29, never orgasmed with a man- is there something wrong?

[Danewshe]

While finding a quality man is important....Because I know myself so well, and because I love myself....it doesn't matter the position or the man (with a few exceptions*), I will always get mine. You have to know yourself, and love yourself!

*except for two guys who were so small... This ride has a height requirement now...She don't accept anything but the best now. I have been known to destroy the self esteem of the weak.

You're so right. That's why I'm celibate now. I'm so tired of these lame-diqued ninjas, plus I need to learn how to love mysef.

 

[DarkJoy]

These words are true!

I'm the same. It really does matter about how connected you are with a person. They say that sex is 90% mental and 10% physical. This is why sometimes if you truly are in love with someone, the bare though of being intimate with them can bring you to orgasm!

I have a couple friends in their 40s who have still NEVER had one. One is married and one is single. The married one will handle it herself. The single one won't for religious reasons. It really boggles my mind that there are such piss-poor lovers out there who don't even try on both sides of the coin.

If a man is bad in bed the first time, he doesn't usually get a 2nd time. Sometimes he gets humiliated on the way out.

 

[AudraChanell]

Id say try different positions that feel good to YOU.
Get on top him and move HOWEVER it feels best to YOU.
Be lubricated, pref NATURALLY excited, it will cause your clitoris to swell and wake up nerve endings. Just spend some time working with your anatomy to see what feels best to your clitoris then explain what that is to him.

 

[Qualitee]

What about those hour long orgasms 'Sting' talks about?

 

[Qualitee]

These words are true!



I have a couple friends in their 40s who have still NEVER had one. One is married and one is single. The married one will handle it herself. The single one won't for religious reasons. It really boggles my mind that there are such piss-poor lovers out there who don't even try on both sides of the coin.

If a man is bad in bed the first time, he doesn't usually get a 2nd time. Sometimes he gets humiliated on the way out.

Huh? Why?????? Is she celibate?

 

[DarkJoy]

The single one won't for religious reasons.

Huh? Why??????

Qualitee IDK. She is 42, right? But thinks of it as fornication...with herself . She is sure she will go to hell. Since we were teens should cant keep a man longer than 6mo. Time's a wasting. She needs to go on ahead and experience that at least once.

Since she's fornicated with dozens of men who leave already, IDK see the diff. plus its not like she's gonna leave herself! She's Baptist, btw...not some exotical religion.

 

[pookaloo83]

SB, you got a good Dh....and he cooks! Chile

Ok?! Lol

Sent From The Microwave Where I Warm Up Honeybuns With Cheese

 

[Danewshe]

See, this thread has dried up now that it's been moved. Who said I was in a relationship anyway? KMT!

 

[pookaloo83]

I had one once.......in 2006.

Sent From The Microwave Where I Warm Up Honeybuns With Cheese

 

[Qualitee]

See, this thread has dried up now that it's been moved. Who said I was in a relationship anyway? KMT!

Gurl, is 6pm EST people left work or school and now going home, cooking dinner and helping with HW etc.....at 8pm things will start back up again

 

[Okay]

I miss sex

Anywho, never had the big O. I think I had the mini o's... missionary feels darn good Like.. I was like "what have I been missing,damn!"..

 

[menina]

i've had great mindgasms

 

[Lucie]

My period came right before I left work. SIGHHHHHHHHH! OP, Qualitee was right. The thread did not dry. I am cooking now. Have to work out. Might rollerset my hair. My other work has started, LOL!

 

[AltheaGarden]

I miss sex

Anywho, never had the big O. I think I had the mini o's... missionary feels darn good Like.. I was like "what have I been missing,damn!"..

I'be always been a fan of missionary. It's a pretty close/intimate position.
It's my fav position after finishing oral.

 

[Orchid1992]

Minis happen all the time, but the biggies come from oral or doggie

 

[Danewshe]

Gurl, is 6pm EST people left work or school and now going home, cooking dinner and helping with HW etc.....at 8pm things will start back up again

Thanks for splaining, was starting to feel a little lonely on my quest to find the big O.

It's nearly 12am here, so perhaps I need to hit the sac anyway(all by myself of course). Night folks, thanks for all the responses so far, I'm looking forward to reading more in the morning.

 

[CaramelLites]

19 experienced first small "o" from oral.
20 experienced big "o" from penetration.

The difference between the two, then small "o" causes small tremors and quaking (leg shaking). The big "o" is more like the actual earthquake or tsunami. My whole body shakes and I'm unable to move this langour overtakes me. When the big "o" first happened I had aftershock waves for 20 minutes after the actual act.

 

[IronButterfly]

Yes- this is yet another sex themed thread! I'm ovulating, leave me alone!

But for real, I keep reading/hearing these stories about women having mind-blowing sex and I'm like..I wish I could experience that.

So my question to you all is, how old were you when you had your first orgasmic experience with a man and what did it take to get you there?

34. Lots and lots of weed.

 

[mallysmommy]

So what do you ladies have to say about those who havent expirience this yet? Are we doing something wrong. Our lovers?

Im celibate at the moment (hanging on lol) so i wont get even try to experience this until marriage.
#mercy lol

 

[MrsJaiDiva]

The single one won't for religious reasons.
Qualitee IDK. She is 42, right? But thinks of it as fornication...with herself . She is sure she will go to hell. Since we were teens should cant keep a man longer than 6mo. Time's a wasting. She needs to go on ahead and experience that at least once.

Since she's fornicated with dozens of men who leave already, IDK see the diff. plus its not like she's gonna leave herself! She's Baptist, btw...not some exotical religion.

I mean...Maybe you could push her into a sex shop, and then offer to buy her something since she's in there?

 

[Orchid1992]

So what do you ladies have to say about those who havent expirience this yet? Are we doing something wrong. Our lovers?

Im celibate at the moment (hanging on lol) so i wont get even try to experience this until marriage.
#mercy lol

Like someone upthread said, learn about yourself and you can instruct him on what to do.

 

[AltheaGarden]

Minis happen all the time, but the biggies come from oral or doggie

I've always had the best orgasms from oral.

 

[AltheaGarden]

So what do you ladies have to say about those who havent expirience this yet? Are we doing something wrong. Our lovers?

Im celibate at the moment (hanging on lol) so i wont get even try to experience this until marriage.
#mercy lol

You'll have to experiment on yourself. It's impossible to expect a partner to know what you want if you don't tell them. The only way you know what feels good for you is to figure out how your body/mind responds.

 

[Qualitee]

19 experienced first small "o" from oral.
20 experienced big "o" from penetration.

The difference between the two, then small "o" causes small tremors and quaking (leg shaking). The big "o" is more like the actual earthquake or tsunami. My whole body shakes and I'm unable to move this langour overtakes me. When the big "o" first happened I had aftershock waves for 20 minutes after the actual act.

Say what???!!!!

 

[ManeStreet]

Yes- this is yet another sex themed thread! I'm ovulating, leave me alone!

But for real, I keep reading/hearing these stories about women having mind-blowing sex and I'm like..I wish I could experience that.

So my question to you all is, how old were you when you had your first orgasmic experience with a man and what did it take to get you there?

Its a mental road block. U have to learn how to be 100% in the moment & not think about anything else. Just focus 100% on the sensations u are feeling in that millisecond. U have to relax & release. U cant even think about wanting to think about having an O.

U know how empty brained men look during the act???.. & become that. And once u do, you'll O big time!

 

[CaramelLites]

Say what???!!!!

Yes ma'am :secret:
I couldn't move for 20 minutes. It scared my SO at the time. All I could do was lie there and ride it out.

 

[mallysmommy]

I would like to say that all of you suck. Esp miss 20 min lady up here

 

[Briabiggles]

Its a mental road block. U have to learn how to be 100% in the moment & not think about anything else. Just focus 100% on the sensations u are feeling in that millisecond. U have to relax & release. U cant even think about wanting to think about having an O.

U know how empty brained men look during the act???.. & become that. And once u do, you'll O big time!

YES! I asked my ex once what he thought about during sex and he said ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! His mind was blank. We need to learn now to switch off the million and one thoughts.

 

[FearlessNik]

I think there's a multitude of reasons but it all falls on the woman formnotnknowing what she needs. Some men are selfish and dumb, and won't give you the D. But if you've indulged in some self lovin then you know what you need to make you happy. Then you need to teach/ train him to make you happy. I'm a pro at self loving and for years I was a faker with my SO. Then I said screw this. It's all about me. If I'm not happy no ones happy. If they eat one and I don't I throw a complete temper tantrum. They know well in advance to come correct and be prepared to work. I've never had one from straight penetration. It's a combo of penetrating/ grinding that gets me there every time (and no I do not care if your leg locks up. You should have done some squats at the gym). I accidentally discovered I could squirt. When I did I practiced what I did the first time to be able to do it more.

Stop letting these men have all the fun!

 

[Jasmataz]

I remember watching this documentary on HBO years ago, and I think most of the women said they experienced their first big O through masturbation. Is that true for some of you?