30 Day Challenge- "Just Do it"

[Zaynab]

This challenge isn't necessary for me

But for anyone who feels like they could use a little spark. '

"JUST DO It"

And guess where that tag line came from? My pastor

We have study series at my church (I love my church, it's teaching and not preaching) Anyway.....this is what we're being charged with. Have more abundant sex and be fruitful as God wants us to. For folx that don't think you can be married and have a healthy sexual relationship and be Christ-like, well here ya go!

Apparently our pastor said he can't get the single folks to STOP doing it and can't get married folks to do it. What's up with that? I know your sex life falls off some......but apparently people get married and get bored. Married sex doesn't even sound exciting. Hot single, lusty sex does right?

Well who is down, put it on your calendar married ladies, and "JUST do it"

Other congregations (see link below) have done this very same challenge

We can have a daily check inTo make sure everyone is on 'target'. If you ask your dh, he will be very happy.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/11/13/earlyshow/living/relationships/main4598299.shtml
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/02/20/earlyshow/living/relationships/main3850842.shtml

* SO WHOSE IN for the challenge*

 

[amara11]

This looks like a great challenge for the married ladies.

Where are all the married folk?

 

[dlewis]

I remember trying this challenge last year after one of our members mentioned it. I couldn't hang.

 

[Zaynab]

I remember trying this challenge last year after one of our members mentioned it. I couldn't hang.

Oh come on D

 

[Zaynab]

This looks like a great challenge for the married ladies.

Where are all the married folk?

Knowing they need it the most

 

[dlewis]

Oh come on D

I'll have to take it a day at a time.

I'm sure he'll be all up for it.erplexed

 

[*Frisky*]

I remember trying this challenge last year after one of our members mentioned it. I couldn't hang.

girl I think this would be me too...I might last a good week..I would have to dig deep to pull this off hahahahaha

 

[dlewis]

girl I think this would be me too...I might last a good week..I would have to dig deep to pull this off hahahahaha

Look. my joints are already sore from running. Buttttt, maybe I could lose this extra weight with this exercise program.

 

[dlewis]

Knowing they need it the most

 

[*Frisky*]

Look. my joints are already sore from running. Buttttt, maybe I could lose this extra weight with this exercise program.

I feel you...maybe you and me can try a 15 day challenge to see how we do

 

[Zaynab]

girl I think this would be me too...I might last a good week..I would have to dig deep to pull this off hahahahaha

At my church, my pastor said "The single folks would do it in a minute and actually THEY are"

The reasons people give not even do the challenge---well that's the point

 

[dlewis]

I feel you...maybe you and me can try a 15 day challenge to see how we do

Alright. I started earlier in the week. So I'm down.

 

[Zaynab]

I think it's true that our attitude towards sex changes when we get married.

From an article discussing this:

And more importantly, I am convinced that a healthy married woman, who deliberately starves her husband for sex is likely operating in the realm of the demonic. Think about it, God invented both marriage and sex. It was he who brought Eve to Adam and gave them the command to be fruitful and multiply. The fact that the world has perverted sex by taking it outside the realm of marriage, does not change the fact that God made sex for marriage. If you are married, you should be having sex with your spouse

We women must understand that our sexuality is a gift for the husband God has given us. That many of us have abused and misused our gift outside of marriage is a sad fact, but not a permanent hindrance to a healthy married sex life. If you were sexually active outside of marriage, you were disobedient to God. If you are not sexually active enough in your marriage - guess what? You are still being disobedient.

But a gesture from your wife, that affirms you as a man, reminds you that you are loved and appreciated, that soothes and celebrates all at once - can’t be beat. And the last time I checked - it’s still free. So ladies, if you are reading this article, and you know that you have been out of order, confess and repent, then go minister to your husband as only his wife can.
I pray that God blesses your efforts!

 

[dlewis]

If I remember correctly it's anything goes.

 

[JustKiya]

I've tried. The nana cannot handle it, and she makes me pay for it, later. I can do 4-5 days a week, though. That's been almost our norm, lately.

 

[Zaynab]

If I remember correctly it's anything goes.

Hey whatever you wanna call sex can count for that day. I've gotten 1/2 my quota for today lachen:I will finish it off later.

 

[Vanity1]

 

[amara11]

At my church, my pastor said "The single folks would do it in a minute and actually THEY are"

The reasons people give not even do the challenge---well that's the point

Funny you say this. I JUST saw this article:

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200301/flanagan

It's called "The Wifely Dutey"

Quote that caught my eye: "Marriage used to provide access to sex. Now it provides access to celibacy."

 

[dlewis]

I've tried. The nana cannot handle it, and she makes me pay for it, later. I can do 4-5 days a week, though. That's been almost our norm, lately.

Give nana a break and use something else.

 

[JustKiya]

Give nana a break and use something else.

But that leaves me unhappy. *pout*

 

[dlewis]

But that leaves me unhappy. *pout*

oh, well, IDK. You seem creative I'm sure you'll think of something.

 

[JustKiya]

oh, well, IDK. You seem creative I'm sure you'll think of something.

erplexed Sadly enough, when it comes to sex, I'm so not the creative one. I need to work on that.

 

[dlewis]

Maybe you and he can make a list of things you want to try or redo and check them off as you do them.

I was recently telling DH that this is beyond BORING. I think it hurt his feeling but he's been up on his game since.

 

[JustKiya]

Dh would LOVE that, yes he would.

 

[dlewis]

Dh would LOVE that, yes he would.

Let me know how it works out. Don't forget going parking, being playful while at the movies, experimenting in every room in the house and in the back seat of the car (even if its in your driveway).

 

[Zaynab]

But that leaves me unhappy. *pout*

Well, I mean, what are you doing

Ahemm...he could and you could so that would count as sex I'm going to be using that system on some of those days. Ok who am I kidding, I"m putting in my 30 days minus cycle days. And well... oh nevermind.

 

[Zaynab]

Let me know how it works out. Don't forget going parking, being playful while at the movies, experimenting in every room in the house and in the back seat of the car (even if its in your driveway).

^^

Ya'll don't have any kids JustKiya right? Oh it would be on and poppin Try some sundresses and go commando, make yourself feel sexy so you want to be in the mood all the time. Walk around naked or cook naked in your heels or something

 

[Zaynab]

Dh would LOVE that, yes he would.

Surprise him and wake him up with or do it in some random place

 

[Zaynab]

I know you're down

 

[Vanity1]

^^

Ya'll don't have any kids JustKiya right? Oh it would be on and poppin Try some sundresses and go commando, make yourself feel sexy so you want to be in the mood all the time. Walk around naked or cook naked in your heels or something

I did this recently, I bought this white linen dress and didn't wear my delicates, so me and DH were out and he is always feeling on my butt. He feels and he asks me where my panties were, I looked at him and smiled.
When we got back home, he barely got in the door He was lifting my dress up I am like NEIGHBORS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Little kids riding bikes and s*it in front of our driveway !

I know you're down