Anyone else feel weakened by love?

[Amour]

I must admit, I'm a strange character... Just ask my SO

But I'm starting to feel weakened by love. My SO is the first guy I've truly been in love with and it took me a while to come around to the idea. I was strong, independent and loved being alone. I had to learn to allow him to do things for me, to open up etc. Now I dont feel the way I used to, hate when he's not around and I'm alone, depend on him for alot of things etc.

We recently just had a big fight, although I told him it was over - I felt so vulnerable like I wouldn't be able to cope w/o him.

I really feel weakened by love... am I crazy? Is this a consequence of love? I've been trying to get back to how I was because after our fight (we made up) but its resulting in me distancing myself away from him... what gives?

 

[awhyley]

Dang KissKiss, you have been bit! Bitten by the love bug. From what you're describing, this one might actually be THE ONE. Being vunerable is a risk, the gravity of that risk is what you're feeling and you're scared, which is why you're distancing yourself from him. Depending on what the fight was about, you just might be pushing away the very thing you're looking for. If he's the one, go for it!

 

[itismehmmkay]

Sometimes love feels like a drug, so what you're feeling is a symptom of withdrawal.
If you do feel that it's best to breakup w/t he guy, you'll feel better in a couple of weeks.

 

[MissNina]

Well, I don't believe in "the one" concept, but I do think you're just in love and you have gotten accustomed to him being around. There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make you weak unless you start feeling like you can't leave him bc of it or you won't ever get over that feeling. Eventually it will pass.

It's okay to depend on him for things as long as you know you are fully capable of doing the majority of them yourself if need be.

 

[cmperez]

Love can make you feel very vulnerable if you're not use to letting someone in.

 

[lexi84]

Girl I understand, I totally understand. The reason why my man was so interested in me at first was BECAUSE of my independent attitude and my not wanting a relationship or anything serious for that matter. I avoided his phone calls, stand him up for dates and for some reason that intrigued him. The challenge I guess. He said alot of women openly express that they want a relationship before they take they time to get to know a guy and I was the first woman he met that felt other wise......


But now....

*sigh* I'm so gone.......

 

[Spongie Bloom]

yes im the type of person when i feel all those googly moogly feelings it makes me feel a little unhinged and irrational, i prefer my level headed and centred self so yeah i feel weakened by love. I always need to remind myself that while i love having him around in my life i dont actually need him to be in my life

 

[Trinity1]

My SO and I have been together since February of this year and I was dealing with the fear of knowing that I had fallen in love so deeply with this man. With that came MAJOR fear, and vulnerability and that combination can take you completely out of control if you're not careful. What I realize is that I was focusing on "us" too much. Kinda making him too much the center of my life and God does not like that. You will not have peace while doing that. God wants us to always put him first. So naturally once I started putting God first, my weakness for my SO started to become strength and confidence. Now I feel strong while being totally in love with him.


Trinity1

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

I feel the same way about my SO, we have only been together for 6 months, but I know in my heart that he is the ONE. I feel weak, like if he disappeared out of my life (god forbid) I'd be lost. I have never behaved or opened up for anyone like him either.
I don't think you should hold back.Everyone argues, and more times than not, it brings couples closer. Just move with the motions and never hold back to show him how you feel, he might read it wrong, especially if you start to act brand new.
Enjoy it, it is a beautiful thing to be in love and have such strong feelings towards someone you can depend on. Enjoy him and your relationship...he sounds like the one.

 

[*5+5]

hate when he's not around and I'm alone

*sigh* I'm so gone.......

^^^^^that's me all day!

I'm weakened by love also but I like it sometime

I love my baby to pieces and everybody knows it. I love feeling this way. I don't want to feel like, if this ***** act up then it's to the left, to the left or whatever. My baby is the sweetest drug and I love that!!! It doesn't matter where we are as long as we are together I'm happy. I'm sprung and it's okay so hey don't feel bad about being weakened by love. I wouldn't have it no other way. I'm all the way in, no guards up/walls, side pieces or anything. Being this vulnerable allows me to enjoy the good times and the love seems to fill my heart to capacity. When we're going through tough times it sucks but I don't feel like I'm manipulating love, myself or my baby this way.

 

[caribeandiva]

oh good! So I'm not crazy then.

 

[FluffyRed]

This is a great thread. Yeah, "unhinged" is a good way to describe it.

 

[Amour]

THANKS FOR THE REPLIES LADIES