^^ i agree. i live here now and am originally from atlanta. the men are successful and have things going for themselves, but the one's i've come across are not looking to settle down as another poster stated. kind of a double edge sword....
Yep....
That's basically it in a nutshell.
it's not hard at all to find a date in DC. Guys are everywhere and fairly aggressive. But the DC mentality amongst blacks is very different than other places I've been. DC is a very pretentious city. It's about who has what title, where do you work, what's your status and yada yada. Men know that women outnumber them here, so until they're ready to settle down they feel like they can try and see what they can get until you call it quits. They also know that there's another girl out there that will prolly do what you wont. I mean i've had two guys that wanted to get in a serious relationship with me so far and my problem is that they just aren't my type of guys for and I'm not really into them like I thought I would be.
To sum it up, they think they're cuter than they really are, if they have connections they really think they're the ish, and they aren't used to a more "southern belle" idea of dating. They think all black women want them and think they're special if they got a job and a car. True story--i had a couple guy friends tell me they think they're hot ish in these streets because they got a degree, a car, and a job. You'll find a lot of single early to mid 30 yr old men out here.
OMG...you hit the nail right on the head with this one.
This describes the DMV area almost completely to a T!
We have to remember that DC IS a very pretentious city...espcially for BLACKS. Remember, this is where the "March on Washington" was located and Dr. King gave his memorable speech. This is also the location of several well-known HBCU's (ie. Howard). If you were black in the 60's and had a govt. job in Washington D.C., oh you were basically a hot commodity! Even if all you did was secretarial work or mopped the govt. marble floors.
Typically, people in this area (or maybe just the East coast in general) are usually VERY well educated, well read, Washington Post & New York Journal readers, etc.
So I can see why SOME blk men have this silly mentality.
And yes, while it's not too hard to get a date in this area, the amount of men who are willing to actually SETTLE down and marry become increasingly LESS in number. It's a rare commodity here it seems.
Cost of living here is so HIGH, that it's not rare to see a LOT of young 20-somethings still living at home w/their parents. Epsecially in this dying economy.
My main beef is that the men seem to feel like they're God's gift, feel like they can stay single waay up into their mid-late 30's, and feel like every woman wants them. Puh-leeze!
Many men don't care about wasting a woman's time if she's in her 30's, because they figure they'll just snag a young 25-year old woman when they're done w/the 30-something woman.
I mean don't get me wrong, I think men and women in
general are getting married older and at later times these days. But it seems that the age is higher here in this area for some reason.
Idk....Maybe it's just sour grapes I guess, but I feel like I need a change from this area.
There's a lot to do here, but a lot of times I think the men feel entitled or "special" because they know that they are few in relation to the population of women.
oh well...
