2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

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Buddies ...made a discovery today. ..I have lo-po hair. Did the strand test and my hair just floated. Asked in the relaxed hair thread about my hair not holding a curl....started to research...decided to try baking soda and water. Poo w/kenra. ..rinse, applied baking soda water paste, waited a few minutes, rinsed...my hair was so soft. I mean soft smooth, rinsed cowashed with kenra con. ..hair felt amazing, tshirt dried, applied 7n1 (?) Made tWo plaits sealed with hairveda oil. Hair feels so nice. Tomorrow will tell the tale...TBC....

Suny
 
My beloved Nairobi will have to take a back seat. I think the overuse of protein made my hair dry. Im not leaving her all the way alone...just moderate use. Time will tell if she's not for me. Taking a Nairobi hiatus. ..for the next month. ..

Suny
 
@KiWiStyle, I've nodded while writing emails and posts. We need rehab.

@SunySydeofLyfe, hope your hair feels good. Keep us posted. I'm low porosity but never tried baking soda.

@Nix08, @KiWiStyle, @xu93texas, @Cattypus1 @baddison henna just sounds like an overwhelming complicated process, one that I've never considered. Maybe in 2015 when I've run out of things to try. :giggle:

shortdub78, girl hang in there. Heavy moisture & heavy seal, bun and be done with it until you can take a break from everything.
 
divachyk said:
KiWiStyle, I've nodded while writing emails and posts. We need rehab.

SunySydeofLyfe, hope your hair feels good. Keep us posted. I'm low porosity but never tried baking soda.

Nix08, @KiWiStyle, @xu93texas, @Cattypus1 @baddison henna just sounds like an overwhelming complicated process, one that I've never considered. Maybe in 2015 when I've run out of things to try. :giggle:
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divachyk I thought of you and meant to stalk your blog for tips. The baking soda is a winner so far...
I did bantu knots and they weren't dry this morning! ! Yeah I'm excited about that except I have a major puff..my fine hair looks thicker. I know I need to use my steamer and dryer to dc. Getting back on my game!!! I'm going to lay off the protein and see what happens! I feel like I discovered sliced bread with this revelation! !

Suny
 
@KhandiB and the other ladies here ....I got my T/U yesterday (sorry, I have no pics) and I did a few things differently and also have a few observations which have led me to some questions for you. You would think I would have this hair thing figured out by now after 2 years of relaxing but I guess I don't :nono:. I have gone from SL (see avatar pic) to BSL in these 2 years but I still feel like I'm not doing some things right. So here goes....

Observations

- I relaxed my nape last as I noticed it was breaking. I'm going to have to get used to it not being bone straight though

- My relaxer didn't take as well as it used to. My stylist said that my hair is getting stronger and becoming resistant to it so she will have to go with a different strength next time. I use Mizani Butter Blends Sensitive Scalp.

- My ends do not seem so smooth. It's been a while since I have had a trim (almost 2 years) but I dust at every T/U

So here are my questions for you:

- How often do you trim? I'm scared of trimming as I don't want to lose my length. I also want blunt ends but my hair grows in a V shape. How do I get around that?

- How do you thicken your hemline? Is it through trimming?

- If I opt to trim, can I do it next week or should I wait until the next T/U?

- How do you moisturize your NG in between washes? I currently wash once per week and I always do a DC then.

Thanks in advance!

ETA: I bun 4-5 times per week
 
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SunySydeofLyfe said:
Buddies ...made a discovery today. ..I have lo-po hair. Did the strand test and my hair just floated. Asked in the relaxed hair thread about my hair not holding a curl....started to research...decided to try baking soda and water. Poo w/kenra. ..rinse, applied baking soda water paste, waited a few minutes, rinsed...my hair was so soft. I mean soft smooth, rinsed cowashed with kenra con. ..hair felt amazing, tshirt dried, applied 7n1 (?) Made tWo plaits sealed with hairveda oil. Hair feels so nice. Tomorrow will tell the tale...TBC....

Suny
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I'm low por too!
 
Loving said:
@KhandiB and the other ladies here ....I got my T/U yesterday (sorry, I have no pics) and I did a few things differently and also have a few observations which have led me to some questions for you. You would think I would have this hair thing figured out by now after 2 years of relaxing but I guess I don't :nono:. I have gone from SL (see avatar pic) to BSL in these 2 years but I still feel like I'm not doing some things right. So here goes....

Observations

- I relaxed my nape last as I noticed it was breaking. I'm going to have to get used to it not being bone straight though

- My relaxer didn't take as well as it used to. My stylist said that my hair is getting stronger and becoming resistant to it so she will have to go with a different strength next time. I use Mizani Butter Blends Sensitive Scalp.

- My ends do not seem so smooth. It's been a while since I have had a trim (almost 2 years) but I dust at every T/U

So here are my questions for you:

- How often do you trim? I'm scared of trimming as I don't want to lose my length. I also want blunt ends but my hair grows in a V shape. How do I get around that?

- How do you thicken your hemline? Is it through trimming?

- If I opt to trim, can I do it next week or should I wait until the next T/U?

- How do you moisturize your NG in between washes? I currently wash once per week and I always do a DC then.

Thanks in advance!
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I dust often, like several times a month. So I don't need big trim. I think u should trim now and work from there. A liquid spray like scurl used directly on the ng and not the length will help. Use the scurl a few times a week to avoid buildup and over moisturized hair. Try relaxing your nap every other TU.
 
SunySydeofLyfe said:
My beloved Nairobi will have to take a back seat. I think the overuse of protein made my hair dry. Im not leaving her all the way alone...just moderate use. Time will tell if she's not for me. Taking a Nairobi hiatus. ..for the next month. ..

Suny
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I use the conditioner as a light protein treatment and I keep it in for 5 mins.
 
KiWiStyle said:
Y'll I'm sitting here trying to reply to posts and I'm soo tired, I'm nodding while holding my phone trying to think of what to say. Y'll must be pretty important to me :-). I didn't even cook or get my daughter dinner, I made some frozen corn and and a grilled cheese sandwich. I'm kinda hungry but don't feel like eating and Lord knows how I feel about taking a shower right now. I'm off to get read my for bed at 7pm...

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Lol that sounds like a make it happen meal to me! I call it that on those nights when I don't feel like being chef mom! U ladies are important to me! Lots of love and encouragement!
 
KiWiStyle said:
Y'll I'm sitting here trying to reply to posts and I'm soo tired, I'm nodding while holding my phone trying to think of what to say. Y'll must be pretty important to me :-). I didn't even cook or get my daughter dinner, I made some frozen corn and and a grilled cheese sandwich. I'm kinda hungry but don't feel like eating and Lord knows how I feel about taking a shower right now. I'm off to get read my for bed at 7pm...

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Lol that sounds like a make it happen meal to me! I call it that on those nights when I don't feel like being chef mom! U ladies are important to me! Lots of love and encouragement!
 
Loving It wasn't among your questions but I too found that my hair was not taking the relaxer as well and what I did instead of changing the strength of the relaxer was reduce or eliminate protein on my ng especially in the last week leading up to my relaxer. It worked:yep:
 
Loving - I havent trimmed all year, but will be this weekend. Which means that I need to dust more, and I may not make MBL this year, Im okay with that because Health over Length :)
And for me thickening my hemline is through trimming

If Im wearing my hair straight I moisten my NG with a Cream moisturizer every other day, If Im PS'n with a Bun or braidout I use water and like V05

And dont worry sweets I have been on my journey for 3 times longer and really am just figuring it out for myself. Actually, Im quite ashamed of this :lol:

Loving said:
@KhandiB and the other ladies here ....I got my T/U yesterday (sorry, I have no pics) and I did a few things differently and also have a few observations which have led me to some questions for you. You would think I would have this hair thing figured out by now after 2 years of relaxing but I guess I don't :nono:. I have gone from SL (see avatar pic) to BSL in these 2 years but I still feel like I'm not doing some things right. So here goes....

Observations

- I relaxed my nape last as I noticed it was breaking. I'm going to have to get used to it not being bone straight though

- My relaxer didn't take as well as it used to. My stylist said that my hair is getting stronger and becoming resistant to it so she will have to go with a different strength next time. I use Mizani Butter Blends Sensitive Scalp.

- My ends do not seem so smooth. It's been a while since I have had a trim (almost 2 years) but I dust at every T/U

So here are my questions for you:

- How often do you trim? I'm scared of trimming as I don't want to lose my length. I also want blunt ends but my hair grows in a V shape. How do I get around that?

- How do you thicken your hemline? Is it through trimming?

- If I opt to trim, can I do it next week or should I wait until the next T/U?

- How do you moisturize your NG in between washes? I currently wash once per week and I always do a DC then.

Thanks in advance!

ETA: I bun 4-5 times per week
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I want @pinkpearls to come in here and join us with that gorgeous hair. Congrats again chica!

@Loving

How often do you trim? I dust almost every TU either allowing my stylist to dust or I use my split ender.

How do I get around that? Either trim gradually or cut drastically.

How do you thicken your hemline? Maintain your ends through trimming so there aren't any see through ends.

If I opt to trim, can I do it next week or should I wait until the next T/U? I allow a stylist to trim with my TU or a week after but never later than that. The split ender doesn't require straight roots because it just snips the ends only. Therefore, I use it whenever I choose.

How do you moisturize your NG in between washes? A spray like @shortdub78 suggested or by using a cream and just plopping product at the scalp.
 
shortdub78 said:
I'm low por too!
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I got off of my behind today and I'm sitting here with a black rinse in my hair. I'm going to leave it in for 30 mins. My hair has been resistant to color lately. I was going to use my Nairobi conditioner today, but it doesnt make sense to do that. I hope it takes this time. I am going to flat iron my hair today and put some nice clothes on.
 
shortdub78 said:
I got off of my behind today and I'm sitting here with a black rinse in my hair. I'm going to leave it in for 30 mins. My hair has been resistant to color lately. I was going to use my Nairobi conditioner today, but it doesnt make sense to do that. I hope it takes this time. I am going to flat iron my hair today and put some nice clothes on.
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I am thinking about getting braids. Human hair doesn't cut into your hair right? And as long as they aren't tight, I shouldn't have a problem
 
shortdub78 said:
I got off of my behind today and I'm sitting here with a black rinse in my hair. I'm going to leave it in for 30 mins. My hair has been resistant to color lately. I was going to use my Nairobi conditioner today, but it doesnt make sense to do that. I hope it takes this time. I am going to flat iron my hair today and put some nice clothes on.
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I bought a black rinse today for my hair session tomorrow. ..this gray is trying me!! Team lo-po is going to win this !! Lets get it!!

Suny
 
SunySydeofLyfe said:
I bought a black rinse today for my hair session tomorrow. ..this gray is trying me!! Team lo-po is going to win this !! Lets get it!!

Suny
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I bought the clairol textures and tones rinse and I don't like how it made my hair felt. It was more difficult to detangle and I started getting a little rough with the comb. My hair looks more off black than jet black. I'm going to try another rinse next time. I can see I got some growth too. I'm Sl now. I cut my hair to NL on June 1st. I flat ironed my hair today too! Yay!
 
shortdub78 said:
I bought the clairol textures and tones rinse and I don't like how it made my hair felt. It was more difficult to detangle and I started getting a little rough with the comb. My hair looks more off black than jet black. I'm going to try another rinse next time. I can see I got some growth too. I'm Sl now. I cut my hair to NL on June 1st. I flat ironed my hair today too! Yay!
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shortdub78,
Congratulations on getting back to SL! How is your stretch going?

KiWiStyle, Cattypus1, EnExitStageLeft, soonergirl, [USER=350099]Altruisticoam, yoli184, SunySydeofLyfe,
I had to end my stretch so I can stop wearing wigs. I'm 3 days post relaxer. I had some nape damage, so I got a trim and now rocking an ear length bob. I'll be roller setting this relaxer session and I'm only going to stretch to 13 weeks max. I'm also going back to using heat once or twice a month by going to the salon and back to using my silicon conditioners. I miss that salon look that I never seem to be able to duplicate at home. I came to the conclusion that a no heat regimen, PS 24/7, and going to the salon for relaxers only 3-4 times a year isn't working for my hair. Back to what I was doing in 2011/2012 when I started my HHJ.
 
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xu93texas said:
shortdub78,
Congratulations on getting back to SL! How is your stretch going?

KiWiStyle, Cattypus1, EnExitStageLeft, soonergirl, [USER=350099]Altruisticoam, yoli184, SunySydeofLyfe,
I had to end my stretch so I can stop wearing wigs. I'm 3 days post relaxer. I had some nape damage, so I got a trim and now rocking an ear length bob. I'll be roller setting this relaxer session and I'm only going to stretch to 13 weeks max. I'm also going back to using heat once or twice a month by going to the salon and back to using my silicon conditioners. I miss that salon look that I never seem to be able to duplicate at home. I came to the conclusion that a no heat regimen, PS 24/7, and going to the salon for relaxers only 3-4 times a year isn't working for my hair. Back to what I was doing in 2011/2012 when I started my HHJ.
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You gotta do what works for you. I'm still trying to learn what that is for me. I recognized with my two previous stretches hat 12 weeks is my max...after that, it's a real fight to the finish and totally not worth the drama.
 
@EnExitStage!eft xu93texas KiWiStyle yoli184 Cattypus1, shortdub78, soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe


Ladies 10 weeks post checking in....I am determined to find a protective or semi-protective style that works for me.

I'm so proud of myself...I spent two hours yesterday making clip in extensions. For my first attempt I'm pretty pleased. I do have to give a shutout to my DH cause he threaded all my needles (my patience was too thin lol)

I installed them using miss Lynn's method so only a little of my hair is left out the rest is under a wig cap.

What do you all think?
 

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Altruisticoam said:
@EnExitStage!eft xu93texas KiWiStyle yoli184 Cattypus1, shortdub78, soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe

Ladies 10 weeks post checking in....I am determined to find a protective or semi-protective style that works for me.

I'm so proud of myself...I spent two hours yesterday making clip in extensions. For my first attempt I'm pretty pleased. I do have to give a shutout to my DH cause he threaded all my needles (my patience was too thin lol)

I installed them using miss Lynn's method so only a little of my hair is left out the rest is under a wig cap.

What do you all think?
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I like it! Very creative!
 
xu93texas said:
shortdub78,
Congratulations on getting back to SL! How is your stretch going?

KiWiStyle, Cattypus1, EnExitStageLeft, soonergirl, [USER=350099]Altruisticoam, yoli184, SunySydeofLyfe,
I had to end my stretch so I can stop wearing wigs. I'm 3 days post relaxer. I had some nape damage, so I got a trim and now rocking an ear length bob. I'll be roller setting this relaxer session and I'm only going to stretch to 13 weeks max. I'm also going back to using heat once or twice a month by going to the salon and back to using my silicon conditioners. I miss that salon look that I never seem to be able to duplicate at home. I came to the conclusion that a no heat regimen, PS 24/7, and going to the salon for relaxers only 3-4 times a year isn't working for my hair. Back to what I was doing in 2011/2012 when I started my HHJ.
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That rinse made it hard to detangle. But I managed to flat iron my hair. I do have some flyaways but who doesn't? Lol 13 weeks yall. When is the next time we are suppose to relax?
 
Altruisticoam said:
@EnExitStage!eft xu93texas KiWiStyle yoli184 Cattypus1, shortdub78, soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe

Ladies 10 weeks post checking in....I am determined to find a protective or semi-protective style that works for me.

I'm so proud of myself...I spent two hours yesterday making clip in extensions. For my first attempt I'm pretty pleased. I do have to give a shutout to my DH cause he threaded all my needles (my patience was too thin lol)

I installed them using miss Lynn's method so only a little of my hair is left out the rest is under a wig cap.

What do you all think?
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Very nice, I love it!
 
Altruisticoam said:
@EnExitStage!eft xu93texas KiWiStyle yoli184 Cattypus1, shortdub78, soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe

Ladies 10 weeks post checking in....I am determined to find a protective or semi-protective style that works for me.

I'm so proud of myself...I spent two hours yesterday making clip in extensions. For my first attempt I'm pretty pleased. I do have to give a shutout to my DH cause he threaded all my needles (my patience was too thin lol)

I installed them using miss Lynn's method so only a little of my hair is left out the rest is under a wig cap.

What do you all think?
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I like it. You did great for your first time. Kudos to your husband for helping out.
 
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