CurleeDST
Well-Known Member
Ok so I was talking with some family members yesterday and one of them has a friend who is 50 years old. Slightly overweight, cute face, active member of a black sorority - graduate chapter, divorced with a grown daughter who is away in college.
She meets a man in church who is also 50 plus years old, single, never been married, no children, a deacon at the church, and temporarily unemployed. His car is also out of commission for 6 months and he lives in a rooming house.
Fast forward 18 months later. He still lives in the rooming house, his car is fixed but can't be driven out of town, he is working as a custodian (2nd job in 12 months) and he is still with my family member's friend who is active at the same church as he is.
Situation #1:
During the earthquake he went to his girlfriend's house to stay with her. When her electricity went out he left her there and went back to his rooming house. She was left to call all over town looking for someone to stay with.
Situation #2:
They were going out on date night and ultimately come to find out date night was staying home, watching a movie, eating pizza at her house.
Situation #3:
Her daughter can't stand him and he doesn't like her either.
Situation #4:
He says he doesn't want to be married and she claims she wants to be married again.
Overall, my family member and her daughter both think men aren't honest in the beginning of a relationship and it causes situations like these. My husband, nephew and I agree that it isn't that the men lie...they may want to be in a relationship - just not with YOU!
So my family member is trying to figure out how to tell her friend to drop this loser. I told her he must have something going on that we can't see which is why he is still around 18 months later.
What do you all think? Is he a loser simply b/c he may not be as financially secure, stable and driving the nicest whip?
She meets a man in church who is also 50 plus years old, single, never been married, no children, a deacon at the church, and temporarily unemployed. His car is also out of commission for 6 months and he lives in a rooming house.
Fast forward 18 months later. He still lives in the rooming house, his car is fixed but can't be driven out of town, he is working as a custodian (2nd job in 12 months) and he is still with my family member's friend who is active at the same church as he is.
Situation #1:
During the earthquake he went to his girlfriend's house to stay with her. When her electricity went out he left her there and went back to his rooming house. She was left to call all over town looking for someone to stay with.
Situation #2:
They were going out on date night and ultimately come to find out date night was staying home, watching a movie, eating pizza at her house.
Situation #3:
Her daughter can't stand him and he doesn't like her either.
Situation #4:
He says he doesn't want to be married and she claims she wants to be married again.
Overall, my family member and her daughter both think men aren't honest in the beginning of a relationship and it causes situations like these. My husband, nephew and I agree that it isn't that the men lie...they may want to be in a relationship - just not with YOU!
So my family member is trying to figure out how to tell her friend to drop this loser. I told her he must have something going on that we can't see which is why he is still around 18 months later.
What do you all think? Is he a loser simply b/c he may not be as financially secure, stable and driving the nicest whip?