cocoberry10
Well-Known Member
Hi Ladies:
I had to give my thread that title to catch your eyes. Anyway, I am a true believer of Christ, and I love the Lord. I am in my early 20's, and have been able to keep myself chaste my entire life. It has been extremely difficult, and I have had to go without boyfriends, etc. because of it. But I really do believe in abstinence for so many reasons, not just religious.
Anyway, my dilemma is this. I feel like all the men I meet just want to sleep with me, and are not looking for a true relationship. I don't say so, but many men tell me I am very pretty and sexy. I am really petite/small, but I am also very voluptuous (wear size 0-2, but have DD chest). A lot of men hit on me, and I have been told by friends that know I'm a virgin, that I don't "seem" like a virgin. They say many virgins don't have personalities and are stoic, but because I do, most men probably have no idea that I am one. I am not a wild girl, but I do have a personality.
I am beginning to feel extremely discouraged that nice, respectable men are nonexistent. I know there are good men out there, but I am just getting frustrated. Recently, a guy that I thought was a friend, basically told me that he has wanted me (sexually) for a long time; and he really wants to sleep with me. He keeps telling me what a good time we could have. What!? I let him know that I don't get down like that, and I didn't cuss him out, because he respects the fact that I wouldn't sleep with him, but inside I actually felt horrible. One of my friends said I should be happy that men find me attractive, because it could go the other way. However, I feel kind of sick and sad inside. I just want a good man, who loves and respects me. When I get married, of course I will be with my husband and please him sexually. But I don't want to just sleep around right now. Furthermore, I hate only being viewed as a sexual object. I am a kind-hearted, well-educated, compassionate, mature and loving woman, and I long for someone to see and appreciate that about me and not just see me as a piece of meat or ***!
I've been praying to God about this, but my heart is still not comforted. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you ladies, and sorry so long!
I had to give my thread that title to catch your eyes. Anyway, I am a true believer of Christ, and I love the Lord. I am in my early 20's, and have been able to keep myself chaste my entire life. It has been extremely difficult, and I have had to go without boyfriends, etc. because of it. But I really do believe in abstinence for so many reasons, not just religious.
Anyway, my dilemma is this. I feel like all the men I meet just want to sleep with me, and are not looking for a true relationship. I don't say so, but many men tell me I am very pretty and sexy. I am really petite/small, but I am also very voluptuous (wear size 0-2, but have DD chest). A lot of men hit on me, and I have been told by friends that know I'm a virgin, that I don't "seem" like a virgin. They say many virgins don't have personalities and are stoic, but because I do, most men probably have no idea that I am one. I am not a wild girl, but I do have a personality.
I am beginning to feel extremely discouraged that nice, respectable men are nonexistent. I know there are good men out there, but I am just getting frustrated. Recently, a guy that I thought was a friend, basically told me that he has wanted me (sexually) for a long time; and he really wants to sleep with me. He keeps telling me what a good time we could have. What!? I let him know that I don't get down like that, and I didn't cuss him out, because he respects the fact that I wouldn't sleep with him, but inside I actually felt horrible. One of my friends said I should be happy that men find me attractive, because it could go the other way. However, I feel kind of sick and sad inside. I just want a good man, who loves and respects me. When I get married, of course I will be with my husband and please him sexually. But I don't want to just sleep around right now. Furthermore, I hate only being viewed as a sexual object. I am a kind-hearted, well-educated, compassionate, mature and loving woman, and I long for someone to see and appreciate that about me and not just see me as a piece of meat or ***!
I've been praying to God about this, but my heart is still not comforted. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you ladies, and sorry so long!
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