TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
So, I know that technology has been a blessing. In fact, I WORK in IT, so I'm surrounded by it every day.
However, IMO, it has created "lazy dating" and bred a class of men that don't step up to the plate and "hunt".
Is it too much to ask for voice-on-voice communication early on? There's a gentleman who has had my number for about 6 months. We see each other on a regular basis at my side hustle job, and there is clearly some mutual interest, but he's never CALLED me. I get a casual text every now and then to which I'll casually respond, but I don't push anything. He's 40 years old. He has a mouth... He's said, in passing, "we should go out" to which I've responded, "You have my number, CALL me", but he never has. I'm not a chaser, so I just let it go and continue our mild flirtation.
This past weekend, he asked me if I was available this coming Friday, and I said yes... crickets chirping...
He came back later said he wanted to take me out, and I AGAIN said "OK... just give me a call, " At this point, I don't see how I can put it any plainer. What pall of CALL ME is so hard to grasp? I have well-meaning (nosy) coworkers that tell me I'm too "picky" or hard on men... Is this an example of that?
I dunno. I don't just randomly give out my number, and there was a time when giving your phone number meant that you were inviting conversation. What happened to "swag"? I think a man that's confident enough to CALL me and ask me on a date is sexy, but the consensus of my acquaintances is that I'm asking too much...
Is this how we communicate now?
However, IMO, it has created "lazy dating" and bred a class of men that don't step up to the plate and "hunt".
Is it too much to ask for voice-on-voice communication early on? There's a gentleman who has had my number for about 6 months. We see each other on a regular basis at my side hustle job, and there is clearly some mutual interest, but he's never CALLED me. I get a casual text every now and then to which I'll casually respond, but I don't push anything. He's 40 years old. He has a mouth... He's said, in passing, "we should go out" to which I've responded, "You have my number, CALL me", but he never has. I'm not a chaser, so I just let it go and continue our mild flirtation.
This past weekend, he asked me if I was available this coming Friday, and I said yes... crickets chirping...
He came back later said he wanted to take me out, and I AGAIN said "OK... just give me a call, " At this point, I don't see how I can put it any plainer. What pall of CALL ME is so hard to grasp? I have well-meaning (nosy) coworkers that tell me I'm too "picky" or hard on men... Is this an example of that?
I dunno. I don't just randomly give out my number, and there was a time when giving your phone number meant that you were inviting conversation. What happened to "swag"? I think a man that's confident enough to CALL me and ask me on a date is sexy, but the consensus of my acquaintances is that I'm asking too much...
Is this how we communicate now?