2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[baddison]

baddison sunnieb Cherry89 divachyk I have my plans to relax on the 24th...I can't wait either only because I'm looking forward to swinging my hair. This stretch has taught me a couple things:
1 - I truly have different textures on my head...as the ng end of shed hairs vary from mainly tight coils to loose waves....very interesting
2 - I now see how people stretch forever or end up transitioning - I had my first every dream last night of going natural and being a flat ironed natural...likely not going to happen but interesting as well.
3 - my hair is not nearly as unmanageable as I thought it was
4 - Once you manage your viewpoint regarding how your newgrowth looks it's much easier to stretch.

Nix08
Love your observations. I can truly agree with them all. I, too, have been entertaining thoughts/dreams of just leaving this ng alone to grow forever, and going natural. But then I "wake up"....LOL!! I think after I have reached my goal of FULL BSL/MBL I may consider transitioning. But not a minute before!

Like you, I have come to realize that managing natural hair - even managing the two textures of relaxed and natural - its not that difficult at all. I do everything in sections. And I am especially careful to treat my hair like pure silk and gentle lace. This means starting to comb and detangle from the ends at the bottom, and then slowly working my way up to the roots of my hair.

I love long stretches because it gives me the best of both worlds. The ability to play in my kinky-curly 4B new growth from time-to-time, and then the ability to enjoy flowing relaxed hair too.

Hmmmm.....I wonder if I can get away with stretching six months at at time, thus reducing my relaxers to only twice a year? Well - we'll see what 2014 holds.

 

[Nix08]

baddison I think relaxing twice a year is definately possible. I think it's something that I'll be able to do once I hit WL...because then there will be enough length on me to balance out the puffy roots...I also in part think that this is why this stretch has been easier in visual terms. At BSL-ish there is enough length to balance the lift of the ng.

 

[sunnieb]

I love long stretches because it gives me the best of both worlds. The ability to play in my kinky-curly 4B new growth from time-to-time, and then the ability to enjoy flowing relaxed hair too.

baddison you and I are >>>>here<<<<.

Nix08 you did make some really good observations. When I learned to stretch, I went through a transition of sorts. So many people look at my hair in its current state and call me "nappy". Makes me want to show off my kinks even longer. I'm having zero hair issues even with all of this dense newgrowth.

I know I'll go the natural route eventually, but I'll start it with my HL relaxed hair.

 

[sharifeh]

I'm exactly one week post today. Anyone wanna buddy up ?

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[Cattypus1]

xu93texas KiWiStyle shortdub78 yoli184 Altruisticoam

Hey, Ladies. I had to go a little early (3 days short of 12 weeks post). I've got work to do on Saturday and I wanted to relax when I was relaxed and not have to rush. 17 minutes from start to rinse. I made a mistake and didn't get butter blends this time and ended up with the fine/color treated Mizani. My scalp was much tinglier than usual and I don't think I'll use this again. I'll get some BB before I'm ready to relax again. I mixed a couple of tablespoons of grape seed oil and did my midstep protein. I think I had at least an inch of NG-slow grower. I'm bagged up and ready for my heat cap. Very, very little shedding, I think I've turned the corner.

 

[KiWiStyle]

xu93texas KiWiStyle shortdub78 yoli184 Altruisticoam

Hey, Ladies. I had to go a little early (3 days short of 12 weeks post). I've got work to do on Saturday and I wanted to relax when I was relaxed and not have to rush. 17 minutes from start to rinse. I made a mistake and didn't get butter blends this time and ended up with the fine/color treated Mizani. My scalp was much tinglier than usual and I don't think I'll use this again. I'll get some BB before I'm ready to relax again. I mixed a couple of tablespoons of grape seed oil and did my midstep protein. I think I had at least an inch of NG-slow grower. I'm bagged up and ready for my heat cap. Very, very little shedding, I think I've turned the corner.

Cattypus1 I can't wait to see your results!!! Do you believe the Mizani you used today left you with more or less texture?? I'm a slower grower too so you are definitely not alone, did you do better than you thought during LC?? "I think I've turned the corner." Sorry but what does this mean?

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[Evolving78]

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Hey, Ladies. I had to go a little early (3 days short of 12 weeks post). I've got work to do on Saturday and I wanted to relax when I was relaxed and not have to rush. 17 minutes from start to rinse. I made a mistake and didn't get butter blends this time and ended up with the fine/color treated Mizani. My scalp was much tinglier than usual and I don't think I'll use this again. I'll get some BB before I'm ready to relax again. I mixed a couple of tablespoons of grape seed oil and did my midstep protein. I think I had at least an inch of NG-slow grower. I'm bagged up and ready for my heat cap. Very, very little shedding, I think I've turned the corner.

i was thinking of going back to lye. i do want a little more texture to keep my hair stronger. the butter blends would leave me with a lot of texture vs fine/color treated. did it do it for you too? did you achieve length or thickness this time?

 

[Cattypus1]

Cattypus1 I can't wait to see your results!!! Do you believe the Mizani you used today left you with more or less texture?? I'm a slower grower too so you are definitely not alone, did you do better than you thought during LC?? "I think I've turned the corner." Sorry but what does this mean?

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I think it left me too straight. I know I will have to wash before I see the real deal. I was referring to my setback last spring. The 6-month stretch helped me to get thru the breakage. I lost a bunch of hair...at the demarcation, particularly at the crown where I was applying relaxer first. I didn't lose it all thank god and the breakage has finally stopped. I think the worst is over and now I'm back to growing and retaining. I've turned the corner from breakage to healthy growth and retention.

 

[Cattypus1]

i was thinking of going back to lye. i do want a little more texture to keep my hair stronger. the butter blends would leave me with a lot of texture vs fine/color treated. did it do it for you too? did you achieve length or thickness this time?

I don't think I achieved much in the way of length because my ends are still kinda raggedy and Ive been snipping but not too much. I really hate that look so I do twist-outs 99% of the time. I get the benefit of low manipulation and a fuller-looking head of hair with camouflaged crown and ends. I love the BB lye, I really don't like the fine/color treated-it doesn't hate me but its not really my friend, too straight from what I can tell. Glad I added the oil, I think it would have been beyond straight if I hadn't done that. My goal is to get to a w&g. I know I will eventually have to lose my bone-straight ends so its going to take a long time. I will definitely be getting some BB before the next go-round.
Are you feeling better? How's that little pumpkin?

 

[Saludable84]

I relaxed a week ago. I used the Mizani BB Lye normal. It left me with good texture that straightens pretty well with indirect heat. I'm sticking with this relaxer for while. It pretty much never fails me.

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[Cattypus1]

I relaxed a week ago. I used the Mizani BB Lye normal. It left me with good texture that straightens pretty well with indirect heat. I'm sticking with this relaxer for while. It pretty much never fails me.

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I love the BB line and I didn't even realize I had purchased the non-BB relaxer until I received it. I made the decision to use it with the added oil . It doesn't appear to have caused any damage but it is a lot straighter than I wanted. Oh well, minor setback for my "texlaxedness". Back to the BB for me!

 

[Kim0105]

Hey buddies, Babygrowth, sckri23, lovely_locks, Angelinhell, MissyB how is it going? I've been wigging it for the last week. I am getting ready to deep condition and re-row for this week and then back under the wig I go. Things have been super busy with me back in school. Thankfully, we will have help again next week so that should make things easier.
I am seriously considering ending this stretch at my original date of May 9th. That would take me to 18 weeks. I am 14 weeks post and have a little over 2 inches of newgrowth.

 

[MissyB]

Babygrowth, sckri23, lovely_locks, Angelinhell, Kim0105:
Hey there! I've noticed shedding within the past few days (still don't like it). I've been consistent with M&S nightly, maybe it's time for the 2 step again. I've been spraying the green tea keratin reconstructor stuff every so often. I don't have much new growth, there is some but not a huge amount. I haven't used any heat in 2 weeks!!!

 

[Babygrowth]

Hey buddies, Babygrowth, sckri23, lovely_locks, Angelinhell, MissyB how is it going? I've been wigging it for the last week. I am getting ready to deep condition and re-row for this week and then back under the wig I go. Things have been super busy with me back in school. Thankfully, we will have help again next week so that should make things easier.
I am seriously considering ending this stretch at my original date of May 9th. That would take me to 18 weeks. I am 14 weeks post and have a little over 2 inches of newgrowth.

Hey y'all! Hey Kim0105! Everythings good over here! Just plaits and wigs galore! I'm holding strong to June 1st although I'm getting that itch! Lol! That's a lot of Newgrowth you got there! Do you think you can hold out a few more weeks and relax with me on the 1st of june? If you can't I totally understand! I might end my stretch early too because I HATE wearing wigs when its warm/hot outside. I get super hot and my head itches like crazy! I'm 17 weeks post and in some areas I have close to 2in of ng and in others 1in...

 

[Kim0105]

Hey y'all! Hey Kim0105! Everythings good over here! Just plaits and wigs galore! I'm holding strong to June 1st although I'm getting that itch! Lol! That's a lot of Newgrowth you got there! Do you think you can hold out a few more weeks and relax with me on the 1st of june? If you can't I totally understand! I might end my stretch early too because I HATE wearing wigs when its warm/hot outside. I get super hot and my head itches like crazy! I'm 17 weeks post and in some areas I have close to 2in of ng and in others 1in...

I think I'll take it week by week and see how it goes. I'll make May 9th the goal and see how I fare from there. Truthfully, I won't really have that much time for my hair until July and so I don't want to run into detangling issues. Rowing with be deep moisture method and wigging will be it for me for a while. My hair was really moisturized when I took it out today. I am expecting at least another inch of growth before May 9th. I am using Njoy's growth oil, keeping up with water intake and my vitamins.

 

[Babygrowth]

I think I'll take it week by week and see how it goes. I'll make May 9th the goal and see how I fare from there. Truthfully, I won't really have that much time for my hair until July and so I don't want to run into detangling issues. Rowing with be deep moisture method and wigging will be it for me for a while. My hair was really moisturized when I took it out today. I am expecting at least another inch of growth before May 9th. I am using Njoy's growth oil, keeping up with water intake and i my vitamins.

Girl, my water and vitamin intake has been blah! Lol! Taking it week by week is a good decision. Is july the end of the semester for you? Are you working too? I have to look up this deep moisture method... if I can get senegalese twists I will not relax until my birthday in August... I'm getting too lazy to deal with my hair... I'm loving that oil tho!

 

[Kim0105]

Girl, my water and vitamin intake has been blah! Lol! Taking it week by week is a good decision. Is july the end of the semester for you? Are you working too? I have to look up this deep moisture method... if I can get senegalese twists I will not relax until my birthday in August... I'm getting too lazy to deal with my hair... I'm loving that oil tho!

The workouts are what I need to get in. Hoping to get back to Jillian Michaels Ripped in 30. I did this last year and lost 11lbs in the 30 days. My exams are June/July. Thankfully, other than home I am not working. Also my mom is coming to help us out for awhile.

 

[Kim0105]

Girl, my water and vitamin intake has been blah! Lol! Taking it week by week is a good decision. Is july the end of the semester for you? Are you working too? I have to look up this deep moisture method... if I can get senegalese twists I will not relax until my birthday in August... I'm getting too lazy to deal with my hair... I'm loving that oil tho!

When in August is your birthday? My dad's was the 6th, which is also Jamaican Independence. My parents are Jamaicans.

 

[Babygrowth]

The workouts are what I need to get in. Hoping to get back to Jillian Michaels Ripped in 30. I did this last year and lost 11lbs in the 30 days. My exams are June/July. Thankfully, other than home I am not working. Also my mom is coming to help us out for awhile.

That is awesome! Ain't nothing like having that extra help when school and little ones are in full effect! Lol!

When in August is your birthday? My dad's was the 6th, which is also Jamaican Independence. My parents are Jamaicans.

Mine is the 3rd!

 

[GrowAHead]

Sooooo I'm 11 or 12 weeks post and I forget whats that means ..... Until wash day! The new growth struggle is real!

 

[KiWiStyle]

Sooooo I'm 11 or 12 weeks post and I forget whats that means ..... Until wash day! The new growth struggle is real!

Girl who are you telling?! I'm 11 weeks post as well and it is a beast in there. Tomorrow is pre-relaxer wash/protein day and I'm not in the mood to deal with my hair but I have to clarify and protein treat for my relaxer on Wednesday.

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[xu93texas]

Hi ladies, KiWiStyle, Cattypus1, yoli184, Altruisticoam, shortdub78

I've been MIA for 3 weeks now. I have had a lot going on. I'm currently 10 weeks, 2 days post. I'm not sure when I'll be relaxing. I thought I'd found a new stylist, but I'm having second thoughts. I'm actually considering doing my own hair. Any of you SR? Can you give me some pointers/tips? I don't want bone straight hair. I'm loving my ng now b/c it reminds me of my 4A hair when I was natural. I do miss that. I've experienced some breakage at the nape and my edges are a lot thinner since I relaxed My nape was thriving when I was natural. I just don't know why this time around my hair isn't acting right. I don't like it at all.

So, I'm looking into the Mizani Butter Blend or Linange shea butter texturizer. I'm still doing plenty of research on both products.
I'm looking at relaxing at 12 weeks post on 4/26.

 

[KiWiStyle]

Hi ladies, KiWiStyle, Cattypus1, yoli184, Altruisticoam, shortdub78

I've been MIA for 3 weeks now. I have had a lot going on. I'm currently 10 weeks, 2 days post. I'm not sure when I'll be relaxing. I thought I'd found a new stylist, but I'm having second thoughts. I'm actually considering doing my own hair. Any of you SR? Can you give me some pointers/tips? I don't want bone straight hair. I'm loving my ng now b/c it reminds me of my 4A hair when I was natural. I do miss that. I've experienced some breakage at the nape and my edges are a lot thinner since I relaxed My nape was thriving when I was natural. I just don't know why this time around my hair isn't acting right. I don't like it at all.

So, I'm looking into the Mizani Butter Blend or Linange shea butter texturizer. I'm still doing plenty of research on both products.
I'm looking at relaxing at 12 weeks post on 4/26.

xu93texas I was thinking about you today. I don't self relax so I can't help you there. I didn't know you were 4a, I'm mostly 4b with some 4a, I think for that reason I won't ever go natural, too much shrinkage and no clumping.

Do you treat your nape differently? If not, maybe you should. Mizani BB is nice, I used it once or twice but It got me too straight. If I ever SR I would probably go with ORS olive regular strength. From what I've read it even leaves fine haired ladies with some texture.

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[Evolving78]

xu93texas I was thinking about you today. I don't self relax so I can't help you there. I didn't know you were 4a, I'm mostly 4b with some 4a, I think for that reason I won't ever go natural, too much shrinkage and no clumping.

Do you treat your nape differently? If not, maybe you should. Mizani BB is nice, I used it once or twice but It got me too straight. If I ever SR I would probably go with ORS olive regular strength. From what I've read it even leaves fine haired ladies with some texture.

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i self relax, but it is getting harder for me, due to my timing and neatness. i heard linage is very good and leave plenty of texture.

 

[KiWiStyle]

i self relax, but it is getting harder for me, due to my timing and neatness. i heard linage is very good and leave plenty of texture.

I've read the same thing about Linage so she would probably do well by choosing this over Mizani BB. Which relaxer do you use?

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[Cattypus1]

Hi ladies, KiWiStyle, Cattypus1, yoli184, Altruisticoam, shortdub78

I've been MIA for 3 weeks now. I have had a lot going on. I'm currently 10 weeks, 2 days post. I'm not sure when I'll be relaxing. I thought I'd found a new stylist, but I'm having second thoughts. I'm actually considering doing my own hair. Any of you SR? Can you give me some pointers/tips? I don't want bone straight hair. I'm loving my ng now b/c it reminds me of my 4A hair when I was natural. I do miss that. I've experienced some breakage at the nape and my edges are a lot thinner since I relaxed My nape was thriving when I was natural. I just don't know why this time around my hair isn't acting right. I don't like it at all.

So, I'm looking into the Mizani Butter Blend or Linange shea butter texturizer. I'm still doing plenty of research on both products.
I'm looking at relaxing at 12 weeks post on 4/26.

I love, love, love the Mizani BB and made a mistake this time buying the Mizani Fine/Color Treated. I added about 3tbs of grape seed oil to about a cup and a half of relaxer and only left it on about 17 min, no smoothing. I think my hair is too straight, not bone straight but not really leaning towards my goal of a real wash-n-go. I use the entire Mizani system for relaxing. I need to do my first wash after my relax day (last Thursday) to see my real results. I've never tried Linange but I've heard really good things about it on LHCF.

 

[Rozlewis]

I am 7 weeks post and plan to relax at 12 weeks. Anybody out there 7 weeks post and plan to relax at the 12 week mark, May 24th?

 

[sharifeh]

I'm a week and a half post and I haven't washed yet. I need to stop playing . My hair is itchy

 

[Babygrowth]

Soooo, ok buddies Kim0105 Angelinhell sckri23 MissyB

I'm definitely relaxing on May 11th I want to start rollersetting my hair and I'm shedding a lil more than I want! I miss my scalp. I did do a henna treatment and my hair feels thicker and stronger. That's also why I want to rollerset! Plus this airdrying is overrated. My hair is suffering and I know that weekly/biweekly rollersetting will be the answer!

 

[Kim0105]

Soooo, ok buddies Kim0105 Angelinhell sckri23 MissyB

I'm definitely relaxing on May 11th I want to start rollersetting my hair and I'm shedding a lil more than I want! I miss my scalp. I did do a henna treatment and my hair feels thicker and stronger. That's also why I want to rollerset! Plus this airdrying is overrated. My hair is suffering and I know that weekly/biweekly rollersetting will be the answer!

I hear ya! No sense in pushing a stretch if it's going to backfire. I'm with you on shooting for May 9th.