ellegantelle
Well-Known Member
(Posting this in the relationship forum because technically friendships are still relationships.)
I'm asking for advice on how I should handle the situation below:
My group of girls and I have been "tight" for almost 10+ years now. Amidst or busy schedules and lives we make a plan to hang out at least once a month and also make plans with each other on birthdays. We even get together in smaller groups 2 or 3 in between.
My birthday was earlier this month and my girls for together and planned a last min surprise party for me. At the end of the month is another friend's birthday in our circle.
I asked in a group chat what this friend wanted to do for her birthday. She came up with her ORIGINAL plan to get together on the day of her birthday and asked for input on whether people could make it on that day or the day after. I expressed that the day after would be better for me, but if majority rules for the day of her bday I would make it on that day for her.
She said we will ALL go with Friday and informed us of plans she has with someone else on the day of her birthday.
So on the day of her birthday I'm scrolling through my social media account and find that the four of my friends (all of them!!!) got together on the day of her birthday.
No one texted nor called nor group chatted about this get together.
I commented on the picture and said: hey wheres my invite?
The friend with the birthday responded and said it was just a quick last min get together and that Friday is still on.
But 1. I'm hurt that I wasn't invited to the "last minute" get together on the day of her birthday. We are all close, some closer than others but nevertheless a close group of females yet no one called or texted me about this.
2. It baffles me how my bday event was a last min get together but everyone got an invitation.
3. I never said I couldn't make any events on the day of her bday. I was asked which day I preferred and said Friday, which shouldn't have "x'ed" me out for the day of her birthday. Plus she said she made plans with someone in her family (not with us) on that day.
4. I don't know how to approach how I'm invited to one event and not the other and I'm considering not going to the upcoming event because of this whole situation.
So my question is: how would you handle this situation????
I'm asking for advice on how I should handle the situation below:
My group of girls and I have been "tight" for almost 10+ years now. Amidst or busy schedules and lives we make a plan to hang out at least once a month and also make plans with each other on birthdays. We even get together in smaller groups 2 or 3 in between.
My birthday was earlier this month and my girls for together and planned a last min surprise party for me. At the end of the month is another friend's birthday in our circle.
I asked in a group chat what this friend wanted to do for her birthday. She came up with her ORIGINAL plan to get together on the day of her birthday and asked for input on whether people could make it on that day or the day after. I expressed that the day after would be better for me, but if majority rules for the day of her bday I would make it on that day for her.
She said we will ALL go with Friday and informed us of plans she has with someone else on the day of her birthday.
So on the day of her birthday I'm scrolling through my social media account and find that the four of my friends (all of them!!!) got together on the day of her birthday.
No one texted nor called nor group chatted about this get together.
I commented on the picture and said: hey wheres my invite?
The friend with the birthday responded and said it was just a quick last min get together and that Friday is still on.
But 1. I'm hurt that I wasn't invited to the "last minute" get together on the day of her birthday. We are all close, some closer than others but nevertheless a close group of females yet no one called or texted me about this.
2. It baffles me how my bday event was a last min get together but everyone got an invitation.
3. I never said I couldn't make any events on the day of her bday. I was asked which day I preferred and said Friday, which shouldn't have "x'ed" me out for the day of her birthday. Plus she said she made plans with someone in her family (not with us) on that day.
4. I don't know how to approach how I'm invited to one event and not the other and I'm considering not going to the upcoming event because of this whole situation.
So my question is: how would you handle this situation????