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Sewing & Growing Gamma Gal
A few weeks back I went to a spa with 2 " budding" friends. One who is on marriage #2 and the other who has been in her relationship for 8 years (((no she does not want to get married. She has already been married) I know that statement will come up)
This is how the conversation went:
8years: Damn I have to call him to say goodnight but I don't want him to know that I went to the spa.
Me: why not? will he get upset
8years: No, he won't get upset, I just don't want to have that conversation.
Me: What conversation? If he won't get upset then what's the big deal.
8years: I just don't want to have that conversation.
Me: I am confused. Is it going to be a negative conversation?
8years: No it's not going to be negative. You just don't understand. That's why you don't have a man.
Me: as if I have never had one before?
8years: (to the married woman) you understand what I's saying right?
marriedwoman: shakes her head in agreement
8years: sometimes in relationships you have to tell little white lies
Later on that evening the topic came up again and she stated that her man really does not like it when she does things w/o him and he likes to whine, so to prevent that she just doesn't mention certain things to him. I said okay and left it at that because clearly the single chic has no clue.
It got me to thinking are little white lies acceptable? When are they not? Don't these lies turn into arguments (when found out) and make people suspicious later on?
This is how the conversation went:
8years: Damn I have to call him to say goodnight but I don't want him to know that I went to the spa.
Me: why not? will he get upset
8years: No, he won't get upset, I just don't want to have that conversation.
Me: What conversation? If he won't get upset then what's the big deal.
8years: I just don't want to have that conversation.
Me: I am confused. Is it going to be a negative conversation?
8years: No it's not going to be negative. You just don't understand. That's why you don't have a man.
Me: as if I have never had one before?
8years: (to the married woman) you understand what I's saying right?
marriedwoman: shakes her head in agreement
8years: sometimes in relationships you have to tell little white lies
Later on that evening the topic came up again and she stated that her man really does not like it when she does things w/o him and he likes to whine, so to prevent that she just doesn't mention certain things to him. I said okay and left it at that because clearly the single chic has no clue.
It got me to thinking are little white lies acceptable? When are they not? Don't these lies turn into arguments (when found out) and make people suspicious later on?