2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

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shortdub78 said:
That rinse made it hard to detangle. But I managed to flat iron my hair. I do have some flyaways but who doesn't? Lol 13 weeks yall. When is the next time we are suppose to relax?
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I'm relaxing on October 2 at 12 weeks. I can't believe you're already 13 weeks! My hair is really driving me crazy. I feel like it hasn't really looked good consistently for more than a year and I've done so many things I don't know which ones are really helping and which ones are not. I feel like my hair is in better shape than ever but it looks like crap to me. I was a diehard blow dry/flat iron queen. I've done a 360 on that one. Since my HHJ started I've used a dozen different shampoos, as many conditioners, Henna, indigo, cocoa and everything in between. I'm sorry...did you just ask one question? I needed the vent, thanks. Sorry for whine.
 
shortdub78 said:
I bought the clairol textures and tones rinse and I don't like how it made my hair felt. It was more difficult to detangle and I started getting a little rough with the comb. My hair looks more off black than jet black. I'm going to try another rinse next time. I can see I got some growth too. I'm Sl now. I cut my hair to NL on June 1st. I flat ironed my hair today too! Yay!
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Congrats. I had similar results with that one im using adore. I read here some ladies said it was the blackest black. Learning/understanding lo-po I aee why color never takes.....my plans are delayed...

Suny
 
Cattypus1 said:
I'm relaxing on October 2 at 12 weeks. I can't believe you're already 13 weeks! My hair is really driving me crazy. I feel like it hasn't really looked good consistently for more than a year and I've done so many things I don't know which ones are really helping and which ones are not. I feel like my hair is in better shape than ever but it looks like crap to me. I was a diehard blow dry/flat iron queen. I've done a 360 on that one. Since my HHJ started I've used a dozen different shampoos, as many conditioners, Henna, indigo, cocoa and everything in between. I'm sorry...did you just ask one question? I needed the vent, thanks. Sorry for whine.
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So looks like we will be relaxing around the same time. I'm aiming for sept 27 at 13 weeks post.
 
Altruisticoam said:
@EnExitStage!eft xu93texas KiWiStyle yoli184 Cattypus1, shortdub78, soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe

Ladies 10 weeks post checking in....I am determined to find a protective or semi-protective style that works for me.

I'm so proud of myself...I spent two hours yesterday making clip in extensions. For my first attempt I'm pretty pleased. I do have to give a shutout to my DH cause he threaded all my needles (my patience was too thin lol)

I installed them using miss Lynn's method so only a little of my hair is left out the rest is under a wig cap.

What do you all think?
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I think it looks great. Can I ask, what hair did you use?
 
I'm trying something different. I'm going to use Bantu knots to get loose waves...I hope. It was a last-minute decision. I had actually deep conditioned, air dried and flat ironed my hair already today. But I've been looking at photos loose waves the past few days...so why not? If it doesn't turn out right, I've always got my trusty bun to fall back on.

I didn't wet it, I just put Paul Mitchell The Conditioner on each section, twisted really tightly and secured each one with a large bobby pin. Wish me luck.
 

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Cattypus1 said:
I'm relaxing on October 2 at 12 weeks. I can't believe you're already 13 weeks! My hair is really driving me crazy. I feel like it hasn't really looked good consistently for more than a year and I've done so many things I don't know which ones are really helping and which ones are not. I feel like my hair is in better shape than ever but it looks like crap to me. I was a diehard blow dry/flat iron queen. I've done a 360 on that one. Since my HHJ started I've used a dozen different shampoos, as many conditioners, Henna, indigo, cocoa and everything in between. I'm sorry...did you just ask one question? I needed the vent, thanks. Sorry for whine.
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That's what we are here for! We gotta figure out how to enjoy our hair!
 
Hold up, how did all of us get on such different schedules? I'm 4 weeks post and will probably stretch to 16 weeks post again. That puts me in December.

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divachyk said:
SunySydeofLyfe & shortdub78, how did the black tea rinse go for you? My low porosity hair hates black tea rinses but accepts other teas without issue. Black tea hardens my hair and makes it feel very protein like.

Altruisticoam that's gorgeous!
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divachyk we were talking about color rinses. I dont do tea rinses. I tried and my hair was hard and tangly. I wasn't able to do my hair this weekend. ...:(... hope to at least get a dc in today.

Suny
 
Hi. I have lurked on the forum a long time and don't post much. I know it is late in the year but I would like a buddy. I just relaxed on Saturday after a 30 week involuntary stretch. I typically only stretch 12-14 weeks and that gives me good results. This stretch was so long because there is only one person that I trust relaxing my hair. I have had a lot of salon disasters in the past. That person had an ill family member that they were taking care of over the summer. I wasn't going to be upset about that. Family comes first and definitely comes before hair. Anyway, I couldn't care for all of that new growth although I was doing the best that I could. When she detangled before relaxing we realized there was a lot of breakage. My previously bsb hair is now an inch below sl. I actually am ok with that. I know how to care for my relaxed hair so I know the length will come back. I am a slow grower so it makes me sad that it will probably take 2 years.

I am really upset that during the detangling somehow a huge matted knot formed. She worked hard to remove most of it but I have an area the size of a soda can that had to be cut down to about 1 1/2 inches. I can comb over the longer hair so it doesn't show but I cried a little about that. I know crying over hair is stupid.

So that is the state of my hair today. I am sorry this post is so long. If there is anyone experiencing a recent setback maybe we can be buddies and support each other as we grow our hair back.

Protective style: buns, buns, buns
Length: SL working back to previous BSB
Density: thick (which is great because we combed out a baseball sized amount of hair!)
Porosity: high
Likes: shea butter, argan oil, avocado oil
Dislikes: coconut oil, strong proteins
Interested in: trying more products with natural ingredients, learning about healthy eating or vitamins for hair health
 
ChocolateCupcake

I don't think that it is stupid to cry over hair at all. To me it is like anything else that you work hard to achieve goals, and then with one misstep, you have to almost start over. Thats enough to make me shed a few tears, wipe my face and then get back on my grind.

You came to the right place. These ladies are extraordinary when it comes to hair advice.
 
KiWiStyle said:
Hold up, how did all of us get on such different schedules? I'm 4 weeks post and will probably stretch to 16 weeks post again. That puts me in December.

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I've been lazy and still haven't relaxed yet. If I get braids, I can take it to Dec
 
Altruisticoam said:
@EnExitStage!eft @xu93texas @KiWiStyle @yoli184 @Cattypus1, @shortdub78, @soonergirl @SunySydeofLyfe


Ladies 10 weeks post checking in....I am determined to find a protective or semi-protective style that works for me.

I'm so proud of myself...I spent two hours yesterday making clip in extensions. For my first attempt I'm pretty pleased. I do have to give a shutout to my DH cause he threaded all my needles (my patience was too thin lol)

I installed them using miss Lynn's method so only a little of my hair is left out the rest is under a wig cap.

What do you all think?
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SO PRETTY!:gorgeous:

MileHighDiva said:
Be sure to make my swang video, :yep:
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:lachen: I've been thinking about making a vid, but Youtube is scary man. People go hard in those comments :perplexed.

KiWiStyle said:
Hold up, how did all of us get on such different schedules? I'm 4 weeks post and will probably stretch to 16 weeks post again. That puts me in December.

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YOURE ALREADY 4 WEEKS POST?! It seems like you just relaxed a week ago. Time is really flying :yep:.
 
quirkydimples said:
I'm trying something different. I'm going to use Bantu knots to get loose waves...I hope. It was a last-minute decision. I had actually deep conditioned, air dried and flat ironed my hair already today. But I've been looking at photos loose waves the past few days...so why not? If it doesn't turn out right, I've always got my trusty bun to fall back on.

I didn't wet it, I just put Paul Mitchell The Conditioner on each section, twisted really tightly and secured each one with a large bobby pin. Wish me luck.
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I've finally had a successful Bantu knot out. Freshly washed and conditioned, 90% air-dried used smaller sections with Nairobi styling foaming lotion. It actually looked like I tried to do something with my hair for a change. It still took forever for my hair to dry but it finally did. Please post some pics.
 
Cattypus1

I'm glad you had success! I looked a HAM this morning. I think it's because my hair was dry. I'll try again with freshly shampooed, slightly dry hair like you next time. I also treated it like a twist out, running my fingers through it, etc. Here are the photos and what I did afterward...
 

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divachyk sunnieb, Nix08, baddison, DominicanBrazilian82, Cherry89

Hey guys, please don't stone me, lol. School, work (2) jobs, kids and life... yall know how it goes..:spinning: I been trying to keep up with my hair, I do daily co-washes with Vo5's. I wanted to go natural, I was going on 5 months, and decided to just telax:look:.. here are some update pics, I need to get it roller set so I can really see how much length i retained. Enjoy!

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Cherry89 said:
divachyk sunnieb, Nix08, baddison, DominicanBrazilian82, Cherry89

Hey guys, please don't stone me, lol. School, work (2) jobs, kids and life... yall know how it goes..:spinning: I been trying to keep up with my hair, I do daily co-washes with Vo5's. I wanted to go natural, I was going on 5 months, and decided to just telax:look:.. here are some update pics, I need to get it roller set so I can really see how much length i retained. Enjoy!
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Beautiful hair!!! Long and dense, I'm green with envy!

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EnExitStageLeft said:
KiWiStyle, Cattypus1,yoli184 soonergirl, Altruisticoam, shortdub78, EnExitStageLeft

Sitting under my steamer for the first time in a long time. I think I love her! I dont think I will dc under the dryer again til it gets cold. Heck I think hell may have to freeze over....I cant stand that heat! !!

This is my first hair treatment in 2 weeks. ..mad I waited so late but my hair needed it bad. Bantu knots have saved me from the flatiron so that is my go to. tonight after I airdry im going to use the foam wrap and hopes its dry in the am.

Suny
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