29, never orgasmed with a man- is there something wrong?

[FearlessNik]

Yep

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[AltheaGarden]

I remember watching this documentary on HBO years ago, and I think most of the women said they experienced their first big O through masturbation. Is that true for some of you?

For me, yes. I will say that this may not true for a lot of women due to body shaming. I'be had female friends thought believed it was wrong for them to touch their own bodies because that was the role of their male partner and because they generally believe that vulvas are gross which doesn't make any sense to me.
ETA: I just thought more about your question. I've read studies/articles where women that initially thought something was wrong with them, once they tried masturbating, were able to figure out how to achieve orgasms alone and with their partners.

 

[bosswitch]

Y'all are making want to get some...

Don't think I've ever had the big o in the presence of a man...haven't felt comfortable enough w anyone to do so. I look forward to that day though

 

[mallysmommy]

Y'all are making want to get some...

Don't think I've ever had the big o in the presence of a man...haven't felt comfortable enough w anyone to do so. I look forward to that day though

And ive "benched" myself but ive learned a lot though

 

[cutiepiebabygirl]

Well...

I was with my son's father for like 5 years, no "O". He was vey well endowed (double digits) and 2 years older than me. He was my first, so I didn't know much. Looking back, I realize he was a selfish lover. He thought because he was well-endowed, he could just do whatever and I should "O". I too thought I was broke.

First time I had one, I was 24 and dated a guy that was 32. The very first time we had intercourse, he blew me away!! He was very take charge, which I found, I liked! He would grab me, put me here, flip me, put me there, slang me, carry me!

He was kinda rough, not in an S&M way.

He would whisper dirty things and say all this stuff to me. He was a decent size, but he knew how to work. He would tilt my pelvis and put me into all these positions to make sure I was um getting the full effect..lol. I'm assuming his age played a factor. Every time we had sex, I reached "O". I did not love him, I liked him a lot though. LOL

Another "O" experience was different, but still had the same big "O". This guy and I were in love, he was 3 years older than me. He was average size. We had real intimacy, when we made love, it was real love. He was very good at foreplay, I mean, I'd be so ready to go. He always wanted to make sure I was satisfied, and I felt the same way about him. We were both working to please the other. That combined with the emotional connection, gave me amazing "O's". He was not as take charge as the other guy, but he was vey good.

I was not 100% comfortable with my body, but once things heated up, I didn't care what I looked like!! LOL

I think different things can trigger the same result, just have to find out what you like.

 

[Mrs. Verde]

Also don't forget that you may not have an organism from penetration only. You or your partner may need to stimulate your clitoris at the same time. My position is doggy style. I know some women don't care for it. I LOVES IT. But to get off I have to work myself at the same time. Then pop goes the weasel.

If I'm on top, DH rubs one out. It's so funny, whenever I start rubbing on DH he says, you wanna bust one don't yo?

 

[LovelyLouboutin]

Very informative.

 

[spelmanlocks]

Probably a couple of months after I lost my V card to DH I figured it out, we were both 24. It's definitely takes some exploration to figure it out. Now I have one every single time. It helps to use your imagination. I like to think of DH and I in ridiculous situations, like the ones I read on literotica.

 

[QTPie]

And that's why I'm multi-orgasmic now!

LOLOL this is too hilarity!!

 

[ManeStreet]

penetration orgasms are amazing. but dangerous.... they really make u "bond" to that person. Its like that imprinting thing in the Avatar movie. Once a man gives u that big O, he is practically a crack dealer because u r hooked. That big O can mess your mind up if u arent careful. Its just that euphoric... continue at your own risk. lmao.

 

[BGT]

I used to love it from behind but we had an episode that scarred me. We were doing the spooning position and SO was pumping fast. Well, he went too fast and accidentally pulled out and hit me in the other hole. And his penis was obviously lubricated so it went in a little bit. That was the worst pain ever! Some of y'all might think he did it on purpose, but no, he hurt himself too. It was slamming his penis into a hard wall. So now, whenever we do it from behind or it's missionary and he lifts my legs, I get so uneasy thinking it might happen again.

 

[Maracujá]

I'm surprised y'all experienced such big o's in your 20s, I thought the sex didn't get that good till your 40s. I'm 27 and have never experienced an orgasm with a man, then again I've been single for most of my life.

 

[DarkJoy]

Was so comfortable and loved my exH, one time I had 3 big Os and constant little penetration ones for over an hour (he lasted a long time). I couldnt count anymore after 10. That was an amazing time.... we learned to do that over time...lots of clitoral stimulation then denial of the O for a couple of days leading to the big event. Then BAM! The first time we did that, I passed out for a few seconds after the first O.

Can't say enough that women have to learn their bodies. Explore it without shame. It's amazing what you find it can do for you AND your partner.

P.S. Dont forget those Kegels!

 

[Love718]

(virgin) *runs out of thread*.......*peeks back in 20 minutes later*

 

[Okay]

I used to love it from behind but we had an episode that scarred me. We were doing the spooning position and SO was pumping fast. Well, he went too fast and accidentally pulled out and hit me in the other hole. And his penis was obviously lubricated so it went in a little bit. That was the worst pain ever! Some of y'all might think he did it on purpose, but no, he hurt himself too. It was slamming his penis into a hard wall. So now, whenever we do it from behind or it's missionary and he lifts my legs, I get so uneasy thinking it might happen again.

Damn girl

I love missionary with the leg on his shoulder.. its amazing how flexible one can become when you REALLY want to be

 

[MrsJaiDiva]

I'm surprised y'all experienced such big o's in your 20s, I thought the sex didn't get that good till your 40s. I'm 27 and have never experienced an orgasm with a man, then again I've been single for most of my life.

Been havin em since I was a teenager.... Know Thyself! Plus I had some pretty generous lovers...that helps a lot too.

 

[itismehmmkay]

Get to know yourself first....and everything after that is gravy.

Well only 30% can squirt but many more women can orgasm from penetration with the right position and stroke.

These points. I'm not sure when I first had one, but I think what took time is just knowing where I needed to be physically and mentally to get there. With my current partner I have them pretty much each time. And if I know I'm bout to put it on him right quick, I go ahead and get in the position that I know will get mine either before him or during. I haven't even had taht many partners, but I think now I've had enough sex to know what positions do what, what other stimulation I need along w/ xyx to get where I need to be.

 

[MusicandWine]

I used to love it from behind but we had an episode that scarred me. We were doing the spooning position and SO was pumping fast. Well, he went too fast and accidentally pulled out and hit me in the other hole. And his penis was obviously lubricated so it went in a little bit. That was the worst pain ever! Some of y'all might think he did it on purpose, but no, he hurt himself too. It was slamming his penis into a hard wall. So now, whenever we do it from behind or it's missionary and he lifts my legs, I get so uneasy thinking it might happen again.

I had the same experience and always tense up when in that position, thinking about it.

 

[C@ssandr@]

Was so comfortable and loved my exH, one time I had 3 big Os and constant little penetration ones for over an hour (he lasted a long time). I couldnt count anymore after 10. That was an amazing time.... we learned to do that over time...lots of clitoral stimulation then denial of the O for a couple of days leading to the big event. Then BAM! The first time we did that, I passed out for a few seconds after the first O.

Can't say enough that women have to learn their bodies. Explore it without shame. It's amazing what you find it can do for you AND your partner.

P.S. Dont forget those Kegels!

 

[FelaShrine]

penetration orgasms are amazing. but dangerous.... they really make u "bond" to that person.

I reckon this is the case for Rhianna/Chris cos nothing else can explain it

 

[natural_one]

I reckon this is the case for Rhianna/Chris cos nothing else can explain it

Damn, Chris Brown and Rhianna have to be mentioned everywhere on the board??? What do they have to do with the the price of tea in China?!

 

[FelaShrine]

^are you on their payroll?

 

[pookaloo83]

When I had mine we were in the spooning position. Thats the only position that gets me really close to it. But DH doesnt like that position much. I love it!

 

[Danewshe]

When I had mine we were in the spooning position. Thats the only position that gets me really close to it. But DH doesnt like that position much. I love it!

Wouldn't he be willing to do it just for your benefit? My ex-lovers wouldn't have, prolly why I had to leave.

 

[Orchid1992]

Is it true that a lot of women don't like doggie? My mind can't process how one can't like that ish

 

[Layluh]

I got my first O at the age of 25 with a vibrator. And coincidentally, it was the very first time I'd ever smoked herb. I smoked and then all of a sudden I just got suuuuper horny and went in the room and started masturbating. I was able to have O after O after O for like an hour. It was amazing.

I was so excited, I left the room and told my then boyfriend about it, then went back in the room and kept doing my thing. I'll never forget that day.

 

[**SaSSy**]

Does anyone have multiples? Do ya prefer those over the BIG O?

 

[Leesh]

While finding a quality man is important....Because I know myself so well, and because I love myself....it doesn't matter the position or the man (with a few exceptions*), I will always get mine. You have to know yourself, and love yourself!

*except for two guys who were so small... This ride has a height requirement now...She don't accept anything but the best now. I have been known to destroy the self esteem of the weak.

And the tell it like it is award goes tooooooo....

 

[Leesh]

I think it has a lot to do with whether your partner is more concerned with pleasing you or himself...

Some women are hypersexual, which makes it easier for them to meet him at the finish line, but if not, your partner needs to put in work...

The mere fact that most men get to that point much faster then us is why a great percentage of women dont get there from just penetration alone...

My personal theory.

 

[melissa-bee]

I had my first orgasm with a man at about 18/19. It took a good hour but it finally came. It helps when you don't think about orgasming; I just enjoy the moment and then it happens.