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quirkydimples I do updo's mainly using claw clips. So my hair isn't rubbing on my clothes but the ends are out to the air:yep:
Even ponytails sometimes lately...

The thing is I don't see any splits like when I was bunning. When my hair was too short to make nice buns I wore the updo's and also didn't see splits but last year cut a lot due to splits and the only difference was that my hair was long enough to do regular buns.
 
Cattypus1 said:
It actually does look like its grown. Your ends look like mine and I decided not to head straight to MasterCuts to even it up. I'm trying to accept that I'm a slow grower. Don't be sad... You can make your goal, girl!
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I remembered you were unhappy with your growth last LC. I've always been a slow grower too but I've also been satisfied with my growth and retention after I relax. When I put my hair in my single braid, I see growth but not when it's down. After I took pictures, I literally sat at my bathroom sink getting ready to even my crown and nape so those thin ends will be gone once and for all. I had to talk myself off the ledge.

OASN: I think we're hair twins for real!

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xu93texas said:
Ok KiWiStyle, take a deep breath :) Your hair is healthy and shiny with no split ends. It has grown some, just not as much as you would've liked. Keep doing what your doing. I've heard that hair grows at different rates at different times of the year. Fwiw, I did read that going from APL to BSL is one of the most difficult lengths to achieve.

Yes, you have plenty of time to reach your goal. Keep trying. As far as dusting or trimming, do whatever you feel comfortable with.
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Maybe I did just go through my slowest growth season BUT my NG was off the charts. Maybe it was the texture left after my previous relaxer...nah I'm not buying it, I had plenty if new growth, that's why I was so excited about getting my relaxer. Oh well, maybe I'll be swanging in July. I might get myself a wig and hide my hair...nope can't do that because I sweat in my head and its getting Warmer. I had no idea APL-BSL was this challenging.

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shortdub78 said:
i agree! i'm trying not to be scissor happy this year. i had cut off a lot of progress last year due to stupid stuff and going nutty buddy with the scissors. wanting blunt straight ends can hinder progress. apl/ bsl ain't no punk to get to.
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I'm not going to trim, I did finally step away from the scissors. My retention over the last year has been lost due to slowly evening my hemline which I'm glad I did. I have about an inch left to trim but I don't plan to cut or trim this year or at all in the future, I am doing periodic light dusting instead.

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quirkydimples said:
If you don't have split ends, then don't cut it. I just cut two inches off mine, but my ends looked really bad and having blunt ends (I've just realized) is important to me. I'm not so concerned with length as I am with liking how my hair looks...aka blunt ends. Sounds like you're concerned with length, so keep at it. It's growing, just at different rates. And if you want to see some see through ends, just look at my post from yesterday...you're doing fine.
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Yeah you're right :-). Because my hair and ends are healthy already my primary goals now are to thicken and lengthen. My hair is very fine so I don't expect a gorgeously thick hemline like a lot of ladies here. My see thru ends in the back is due to previous nape damage but it is now as healthy as the rest of my hair, it just had to play catch up with the rest.

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Nix08 said:
@KiWiStyle I found my hair doing that exact same thing last year and the only real thing that I have come up with is it's from bunning. I don't think my fine strands enjoyed buns:nono: But this year I rarely bun so at my next relaxer I'll see how I've faired.

@divachyk welcome to "teamcowashers" :grin:

sunnieb I totally agree with hair just falling into line with cowashing:yep:
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I hope you see improvement at your next relaxer. It's no fun putting in soo much work in but seeing very little progress. I bunned in January and let me tell you, I quickly learned my ends cannot handle the manipulation and pinning. I didn't do it often but when I had to be cute I did a satin covered sock bun. As I said there is no breakage or splits, this is a mystery to me. Even on a different topic yesterday, my stylist said she didn't see any breakage spots and did not suggest trimming it. I protective styles pretty much 100 percent these last 12 weeks, there is no rhyme or reason for it other than the suggested slow growth season.

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Oh no... I dont have a buddy this year.... :(

I relax my hair at the end of every other month... aka Feb end, Apr end, June end.... December end.... 8-9 week stretcher here....

Anyone wanna be my buddy? Relaxer day is in 2 weeks!! :)
 
judy4all said:
Oh no... I dont have a buddy this year.... :(

I relax my hair at the end of every other month... aka Feb end, Apr end, June end.... December end.... 8-9 week stretcher here....

Anyone wanna be my buddy? Relaxer day is in 2 weeks!! :)
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judy4all
IDK if it can work but I'll be your buddy :). I texlax every 12 weeks but my next one isn't until June
 
judy4all said:
mshoneyfly .... That's cool... We can be buddies.... I'll share my results by month end...
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Ok and I will read the first thread to see how this thing works. Good luck with your tu. Cant wait to see results!!

ETA: oh I meant to ask, what type of relaxer are you using. I am thinking about trying the Linange texturizer next time. I have been using the Just For Me texture softener.
 
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Hello lovely ladies! I need a buddy, its my first time buddying up. Anyone out there who still needs one? I'm 8 weeks post tomorrow, 4/19/13. I'm stretching 12 weeks - 5/17/13. I've been using Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In for softening my NG and its been helping a lot. I'm mostly doing buns and ponies or one big bantu knot and hiding the NG with a silk headband on the days it looks a little poofy. Altho sealing with EVCO has helped control that for the most part. Anyways, PM if anyone is interested plz! :)
 
caramelqt3683 said:
Hello lovely ladies! I need a buddy, its my first time buddying up. Anyone out there who still needs one? I'm 8 weeks post tomorrow, 4/19/13. I'm stretching 12 weeks - 5/17/13. I've been using Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In for softening my NG and its been helping a lot. I'm mostly doing buns and ponies or one big bantu knot and hiding the NG with a silk headband on the days it looks a little poofy. Altho sealing with EVCO has helped control that for the most part. Anyways, PM if anyone is interested plz! :)
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@caramelqt3683 you can join our buddy group if you would like (@klsjackson @hnntrr @mschristine @Mande30)

We all are about 6 and 7 weeks post, usually stretching about 12 weeks. (hnntrr is stretching for longer or maybe transitioning :yep:).
 
KiWiStyle :bighug: It'll be ok. Glad you put the scissors down.

baddison Cherry89 Nix08

ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!
ONE MORE WEEK!

Can't believe I'm 17 weeks post today! I am SO ready to relax and swang my hurr! How ya'll doin' tonight? Any hair plans?

I might go do another honey treatment, iunno. I need to do something. :look:
 
Hey buddies, Babygrowth, lovely_locks, sckri23, Angelinhell and, MissyB
How are you all doing? I am 15 weeks post as of Thursday past and still aiming for May 9th. I am loving Wen Fig. I applied a henna and indigo mix last night and washed it out this morning. I then shampoo with a garlic shampoo and at this point I could feel the tangles. At this point I put some Wen Fig, wet my hair a little with it in and gently massaged it in. I couldn't believe what I felt then......the tangles melted instantly and detangling was a breeze. I had very little shedding considering my hair was rowed and under a wig for a week. I could definitely see myself stretching longer with this.
My hair is now rowed in a beehive with deep conditioner mixed with castor oil. I am hoping to keep this in for 2 weeks then re-evaluate. Back to wigging for me.
 
Kim0105 said:
Hey buddies, Babygrowth, lovely_locks, sckri23, Angelinhell and, MissyB
How are you all doing? I am 15 weeks post as of Thursday past and still aiming for May 9th. I am loving Wen Fig. I applied a henna and indigo mix last night and washed it out this morning. I then shampoo with a garlic shampoo and at this point I could feel the tangles. At this point I put some Wen Fig, wet my hair a little with it in and gently massaged it in. I couldn't believe what I felt then......the tangles melted instantly and detangling was a breeze. I had very little shedding considering my hair was rowed and under a wig for a week. I could definitely see myself stretching longer with this.
My hair is now rowed in a beehive with deep conditioner mixed with castor oil. I am hoping to keep this in for 2 weeks then re-evaluate. Back to wigging for me.
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I was gonna try Wen but the extra ingredients cones and such scared me off! I'm going to do a honey prepoo today and a protein DC since I do lt protein every Saturday now! My hair is still doing good in these plaits and my hair is really behaving herself since the henna gloss. I love that stuff! With the low maintenance and this Njoy growth oil, my reveal on Mothers day will be a good one! I'm soooo over wigs! I want to rock my own hair even if it is only at the bottom of my neck!
 
Babygrowth said:
I was gonna try Wen but the extra ingredients cones and such scared me off! I'm going to do a honey prepoo today and a protein DC since I do lt protein every Saturday now! My hair is still doing good in these plaits and my hair is really behaving herself since the henna gloss. I love that stuff! With the low maintenance and this Njoy growth oil, my reveal on Mothers day will be a good one! I'm soooo over wigs! I want to rock my own hair even if it is only at the bottom of my neck!
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I hear you on the wigs. I don't mind right now because I'm so busy with school and home. I'm gonna see how long this beehive lasts and then I might relax a week after takedown or put the beehive back in for another couple weeks. I might make it to June after all.
 
Cattypus1 said:
Hey, My Chi-Town buddies! I know that includes KiWiStyle and shortdub78...I've been watching the news about the rain and flooding...y'all okay?
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Hi Cattypus1! Yes I'm fine, thank you. My basement didn't flood but one of our rental houses did, got four feet in the basement. The area that got the huge sink hole that swallowed three cars is not far from me at, less than two miles away. Things could have been worse and I'm thankful it wasn't because that rain just wouldn't stop. The mayor has been updating the sewer system here in the city, the project is soo big it'll take many years before all neighborhoods have updated equipment.

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KiWiStyle said:
Hi Cattypus1! Yes I'm fine, thank you. My basement didn't flood but one of our rental houses did, got four feet in the basement. The area that got the huge sink hole that swallowed three cars is not far from me at, less than two miles away. Things could have been worse and I'm thankful it wasn't because that rain just wouldn't stop. The mayor has been updating the sewer system here in the city, the project is soo big it'll take many years before all neighborhoods have updated equipment.

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Glad all is "mostly" well with you. Sux about the basement at your rental. I saw one of the cars go into the sinkhole on the news...crazy!
How's your post touch-up hair? Are you feeling better about it? I got a bug up my you-know-what today and decided to do a hot oil treatment...I have no idea why but that's my hair treat for this week. Oddly enough, even though I was disappointed with my length, my hair doesn't appear to really "need" anything. Not dry, not breaking, not shedding or splitting. Maybe we'll both get a summer growth surprise.
 
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Cattypus1 said:
Hey, My Chi-Town buddies! I know that includes KiWiStyle and shortdub78...I've been watching the news about the rain and flooding...y'all okay?
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thank you for thinking of us! i have avoided the flooded areas. a lot of people i know are dealing with ruined cars and flooded basements. this weather is crazy! first it was raining, then we had snow flurries! now it's just cold.
 
shortdub78 said:
thank you for thinking of us! i have avoided the flooded areas. a lot of people i know are dealing with ruined cars and flooded basements. this weather is crazy! first it was raining, then we had snow flurries! now it's just cold.
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Glad you're okay. We've got the weather weirdness going too...not nearly as extreme as Chi but still 85 one day 50 the next, we had rain but thankfully no snow and no flooding. Water in places it should not be is evil...I wish them all well.
 
divachyk sunnieb baddison Nix08

Hey, ladies. Im sorry ive been MIA. School and finals, just got a promotion at work, and now they working me super overtimes.. and not lets talk about the little rug rats running around at home... lmbo.
I'm so glad everyone is doing well still. 18 weeks is a pretty long stretch and we did our thang! I can't wait to see everyone beautiful manes. I love my natural hair too, Im loving both worlds, but my natural hair is so thick, so I was missing my white crack at the same time. But I would def do this again ladies..

Post pics later today, I think Im wsl now.. we will see! :)
 
Cattypus1 said:
Glad all is "mostly" well with you. Sux about the basement at your rental. I saw one of the cars go into the sinkhole on the news...crazy!
How's your post touch-up hair? Are you feeling better about it? I got a bug up my you-know-what today and decided to do a hot oil treatment...I have no idea why but that's my hair treat for this week. Oddly enough, even though I was disappointed with my length, my hair doesn't appear to really "need" anything. Not dry, not breaking, not shedding or splitting. Maybe we'll both get a summer growth surprise.
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Maybe we are in a hair slump which is not good for me because I cannot afford to be hair lazy. I do feel better about my retention, as the days go by, I do notice that my hair feels lower on my back and the sides hang better, you know that nice long bend when it's lying on your shoulders. Maybe I was focusing on the distance to BSL.

Hot oil treatments are nice, they help keep my hair moisturized and detangled after a shampoo which I rarely do. I'm glad your hair is doing very well, keep up the good work and I second that summer growth spurt :-)

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shortdub78 said:
thank you for thinking of us! i have avoided the flooded areas. a lot of people i know are dealing with ruined cars and flooded basements. this weather is crazy! first it was raining, then we had snow flurries! now it's just cold.
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Yeah the weather is being a serious ****** right now. I'm going into depression with this long winter, my body need the heat, flip flops, tanks and shirts and my sunroof open.

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