts all the time. So I talked to him a lot. But here’s the problem. He doesn’t seem to be a good planner. He invites me on dates, but never makes a plan about what restaurant or a definite time. It seems like he wants me to tell him a time and place… I’m not use to that.
On the first date, I came up with a quick plan because I saw he wasn’t going to take initiative. There was a screening going on at a local theater so I don’t out to his neighborhood about 20 minutes away from my home….no problem. He showed up 13 minutes late and didn’t really have an excuse other than “I’m not perfect. He only lives about 5 minutes away from the theater so he didn’t have much of a drive. Ok I looked over that. We had a decent time. He paid for the date food and drinks. And asked me out again that same day.
So he had a whole week to plan the second date. I’ve talked to him on the phone a lot during this week, so I assume the date was still on for Saturday. At 3pm he calls and asked if or not we still were going out. I said of course….you invited me out! So I assume we were still going. Then I asked him what we would be doing, restaurant, time, etc. He was clueless.
He kept saying that he doesn’t know my area well so he wasn’t able to find a restaurant or bar. There are 100s of lounges, bars, restaurants in my area……The thing is that he only lives 20 minutes away from me and he works in my area regularly lol. He could easily went on any restaurant review website to find a local restaurant, recreational center, movie theater, laser tag etc.. I explain to him that this is awkward because there is no plan, I don’t know what attire to wear, etc. He said I seemed mad. He told me he wasn’t perfect again…… I was mad and I canceled the date. Was I wrong to cancel plans? He was very nice. But I don’t see a point in dating a man that won’t take the lead.
I have no problem with making plans… But the first couple of dates I’m use to the man initiating the plans. He asked me out!
Let me know what you think ladies