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2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

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MissyB said:
Hey buddies, @sckri23, @Babygrowth, @lovely_locks, @Angelinhell, @Kim0105, @londonfog

I've learned my lesson..... Alt the way... For real this time. I'm done with salons. I went yesterday to get a wash, deep condition and flat iron. I figured it was hitting 2 birds w/ one stone= 1) get cute hair for Resurrection Sunday 2) have it good for my length 3) DC w/ heat would be nice because I don't have a hooded dryer.

Well, when I go to the salon, they tell me that the stylist I saw before wasn't in (why didn't they say that on the phone?) Wash and DC goes well. I should have gotten up when the lady started to blowdry and brush my hair right after taking the towel off. No gentle detangling! Just yanking with the brush. Why didn't I get up?

Okay, now my hair is dry and she suggests a dusting. I said okay because I'm looking at what she's doing in the mirror. I should have taken a before picture because even though I saw 'dusting sized clippings' on the cape my hair looks considerably shorter to me.

As she's flat ironing, I ask about 'what heat protectant do you like best?' Chick shows me some milk protein stuff that doesn't say anything about thermal protection. Here I go again, turning red flags into roses and putting them into vases! I should have just got up. She's halfway finished flat ironing and is talking about hair health. Most of the things that she's saying makes sense and links up with the things that I've learned here. Then she says that her hair 'won't grow past this length, some hair just won't grow. It's healthy and all but it just stays at this length... and I'm a hairdresser, so I know' she has NL hair. I'm done.
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Oh hell nah! You should've bounced or at least spoke up! I'm guilty of not speaking up which is why I will not go to a salon until I can do that. When they said your stylist was not in you should have bounced! I'm sorry this experience was not good for you.
 
Babygrowth said:
Oh hell nah! You should've bounced or at least spoke up! I'm guilty of not speaking up which is why I will not go to a salon until I can do that. When they said your stylist was not in you should have bounced! I'm sorry this experience was not good for you.
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Exactly what Babygrowth said!!! The bucks stopped at "your stylist isn't in but"...ain't nobody got time for dat, peace out.

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londonfog said:
Hey buddies, sckri23, Babygrowth, lovely_locks, Angelinhell, Kim0105, MissyB!

So I co-washed with HEHH & DC'd Motions Silk Protein for about 20 minutes then with E-QP DPR 11+ (moisturizing condish) on Tuesday night. Cantu leave-in then wrapped my hair. On Wednesday, I flat ironed for my length check & was horrified at the difference between my HHJ hair & my jacked up before HHJ hair!! I mean the ends were seriously thin, not split, just thin. I was going to eventually trime off the ends some at a time as my hair grew out but I whipped out the shears & got my trim on. It looked so much better by the time that I finished but just seeing my hair without the thin ends got me to thinking about a possible long term transition to being natural.

I lurked on the Transitioning / BC board to see how these ladies were handling it & got some useful information. I think that I can definitely do it & maybe try to go for a year. :look: Yes I said a year because I already have a good bit of NG & wanted to aim for at least another 6-10 inches before I cut the previously relaxed hair off. Off to do more research!
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Like Babygrowth says we got your back whatever you decide. A year should definitely give you some good growth to start your natural journey with.
 
Babygrowth said:
Alright dere' now! Lol! You got my full support whichever way you go! For me its either locs or relaxed hair and right now I'm choosing to relax but later on I may choose to loc my hair...
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I had locs for 3 years before I got them cut. My hairline couldn't manage the weight that cam with it. My locs started at shoulder length and at the 3 year mark I had midback length locs.
 
MissyB, I'm sorry this happened. I've been in similar situations and occasionally find myself back at that point. Everyone will be like heck no, speak up, etc etc. While some can do that, not everyone can. I'm very vocal but seem to go passive when receiving services out of fear of retaliation in the future. Therefore, I will make gentle comments but won't really come right out and say STOP! I have a similar situation each TU. I have a stylist that uses combs that I don't/wouldn't use. Sometimes her detangling technique is a bit off but I tend to keep quiet since I only go there for TUs. This past visit I made it a point to say, I'm bringing my (bone) combs next visit and want you to give them a try -- she agreed. I will then show her how I detangle with them since she doesn't own any. I will kindly say, I know I'm asking a lot and if that's more than what you would like to take on, I'll gladly detangle myself....I'll just let her relax and then go home wet.

ETA: If I need a style only, I will go there fully detangled and let her style me from there.
 
Kim0105 said:
I had locs for 3 years before I got them cut. My hairline couldn't manage the weight that cam with it. My locs started at shoulder length and at the 3 year mark I had midback length locs.
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Wow! Did you just BC them or tried to undo them? I was thinking of doing the same thing around APL length... its amazing how all of our journeys seem to reflect one anothers even if it was at another point in time!
 
Babygrowth said:
Alright dere' now! Lol! You got my full support whichever way you go! For me its either locs or relaxed hair and right now I'm choosing to relax but later on I may choose to loc my hair...
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Thanks for the support! I'm sure I'll need it! LOLOL! The more I think about it the more I get excited to go for it. My 3 year old is natural & a little past APL so I think that I would have no problems taking care of my natural hair. All of the women that I personally know that went natural BC'd & one has fully grown out from a TWA to long beautiful curly hair. The other two have kinda been holding it down at the TWA length.
I don't want to BC unless absolutely necessary. I want to be able to still do my cornrows underneath my wig & at this point I have enough for a BC down to about a 1 1/2 inch TWA but that's not enough to grab to braid (without scalping myself). So my plans until I get a considerable length are to alternate between wigs & braids (twists, sengalese, etc) until I'm ready to get er done. I've subscribed to a couple of ladies on YouTube who have successful completed a transition so that I can keep my focus. :grin::grin:
 
Babygrowth said:
Wow! Did you just BC them or tried to undo them? I was thinking of doing the same thing around APL length... its amazing how all of our journeys seem to reflect one anothers even if it was at another point in time!
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I BC them. I was going through a phase of wanting a change and didn't even think of undoing them.
 
Kim0105 said:
Like @Babygrowth says we got your back whatever you decide. A year should definitely give you some good growth to start your natural journey with.
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Thanks for your support! I've never, I mean NEVER known what my natural hair looked like because I've had a perm since I was about 4 if not earlier!! I didn't even like NG until a few months into my HHJ! LOL! It wasn't until I started LHCF that I discovered that NG was actually a good thing versus what I was taught in the past. I'm ready! :yep:
 
Ok so team 18 weeks...a new day, a new decision....I may just go the full 18:look: At the time of my last posting I had done dd's hair and she put up a fight the whole time:cry: that emotion transferred to my own head of hair and I was ready to throw in the towel...today I'm feeling good again:spinning:
 
Saludable84 - How many weeks post are you and when do you plan to relax?

divachyk baddison Nix08 Cherry89

Hey Buds! We made it to April!!!! :yay:

Can't believe that the last time I relaxed was before Christmas! I am getting that familiar relaxer itch. I'm starting to line up my relaxer supplies and count down the days until April 26.

I'm doing a dc right now with Nexxus Humectress and my newgrowth melted as I was applying the dc. I'm still amazed at how easy this stretch has been so far.
 
sunnieb said:
Saludable84 - How many weeks post are you and when do you plan to relax?

divachyk baddison Nix08 Cherry89

Hey Buds! We made it to April!!!! :yay:

Can't believe that the last time I relaxed was before Christmas! I am getting that familiar relaxer itch. I'm starting to line up my relaxer supplies and count down the days until April 26.

I'm doing a dc right now with Nexxus Humectress and my newgrowth melted as I was applying the dc. I'm still amazed at how easy this stretch has been so far.
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sunnieb - divachyk - Nix08 - Cherry89

Girrrllll....you ain't said nothing but a word!!! LOL! Between the new growth and the massive shrinkage that comes with it, I don't know if I should bless or curse this stretch!! LOL.:lachen::lachen::lachen: My hair is soooo pouffy! I know for a fact that I gained some nice thickness this time around. Onward to the prize before us, ladies :lick:
 
I'm freshly relaxed too! I went for 12 weeks again grrr. I need to stop stretching it is really bad for me I just get lazy :look:
 
Cattypus1 said:
xu93texas KiWiStyle shortdub78 yoli184 Altruisticoam

Hey Buddies! How's everybody doing? Next week is touch up week for me(12 weeks)-I am so ready! I know KiWiStyle is scheduled for the 17th. How 'bout it, ladies? When y'all gettin' yo touch ups on?
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I can't wait to see everyone's progress over the next several weeks!!

Altruisticoam got hitched today and is probably getting ready for her honeymoon right about now. Congratulations lady...YOU IS MARRID NA, LOL!!!

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Hey buddies, Babygrowth, MissyB, Angelinhell, lovely_locks, sckri23

I am 13 weeks post and the newgrowth is starting to really poof up. Had extensions in for 2 weeks but took them out a bit early (was shooting for 4-6 weeks) as they were causing stress along my hairline. Can't afford to have a setback right now so they had to go. Right now I am doing the deep moisture method so my hair is rowed down and I will be wigging it until June. Won't have much time for my hair anyway as I start school on Monday.
 
Kim0105 said:
Hey buddies, Babygrowth, MissyB, Angelinhell, lovely_locks, sckri23

I am 13 weeks post and the newgrowth is starting to really poof up. Had extensions in for 2 weeks but took them out a bit early (was shooting for 4-6 weeks) as they were causing stress along my hairline. Can't afford to have a setback right now so they had to go. Right now I am doing the deep moisture method so my hair is rowed down and I will be wigging it until June. Won't have much time for my hair anyway as I start school on Monday.
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Hey there! I am 16 weeks post I think and this stuff is thick! I love my NG but if I was to BC and go natural I would have hella issues! I can't wait to relax on june 1st! My hair has been showing off with this oil! Lately I put in about 12 plaits and been wigging or just wearing a hat and scarf. Might do a reconstructor tmrw since I'm washing more! My hair feels fine so I may not need it until next week.
 
KiWiStyle said:
I can't wait to see everyone's progress over the next several weeks!!

Altruisticoam got hitched today and is probably getting ready for her honeymoon right about now. Congratulations lady...YOU IS MARRID NA, LOL!!!

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That's right, I forgot that she was jumping the broom this week. I second that, Congrats!
 
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