2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[KiWiStyle]

Cattypus1
xu93texas
Altruisticoam
yoli184
shortdub78
EnExitStageLeft
soonergirl
SunySydeofLyfe

Hi buddies and everyone in between! My apologies for dropping off planet LHCF but I'm ok, just a little busy and hair bored, plus going thru the marriage blues haven't helped any either. Business picked up a bit over the last month or so and it's left me tired as hell, everyday I would tell myself to post but then I'd convince myself tomorrow...I've even lost a few...1, 2, or 3 pounds because I've been too busy to eat. I have so much catching up to do so please forgive me in advance if I can't go back far enough and reply.

How's y'll doing though? Have you been thinking about fall/winter regimens/products/styles? Nope? Me either, lol! My hair has mainly been in a bun but I decided to flat iron on 260 degrees on Friday and unless my eyes are deceiving me and playing an evil trick, it has gotten a tad bit longer since I relaxed in August. My daughter and I measured about 2.5" to BSL so I'm inching along. I'm currently 6 weeks post and doing well besides the massive detangling job and shed/broken hair I lost during my flat iron session. I'm still finding hairs on my bathroom floor.

The first few inches of my hair is texlaxed and I'm learning I cannot be lazy with the moisturizing at that darn line of demarcation and I have to straighten this stuff periodically. I won't complain much about transitioning to texlax because my air dried pony looks nice...not great but much better than before. I've also come to the realization that bonelaxed, texlaxed or whatever laxed, my fine, low density strands will always mean anorexic pony tails and buns...CRAP :-(! Maybe, just maybe once my texlaxed hair gets longer I'll feel differently.

Wheew, I'm glad I finally got ALL that out .

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[Cattypus1]

Glad you're back...and you're doing okay. I was so hair bored last week that I flat-ironed too. I'm 11 weeks post tomorrow and thinking I might extend my planned 12 week for as long as I can stand it. I'm not seeing any significant breakage but not much growth either.

 

[xu93texas]

KiWiStyle, I was wondering what happened to you. Girl, I know about being busy. Flu shots have been keeping us busy. Glad that business is picking up for you. Good to hear that you're retaining length.

I'm 3 weeks post tomorrow. My hair is definitely texlaxed. I've been suffering from HIH syndrome.

My regimen for the rest of the year:
I'll be getting someone to braid my hair in a beehive and wash/DC every 10-14 days. I'll get her to redo every 2 weeks. I'll CW and tea rinse once a week in braids. I'll be oiling my scalp and doing scalp massages several nights per week and M&S daily. I probably will go to the salon to get my hair flat ironed at least twice b/c my anniversary is next month and my birthday is in November.

I bought new rollers and stuff to start rollersetting again, but since cold and flu season is here and business is picking up, I just don't have the time. I'm getting ready to buy two more wigs and looking for someone to make a custom wig for me. I need 2.5 inches to get back to SL in my avatar.

 

[SunySydeofLyfe]

Cattypus1
xu93texas
Altruisticoam
yoli184
shortdub78
EnExitStageLeft
soonergirl
SunySydeofLyfe

Hi buddies and everyone in between! My apologies for dropping off planet LHCF but I'm ok, just a little busy and hair bored, plus going thru the marriage blues haven't helped any either. Business picked up a bit over the last month or so and it's left me tired as hell, everyday I would tell myself to post but then I'd convince myself tomorrow...I've even lost a few...1, 2, or 3 pounds because I've been too busy to eat. I have so much catching up to do so please forgive me in advance if I can't go back far enough and reply.

How's y'll doing though? Have you been thinking about fall/winter regimens/products/styles? Nope? Me either, lol! My hair has mainly been in a bun but I decided to flat iron on 260 degrees on Friday and unless my eyes are deceiving me and playing an evil trick, it has gotten a tad bit longer since I relaxed in August. My daughter and I measured about 2.5" to BSL so I'm inching along. I'm currently 6 weeks post and doing well besides the massive detangling job and shed/broken hair I lost during my flat iron session. I'm still finding hairs on my bathroom floor.

The first few inches of my hair is texlaxed and I'm learning I cannot be lazy with the moisturizing at that darn line of demarcation and I have to straighten this stuff periodically. I won't complain much about transitioning to texlax because my air dried pony looks nice...not great but much better than before. I've also come to the realization that bonelaxed, texlaxed or whatever laxed, my fine, low density strands will always mean anorexic pony tails and buns...CRAP :-(! Maybe, just maybe once my texlaxed hair gets longer I'll feel differently.

Wheew, I'm glad I finally got ALL that out .

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

I want to answer all of what you asked but this phone sucks. I will later

How about i haven't used baking soda on my hair but have been using it on my face....i love it

 

[Evolving78]

Cattypus1
xu93texas
Altruisticoam
yoli184
shortdub78
EnExitStageLeft
soonergirl
SunySydeofLyfe

Hi buddies and everyone in between! My apologies for dropping off planet LHCF but I'm ok, just a little busy and hair bored, plus going thru the marriage blues haven't helped any either. Business picked up a bit over the last month or so and it's left me tired as hell, everyday I would tell myself to post but then I'd convince myself tomorrow...I've even lost a few...1, 2, or 3 pounds because I've been too busy to eat. I have so much catching up to do so please forgive me in advance if I can't go back far enough and reply.

How's y'll doing though? Have you been thinking about fall/winter regimens/products/styles? Nope? Me either, lol! My hair has mainly been in a bun but I decided to flat iron on 260 degrees on Friday and unless my eyes are deceiving me and playing an evil trick, it has gotten a tad bit longer since I relaxed in August. My daughter and I measured about 2.5" to BSL so I'm inching along. I'm currently 6 weeks post and doing well besides the massive detangling job and shed/broken hair I lost during my flat iron session. I'm still finding hairs on my bathroom floor.

The first few inches of my hair is texlaxed and I'm learning I cannot be lazy with the moisturizing at that darn line of demarcation and I have to straighten this stuff periodically. I won't complain much about transitioning to texlax because my air dried pony looks nice...not great but much better than before. I've also come to the realization that bonelaxed, texlaxed or whatever laxed, my fine, low density strands will always mean anorexic pony tails and buns...CRAP :-(! Maybe, just maybe once my texlaxed hair gets longer I'll feel differently.

Wheew, I'm glad I finally got ALL that out .

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

Hey! I'm glad business is picking up! And hope everything else follows. U will make bsl this year! My hair looks like a freakin mess, I'm going to do something to it. I have been busy getting my family on track as well as my health. Had bloodwork done yesterday. I'm also looking for a flexible part time job so I can be flexible for the kiddies and go back to school. My hair is dry and I'm 15 weeks post. I'm not relaxing until December with u. I need to put some heat to this bird nest.

 

[KiWiStyle]

Glad you're back...and you're doing okay. I was so hair bored last week that I flat-ironed too. I'm 11 weeks post tomorrow and thinking I might extend my planned 12 week for as long as I can stand it. I'm not seeing any significant breakage but not much growth either.

Thanks Cattypus1, so I'm not the only one bored with hair. I guess it could be a good thing because now I'm not watching paint dry. No breakage is GREAT! The growth will come but at least you're retaining what you do have coming in.

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[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle, I was wondering what happened to you. Girl, I know about being busy. Flu shots have been keeping us busy. Glad that business is picking up for you. Good to hear that you're retaining length. I'm 3 weeks post tomorrow. My hair is definitely texlaxed. I've been suffering from HIH syndrome. My regimen for the rest of the year: I'll be getting someone to braid my hair in a beehive and wash/DC every 10-14 days. I'll get her to redo every 2 weeks. I'll CW and tea rinse once a week in braids. I'll be oiling my scalp and doing scalp massages several nights per week and M&S daily. I probably will go to the salon to get my hair flat ironed at least twice b/c my anniversary is next month and my birthday is in November. I bought new rollers and stuff to start rollersetting again, but since cold and flu season is here and business is picking up, I just don't have the time. I'm getting ready to buy two more wigs and looking for someone to make a custom wig for me. I need 2.5 inches to get back to SL in my avatar.

xu93texas I like to call my year end busy season to be my bonus . Braids are nice, I wish I could trust that my hair can handle them, one day I'll try them for a few weeks. So you're Texlaxed too, seems to be the wave of the future for us relaxed heads. Are you a Dr./nurse?? I can't have my own family around me when sick, I cannot imagine doing it for a week. On the other hand, nurses are like teachers, very much appreciated and but much nicer.

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[KiWiStyle]

I want to answer all of what you asked but this phone sucks. I will later How about i haven't used baking soda on my hair but have been using it on my face....i love it

SunySydeofLyfe what does baking soda do for your skin.

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[KiWiStyle]

Hey! I'm glad business is picking up! And hope everything else follows. U will make bsl this year! My hair looks like a freakin mess, I'm going to do something to it. I have been busy getting my family on track as well as my health. Had bloodwork done yesterday. I'm also looking for a flexible part time job so I can be flexible for the kiddies and go back to school. My hair is dry and I'm 15 weeks post. I'm not relaxing until December with u. I need to put some heat to this bird nest.

Thanks shortdub78!! Family life keeps us on our toes and looking crazy for sure. Girl moisturize that hair!! You don't want any preventable problems...I think a little heat use is important to thoroughly detangle the hair to prevent have to cut or massive breakage.

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[SunySydeofLyfe]

SunySydeofLyfe what does baking soda do for your skin.

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KiWiStyle girl i haven't had a pimple and it seems my dark marks are lightening....and it makes my skin so soft. I got a free mag from the bss and in an article this beautiful older sista was saying she does it everynight. I was extra sold after that. Btw I'm a makeup every day oily pimple prone adult.

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[xu93texas]

xu93texas I like to call my year end busy season to be my bonus . Braids are nice, I wish I could trust that my hair can handle them, one day I'll try them for a few weeks. So you're Texlaxed too, seems to be the wave of the future for us relaxed heads. Are you a Dr./nurse?? I can't have my own family around me when sick, I cannot imagine doing it for a week. On the other hand, nurses are like teachers, very much appreciated and but much nicer.

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I think you'll look cute in braids. You should try them out.

Being busy at the end of the year is a bonus
I am a pharmacist, so flu shots added to everything else we do keeps us on our toes.

My roots are are so wavy and I'm only 3 weeks post. I hope getting my hair braided in a beehive will give my hair a chance to just grow.

 

[SunySydeofLyfe]

@Cattypus1
@xu93texas
@Altruisticoam
@yoli184
@shortdub78
@EnExitStageLeft
@soonergirl
@SunySydeofLyfe

Hi buddies and everyone in between! My apologies for dropping off planet LHCF but I'm ok, just a little busy and hair bored, plus going thru the marriage blues haven't helped any either. Business picked up a bit over the last month or so and it's left me tired as hell, everyday I would tell myself to post but then I'd convince myself tomorrow...I've even lost a few...1, 2, or 3 pounds because I've been too busy to eat. I have so much catching up to do so please forgive me in advance if I can't go back far enough and reply.

How's y'll doing though? Have you been thinking about fall/winter regimens/products/styles? Nope? Me either, lol! My hair has mainly been in a bun but I decided to flat iron on 260 degrees on Friday and unless my eyes are deceiving me and playing an evil trick, it has gotten a tad bit longer since I relaxed in August. My daughter and I measured about 2.5" to BSL so I'm inching along. I'm currently 6 weeks post and doing well besides the massive detangling job and shed/broken hair I lost during my flat iron session. I'm still finding hairs on my bathroom floor.

The first few inches of my hair is texlaxed and I'm learning I cannot be lazy with the moisturizing at that darn line of demarcation and I have to straighten this stuff periodically. I won't complain much about transitioning to texlax because my air dried pony looks nice...not great but much better than before. I've also come to the realization that bonelaxed, texlaxed or whatever laxed, my fine, low density strands will always mean anorexic pony tails and buns...CRAP :-(! Maybe, just maybe once my texlaxed hair gets longer I'll feel differently.

Wheew, I'm glad I finally got ALL that out .

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

Sorry about the blues and busy at work but the sunshine is on the way!!!

Hair....I was in a rut, I started a new job and wasn't really trying to do to much, I have been in bantu knot outs for the last three weeks and I realize I love them! I wanted to make a wig but its so time consuming and with the baby....aint gonna happen! I have been on a 2 week hair care regimen that I am committing to continuing. I am dry DCing with conditioner and oils (using whatever I have on hand, the stash is leaving me!!!!) on Wednesday, poo (maybe) airdry and then bantu knots, I haven't found the perfect product but I am running with it. On Sundays Im repeating Wednesday!

I did a color rinse this past Sunday and let me tell you....the neutral protein filler applied 20 minutes before the color was a win its black black black!!!! I thought my lo-po hair didn't like protein but sheeeetttttt I don't know!!!! I just don't know....I am going back to Nairobi as soon as I clear out the conditioners and such in one of these bins! On a mission!!!! I am going to wait until the weekend before Thanksgiving to texlax....I think I will be 19 or 21 weeks, I stopped counting.

These last few months of the year ladies, lets get it in!!! Meet and exceed some expectations!!!

 

[sunnieb]

Luprisi baddison divachyk, Luprisi, DominicanBrazilian82, Nix08, Cherry89, Jobwright, pre_medicalrulz

Hey buds!

I cowashed with WEN 613 tonight after doing a small trim. Feeling MUCH better about my hair. I know I was underwhelmed with my relaxer reveal this weekend and I'm over that.

I was a bit mad that I have to bun in order to see results. I tried wearing my hair out for a year and that did not work for me. I have to accept that my hair just can't do that. I do think I can get away with bunning maybe 75% of the time instead of 100%.

Did anyone else relax recently? I'm a bit off with our relaxer dates!

Oh, I'm back to BSL!!!!

 

[divachyk]

sunnieb!! Don't be underwhelmed. You have gorgeous hair.

Luprisi baddison DominicanBrazilian82 Nix08 Cherry89 Jobwright pre_medicalrulz sunnieb, my hair is behaving. I believe this past TU did a number on the thickness. It just feels over all thinner. I've taken photo after photo but the photos aren't telling the story I feel to be true.

 

[Evolving78]

sunnieb!! Don't be underwhelmed. You have gorgeous hair.

Luprisi baddison DominicanBrazilian82 Nix08 Cherry89 Jobwright pre_medicalrulz sunnieb, my hair is behaving. I believe this past TU did a number on the thickness. It just feels over all thinner. I've taken photo after photo but the photos aren't telling the story I feel to be true.

That is something I don't need. It would be like stretching in vain. Do u think it is just more on the bonelax side?

 

[baddison]

Luprisi @baddison @sunnieb, @Luprisi, @DominicanBrazilian82, @Nix08, @Cherry89, @Jobwright, @pre_medicalrulz

How Ladies! How's everything? I've been super busy and trying to stay afloat. My hair is doing great. No complaints. *knock on wood*

Doing great! Seriously, and even more seriously, considering doing only 2 relaxers for the 2015 year. That means stretching for 6months at a time. But, perhaps this "insanity" can be cured by the end of this year. so I'll wait until that time to make a final decision...

 

[baddison]

sunnieb!! Don't be underwhelmed. You have gorgeous hair.

Luprisi baddison DominicanBrazilian82 Nix08 Cherry89 Jobwright pre_medicalrulz sunnieb, my hair is behaving. I believe this past TU did a number on the thickness. It just feels over all thinner. I've taken photo after photo but the photos aren't telling the story I feel to be true.

I TOTALLY know the feeling. That's why I havent updated my signature pic with my August results. It just feels like its longer, but thinner. Hence, the consideration to stretch longer?? dunno....

 

[baddison]

Luprisi baddison divachyk, Luprisi, DominicanBrazilian82, Nix08, Cherry89, Jobwright, pre_medicalrulz

Hey buds!

I cowashed with WEN 613 tonight after doing a small trim. Feeling MUCH better about my hair. I know I was underwhelmed with my relaxer reveal this weekend and I'm over that.

I was a bit mad that I have to bun in order to see results. I tried wearing my hair out for a year and that did not work for me. I have to accept that my hair just can't do that. I do think I can get away with bunning maybe 75% of the time instead of 100%.

Did anyone else relax recently? I'm a bit off with our relaxer dates!

Oh, I'm back to BSL!!!!

HEY!! sunnieb congrats on BSL!! Where are your pictures?? I think I missed the reveal.

 

[sunnieb]

Doing great! Seriously, and even more seriously, considering doing only 2 relaxers for the 2015 year. That means stretching for 6months at a time. But, perhaps this "insanity" can be cured by the end of this year. so I'll wait until that time to make a final decision...

baddison Let's do it! Nix08 you with us??? I'd probably go to a natural salon during this super stretch and let them heat-straighten my hair a couple of times.

HEY!! sunnieb congrats on BSL!! Where are your pictures?? I think I missed the reveal.

Posted in the Relaxer Reveal Thread.

 

[divachyk]

I TOTALLY know the feeling. That's why I havent updated my signature pic with my August results. It just feels like its longer, but thinner. Hence, the consideration to stretch longer?? dunno....

baddison, I know mine is thinner from the amount of hair lost. I'm just trying to determine severity. Dh thinks it's minimally different. I think it's a major difference. However, the pics only show a minimal difference. I just know it doesn't feel as thick and plump when styling and combing. It's definitely longer but thinner. I am not a great stretcher and get tons of breakage when I go beyond 10-12 weeks. I'm not sure what's the right answer at this point. Dh asked me about this last night and I had nothing to give him on where do we (he's in this fight with me ) go from here. Longer stretches is out. This is first relaxer thinning issue in 20+ years so....I suppose chopping back to the thickest areas is an option, as is texturizing or texlaxing to achieve thickness. I dunno. Just rambling.

@Luprisi @baddison @Luprisi, @DominicanBrazilian82, @Nix08, @Cherry89, @Jobwright, @pre_medicalrulz sunnieb

 

[Hyacinthe]

Babygrowth, Angelinhell, Kim0105 How are you all doing? I hope I didn't miss anyone.

I know we may not be on the same schedule anymore but 9/18 made 12 weeks post for me. I've been going to a salon and found a stylist whom I absolutely LOVE! Thursday I went in for a wash and flat iron, so I think I'll stretch 2 more weeks. I'm at CBL, I'm (hopefully) looking at December for full SL... Let's go!!!

HEY Girls!!!!
so You are def right MissyB we are definitely on diff schedules but I am so happy that your making progess. yay:

Now about me and mine, I am about (checks calender) 9 weeks post and I have 11 more to go. Pray for me girl cuz this is the 1st attempt,I normally go 16 weeks but I will see. I am thinking of getting a wig to suffice for the last 5 weeks or so.
I am hoping and praying that Im finally APL after this stretch.
everything seems to be fine with my hair maybe a little shedding here and there but nothing to be alarmed about and thats all I got for now

Hope to here from my other buddies cuz its been 2 long!

 

[Luprisi]

Doing great! Seriously, and even more seriously, considering doing only 2 relaxers for the 2015 year. That means stretching for 6months at a time. But, perhaps this "insanity" can be cured by the end of this year. so I'll wait until that time to make a final decision...

I've been thinking about that as well. I think I might even skip the december's relaxer and stretch for 6 months this time around.

 

[Nix08]

@baddison Let's do it! @Nix08 you with us??? I'd probably go to a natural salon during this super stretch and let them heat-straighten my hair a couple of times.



Posted in the Relaxer Reveal Thread.

@sunnieb, @baddison and Luprisi - I may just be game, it would actually bring me to relaxing in what February (which is my bday month)....well...if you guys are going for it...so will I (while reserving the prerogative to change my mind)

 

[Cattypus1]

Sorry about the blues and busy at work but the sunshine is on the way!!! Hair....I was in a rut, I started a new job and wasn't really trying to do to much, I have been in bantu knot outs for the last three weeks and I realize I love them! I wanted to make a wig but its so time consuming and with the baby....aint gonna happen! I have been on a 2 week hair care regimen that I am committing to continuing. I am dry DCing with conditioner and oils (using whatever I have on hand, the stash is leaving me!!!!) on Wednesday, poo (maybe) airdry and then bantu knots, I haven't found the perfect product but I am running with it. On Sundays Im repeating Wednesday! I did a color rinse this past Sunday and let me tell you....the neutral protein filler applied 20 minutes before the color was a win its black black black!!!! I thought my lo-po hair didn't like protein but sheeeetttttt I don't know!!!! I just don't know....I am going back to Nairobi as soon as I clear out the conditioners and such in one of these bins! On a mission!!!! I am going to wait until the weekend before Thanksgiving to texlax....I think I will be 19 or 21 weeks, I stopped counting. These last few months of the year ladies, lets get it in!!! Meet and exceed some expectations!!!

I'll be 12 weeks next week and am scheduled to Texlax then. My new growth is behaving so I'm considering stretching longer...we'll see about 20, I'm going to take it a week at a time. I love the look of Bantu knot outs but I just have a hard time pulling them off consistently.

 

[naija24]

has anyone here went from the regular 8-10 week stretching schedule to 6 month stretches? any advice?

 

[Jobwright]

has anyone here went from the regular 8-10 week stretching schedule to 6 month stretches? any advice?

I went 7 months without relaxing but thought I was transitioning after a terrible setback with micro braids with extensions. That's when I found LHCF...searching the internet on ways to heal my broken hair. The stretch was cool at first, then got hard around 4 months because I was just learning how to deal with my hair naturally. Then it got easy around 6 months because I was at that point of absorbing and using what I was learning on here from all the fabulous Sisters that gave amazing advice. Then at 7 months, I started questioning why I was transitioning when that was not what my HHJ was about in the first place. So I relaxed again and now feel like I am in a MUCH BETTER PLACE with MY HAIR. Nothing against naturals at all, but I really had to deal with what I WANTED FOR MYSELF. So, with all that said, stretching for 6 months does not have to be hard at all and could be THE BEST THING in terms of gaining health and strength back while growing and retaining. But you have to keep up with moisture on 2-3 different types of hair on your head at one time, be patient and understand that one product may not work for all the different textures. PJism is necessary at times. Although you may not be transitioning, the Transitioning Support without the Big Chop thread could be of great benefit to you. HTH

 

[SunySydeofLyfe]

has anyone here went from the regular 8-10 week stretching schedule to 6 month stretches? any advice?

There is a long old thread on long term stretchers...I'm on my phone or i would attach it there's some good advice in there. I haven't done 6 months but applying conditioner relaxer style helps me

 

[Evolving78]

has anyone here went from the regular 8-10 week stretching schedule to 6 month stretches? any advice?

I am going for 6 months. 4 months down so far. Figuring out how to be more gentle to reduce breakage. I get broken hairs from not being gentle enough or snagging my hair from clips to separate my hair in sections.

 

[Evolving78]

I am going for 6 months. 4 months down so far. Figuring out how to be more gentle to reduce breakage. I get broken hairs from not being gentle enough or snagging my hair from clips to separate my hair in sections.

Working in sections, applying conditioner like a relaxer, pre pooing with oil, using a liquid moisturizer on new growth only, protective styles, using heat to stretch, etc...is working so far.

 

[GrowAHead]

Hi Ladies - As winter approaches I'm thinking about making a shea butter/coconut oil/jojoba oil moisture mix. Have any of you had success using something similar on relaxed hair?

Thanks!