Anyone else just NOT feeling like dating right now?

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vivEz daNs lamouR

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I'm really happy where I'm at!

My life is going really well, I've finished school, I have a job, I have my own place, my pooka is with me (my dog). I'm really content with my life as it is, and when I get an offer from a man for dinner or talks about relationships, I'm like "...But I'm so comfy but myself!" :lachen:

Does anyone else feel this way?
 
Girl its how ive been feeling for a while now, Im finally at a place spiritually and emotionally that makes me ge who I am I finally know who i am what i stand for and what i want and its so nice to celebrate that I feel like im not missing anything...before (during my mini meltdown which lasted about 2 and half yrs, it had nothing to do with men btw) when i didnt have a man I wold feel like something is missing but I guess its cause something was missing deep within.

Ive gained a lot of persepective. I've deleted all IMS phone number and every way my ex can ever contact me. Ive also deleted all those contacts you know, those ones that consist of exes or dates, the hangers on that you text then take u out n make u feel better for a week or so (im in college so sometimes i just used them to take me somewhere swanky n get me nice food lol) but still bring so much drama on your plate, I really was the dating queen lol.

And now i cant be bothered to go out somewhere with a guy if I dont have real strong feelings for him and actually want something to develop. I have 3 worthy prospects at the moment but im still procrastinating over going on the 2nd dates cause Im not ready to share myself yet lol I'm just loving being the centre of my attention without distraction, i'll put it off til next yr lol
 
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Yeah I'm getting there. I am selfish right now and I know it. I like my life and coming and going as I please. I made a vow to stop dating yesterday. I'm just not in the mood and it's nothing that they've done :lol:
 
I looong to be in that place.

I have waaaay too many new men friends. Sometimes I leave my fone at home during the day or in the car just so I want be monitoring it etc. But here lately I have been struggling with a spirit of heaviness so I end up going out with one of the guys. I really don't like hanging out with women.

How long did it take you all to get content after the last relationship?
 
ME, ME, ME!

I just do not have time for the bulls^t to be honest with you. i am too old for games and the foolishness.

Plus, i like being this way.
 
For me, there's just too much on my plate right now to deal with dating and the issues that surround it. I'm not saying that I won't date in 2008/2009 but right now, I just can't be bothered.
 
YOu know, I was thinking about this. It's been about 6 months since I stopped dating this guy that wasn't for me. :nono: Since then, I've been SINGLE, and I mean totally single. NO more having 3/4 guys on rotation all cause I was lonely or just accepting dates even though I didn't really like them.
This is the first time in my life that I am totally single. SOmetimes I get down but I got this email from the LOA folks. It said:

"Overwhelment is about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you. You're just not ready to receive it right now. "

So in the times I"m really sad or not content, I realize that maybe I'm just not ready to meet the one for me yet because I"m not ready. So I'm working on me now and doing things that make me happy. :yep:

So no, I dont' feel like dating now, not at all.
 
I feel like this. I am content with not dating right now. If I had to start dating right now, I definitely would not be looking forward to it..
 
:lol: Yeah, I'm kinda feeling like that. I finally decided to give my last relationship the boot; it just wasn't working; we just weren't really clicking.

And I've made some great progress in 2008 and I"m loving where I'm at right now :yep:

I'm still open to dating though :grinwink:, but I'm not anxious about it since I"m really just so cool being w/ me. I've learned so much lately, I feel that my next relationship (whether he's future hubby or not) is going to be a good one :up::up::grin:
 
Yes....
Sometimes I do get lonely and want someone to talk to (sex):look: I just don't want to be bothered by a boyfriend. A long time friend of mine is making moves on me now that I'm single. He's great, driven, high morals...but I just don't want to be bothered by a relationship....Uggghhh
 
Meeeeeeeeeeeee. I have a LOT on my plate right now ( and its going to be like this for the next two years). I want to move forward in my current career and I need to keep my GPA up and for me everytime I'm in a relationship it sinks like crazy. When I'm single its all A's and B's. I am very driven right now on my career goals so a relationship right now does not fit into that. Maybe if down the road I find a man that also has a lot of drive then I can make that move but for right now I have yet to meet any guys who are that focused.
 
itismehmmkay said:
:lol: Yeah, I'm kinda feeling like that. I finally decided to give my last relationship the boot; it just wasn't working; we just weren't really clicking.

And I've made some great progress in 2008 and I"m loving where I'm at right now :yep:

I'm still open to dating though :grinwink:, but I'm not anxious about it since I"m really just so cool being w/ me. I've learned so much lately, I feel that my next relationship (whether he's future hubby or not) is going to be a good one :up::up::grin:
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I so agree with the bolded. I love where I am right now very happy with how things are going eventhough I'm currently not dating anyone. I'm just loving life and me right now..... I feel so content in my skin :grin:
 
^^ yeah IA part of me being reluctant to actually pursue anything is cause of college, there is a lot on my plate when im all googly moogly (in love) its hard for me to concentrate on anything else...history has proved that... lol
 
I'm reluctant to dating, but mostly because I've not been meeting men of quality which is discouraging to say the least. I'm happy with being me, that goes without question, but I'd love to have a companion, because I've been single for quite some time. But since I won't settle for just any old thing, then single I shall remain. I'm just tired of the disappointment, and very reluctant to keep putting myself out there only to get disappointed all over again.

In the new year I'll be working on getting ME in BETTER shape in all aspects of life. Man or not, I plan to live a happy and full life.
 
I'm not into "serously" dating right now. I'm looking for casual socializing while I get myself and my priorities in order.

I'm gonna stop putting it on the opposite sex and say, all of em steppin to me are dogs blah blah...but I will say that I need to check myself, make sure I'm not a "dog" in disguise and have all my ish straight, because you know what they say. "All Dogs attract fleas." I'm just using this time to focus on me, while I have all the time in the world to do so.
 
Me. I 'am comfortable in this skin without sharing it with a man right now. My last relationship took so much of my energy. Now it's time to rejuvenate.
 
Me too. My life is really busy right now, while I'm trying to get into a grad program. But for a while now I just haven't wanted to be bothered. Sexism is alive and well, and I just don't want to deal with it.
 
val1212 said:
Me. I 'am comfortable in this skin without sharing it with a man right now. My last relationship took so much of my energy. Now it's time to rejuvenate.
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That's how I felt. I am like emotionally drained right now. I don't have the energy to remember to call somebody back. I forget, I fall asleep, I work, I watch reality tv, :look:, I go out. I don't like people keeping tabs on me either.

I just don't feel like being bothered. Relationships take time and effort and dating takes 10x more because you have to remember you made plans with one, told another you would call him back two days ago, send the guy you don't want to talk to on the phone an e-mail. I can't do it. Or I just don't feel like doing it. Then the games they play don't make it any better. I really don't want to hear about your day at work or your next investment/business plan. I can buy myself dinner, thanks.

The funny thing is that I'm fine with that. I don't find myself thinking about somebody who isn't thinking about me or trying to get into some man's psyche. I believe this will help in the long run, because I have more time to focus on me and when/if I feel like dating again it won't be so contrived. It should just flow (hopefully).
 
KEIONI'S MOM said:
I so agree with the bolded. I love where I am right now very happy with how things are going eventhough I'm currently not dating anyone. I'm just loving life and me right now..... I feel so content in my skin :grin:
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:grin::grin: Man, such a fun feeling.

Like I'm in a place where I just want to go out and have fun, look cute, and chat up w/ people no pressure. I hate going out w/ folks who are always on the hunt :o
 
itismehmmkay said:
:grin::grin: Man, such a fun feeling.

Like I'm in a place where I just want to go out and have fun, look cute, and chat up w/ people no pressure. I hate going out w/ folks who are always on the hunt :o
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Yes!! Tell me about it!

I cannot stand going out with girls who are always on the "lookout" for some man. Or, you see them at a party, and they walk in scoping the room for the "hotties", and don't even really seem to be relaxed and having fun because they're so busy being so pressed to make a good impression for all of the men in the room. They always look sooo desperate. :rolleyes:

After starting "The Rules" a few months ago, I feel like I'm in a better place emotionally, and mentally. Now days, when I go out, I go out to look cute and have FUN! No worrying about what guy I may run into, or whatnot. I'm finally at a place in my life where I'm slowly but surely becoming more and more comfortable with myself.

HOWEVER...with all of that said, I WOULD like a relationship. I won't even lie. :look: When I say "relationship", I mean a casual developing relationship for right now. Nothing TOO serious yet, but just a good friendship with a guy turning into something more down the line. :yep:

It would have to be a guy that I'm REALLY interested in though, because I too am getting kind of tired of trying to feign (sp?) interest in a dude just because he's okay-looking and seems to like me. :nono: I find that I get bored with those types of guys. I'm thinking: "What's the point?" I don't really like the guy anyway. When I was juggling 2 or 3 guys at a time, I felt like I was being dishonest and unfair to some of them. BUT...I would still keep a pair and a spare in the future if it suits me. :giggle: I find that you're not as pressed for one guy. They would have to be guys that I'm really interested in though.
 
itismehmmkay said:
:grin::grin: Man, such a fun feeling.

Like I'm in a place where I just want to go out and have fun, look cute, and chat up w/ people no pressure. I hate going out w/ folks who are always on the hunt :o
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Girl, say it again!!! OMG, there are some girls I know that are like this. When I tell them I went out their first question is, "was there anyone cute there?" or "did u meet anyone"..:rolleyes: Geez. Relax.
 
MissCooth said:
That's how I felt. I am like emotionally drained right now. I don't have the energy to remember to call somebody back. I forget, I fall asleep, I work, I watch reality tv, :look:, I go out. I don't like people keeping tabs on me either.

I just don't feel like being bothered. Relationships take time and effort and dating takes 10x more because you have to remember you made plans with one, told another you would call him back two days ago, send the guy you don't want to talk to on the phone an e-mail. I can't do it. Or I just don't feel like doing it. Then the games they play don't make it any better. I really don't want to hear about your day at work or your next investment/business plan. I can buy myself dinner, thanks.

The funny thing is that I'm fine with that. I don't find myself thinking about somebody who isn't thinking about me or trying to get into some man's psyche. I believe this will help in the long run, because I have more time to focus on me and when/if I feel like dating again it won't be so contrived. It should just flow (hopefully).
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Dating can be fun but it's the bolded that I really dont like and I find myself doing whenever I start dating:rolleyes:
 
Dating a bunch of guys and trying them on for size is tiresome and played, so yeah, I'm sick of that part of it.

Wish I could just meet one or two really great guys to spend time with.

I did have a pretty nice date a couple of weeks ago but he ended up not being my type.
 
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