2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

[firecracker]

My daughter is flying out and taking me away for my birthday. I gave memory loss/cholesterol man the ok to go to the Saints game. We can celebrate my birthday and shop for my gift after the weekend.

He played me/strung me along in regards to getting a second opinion/changing doctors for his memory issues. We will be taking a long long walk around the park due to this bs. If he is ok with forgetting stuff and not processing information at his old rate its alright with me. I won't me nagging or acting like no ole ninja's mammy. I won't be repeating myself unless its to my benefit. I'm going to get some life insurance on his arse really soon.

I gotta new lil man anyways. He is hardheaded sometimes too.
Outside of that everything is everything. That is my only complaint.

 

[ThatJerseyGirl]

firecracker -- boy do we think alike cuz as i was readin, i was like....if she know like i know, she betta up da ante on da 'surance policy lololol

da only complaint i have is dat when mines is drivin, he looks like a gotdayum crash dummy wif da x's for eyes and dat dumb smile. chile, da left hand be at 9 o clock and da right is on 3 o clock and he be grippin da steerin wheel right tight to da point where u can see his knuckles. his hands neva change position. ever. in fact, i neva see his head move off da swivel.

u know how u go to change lanes, and u at least look in ur side mirrors? dis bama don't even do dat...we just get on ova chile....his head neva swivels to see if anything comin. and i told him one day, i was like do u know whatchur side profile look like when u drivin? he was like..naww what...and i told him. a gotdayum crash dummy...head right erect n stiff wif da seat straight up. not even leaned back a lil. that's why i don't like ridin with him.

i was like when u pull up to a light in a nice ride, people automatically look to see who drivin. when they see u, they just be off da erplexed wif his corny azzzz.

so now, if i gotta go somewhere and i don't feel like drivin, we just go at night. late. when there is less people on da road cuz ridin shotgun wif dis bama....u just neva know....

 

[ThatJerseyGirl]

ladies...here he is. Mista crash dummy.

 

[firecracker]

OMG ThatJerseyGirl I told him dude sometimes I can see it in your eyes and its like talkin to a crash dummy or Jim Jones. LOL

 

[ThatJerseyGirl]

lololool firecracker. see what i'm sayin. i don't care tho, he still drive at night. won't catch me out der wif da dummy lololol....then when u talkin to them, they act like they can't comprehend. puleez don't git me started...

 

[Maracujá]

I have sworn off dating as it is not working in my benefit and I only meet douchebags. However, this fine specimen at work...MY LAWD! I had noticed him before, but now I find myself just staring at him and constantly looking for him. He's tall, looks to be in his midtwenties, very polite and incredibly nice, he has that REAL good guy vibe around him. My sister says I should approach him but that's not my steelo...don't know what to do. I'll keep y'all updated

 

[firecracker]

Maracuja don't give up. You gotta look at alot frogs and jackarse to get to the good one. I always called dating bobbin for apples. After ducking your head in that bucket of water time after time you are bound to get a nice juicy green apple all your own. LOL

 

[Maracujá]

^^That made me laugh, thank you for the advice!

 

[melophone13]

What happened to the last one? Can someone PM me, please?

 

[Skyfall]

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[C@ssandr@]

I think you should approach him, in a casual friendly way, when the opportunity presents itself.

This is a good way to get on his radar

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Still struggling on a small point. I'm moving this weekend and don't plan on getting cable. I've not had it for the last month and things have been great. He will be over quite a bit and said that he needs to be able to be comfortable and watch all his shows. The bottom line is that he is paying my cable bill going forward. I just said fine to avoid strife. My question is did I do the right thing by giving in? I could give two craps about cable as long as I have Netflix, huluplus and hbotogo(he used his login/account to put it on my roku). I just felt a little like I was losing myself a small amount by allowing him to get it at my house. Maybe I was being selfish. Maybe there really is no issue and I'm over thinking things.

 

[nappystorm]

Very clever firecracker

Anyhoo, suitor 1 is on his way out. I don't do disappearing acts even if he IS a Gemini

Suitor 2 is cool. I like him but we are in entirely two different places in life. He's older, divorced, 3 kids (two 18+ and 16) and a grandchild with a really stable life here. Maybe if he was about 10 years younger with fewer responsibilities. I'm 30, childless, I'm just really starting my career and I'm not really looking to settle here. I want to get married but I still want to travel, have kids, and an active social life. I told him I don't see anything long term for us but he's still calling, trying to see me, and offering me ish so Imma just chill and enjoy the attention

I'm going to just go ahead and join Match.com.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

Saw this cutie teacher at my sister's new school. He doesn't teach her grade though. It's been a long time since I've seen anyone I thought was attractive in that way lol. Maybe I'll offer to pick my sis some days up so I can talk to him or at least get a glance.

 

[hopeful]

Je Ne Sais Quoi
overthinking IMO. Life's too short. Try to quit quibbling over every little thing. He's planning on spending lots of time with you and he likes his shows.

Hi relationship ladies , thanks for starting this thread firecracker.

 

[chocolat79]

A few events over the last couple of weeks have made me realize how much SO is right for me. I won't elaborate to protect the guilty But I truly can't see myself with anyone else

ETA: Although I feel it takes a while to TRULY know if that person is right for you, when you know, you know. Hang in there (unattached) ladies! If you even see an inkling that the person may not be the one, K.I.M. because the right one will show up.

 

[tinkat]

Well it's my twin's birthday and I'm not there for him . A lot of things going on with me personally. I'm not the type to moan and feel sorry for myself so I won't! I love how patient he is and although I was not with him when the clock hit midnight, I was on the phone wishing him a happy birthday. I made him a video, I'm going to upload it on YouTube just so he can see. I wish I was with him but my nana is sick and my mother has to be there for her and I will be looking after my lil brother who is in school. Plus there is other things but I prefer to focus on the now and how things will be great in the end.

 

[crlsweetie912]

Well it's my twin's birthday and I'm not there for him . A lot of things going on with me personally. I'm not the type to moan and feel sorry for myself so I won't! I love how patient he is and although I was not with him when the clock hit midnight, I was on the phone wishing him a happy birthday. I made him a video, I'm going to upload it on YouTube just so he can see. I wish I was with him but my nana is sick and my mother has to be there for her and I will be looking after my lil brother who is in school. Plus there is other things but I prefer to focus on the now and how things will be great in the end.

I'm sure he understands! I'm so happy for you!


For me, not much. A few possibles, one really good possible, but I'm going super slow. I'm not chasing ANYONE! And they ALWAYS come back!

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Je Ne Sais Quoi
overthinking IMO. Life's too short. Try to quit quibbling over every little thing. He's planning on spending lots of time with you and he likes his shows.

Hi relationship ladies , thanks for starting this thread firecracker.

Yes ma'am. You are right. My problem is that I feel like I gave up a little bit of control and I always need to be in control smh

 

[crlsweetie912]

Yes ma'am. You are right. My problem is that I feel like I gave up a little bit of control and I always need to be in control smh

Hey sis...if I could interject, I think you are looking at this from the wrong perspective.
Be thankful that you have someone that is willing to step in no matter what. Isn't that what we all want in a man? Protector? Provider? Stable?
Shoot, I'll come out there and snatch him up! Cause these busters in Baltimore!
Love you.

 

[tinkat]

I'm sure he understands! I'm so happy for you!

For me, not much. A few possibles, one really good possible, but I'm going super slow. I'm not chasing ANYONE! And they ALWAYS come back!

Thank you!!!

And you are right, they always come back!!!

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Hey sis...if I could interject, I think you are looking at this from the wrong perspective.
Be thankful that you have someone that is willing to step in no matter what. Isn't that what we all want in a man? Protector? Provider? Stable?
Shoot, I'll come out there and snatch him up! Cause these busters in Baltimore!
Love you.

But he isn't providing cable for me and that's the thing. I don't want cable. He is the one that wants cable. That's why I'm thinking even though I don't want it I need to give in to make him happy. Why should I when it's my house and I don't want cable there?? But like you all mentioned I need to stop tripping and get over myself ( which I have). He can have his cable if that floats his boat. There are worse things to trouble over.

Love you too xoxo

 

[crlsweetie912]

But he isn't providing cable for me and that's the thing. I don't want cable. He is the one that wants cable. That's why I'm thinking even though I don't want it I need to give in to make him happy. Why should I when it's my house and I don't want cable there?? But like you all mentioned I need to stop tripping and get over myself ( which I have). He can have his cable if that floats his boat. There are worse things to trouble over.

Love you too xoxo

I'm not just talking about the cable. I'm talking about the ideals....letting someone help in whatever way.....jmo...

 

[hopeful]

Yes ma'am. You are right. My problem is that I feel like I gave up a little bit of control and I always need to be in control smh

I know, I know. I tend to be very controlling too, so I understand, but the thing is that is not what relationships are about. You have to learn how to compromise while still maintaining your sense of self and integrity. Perhaps God sent him to you to teach you this lesson. Open your heart to him and the lesson. You can have almost complete control of your home and be lonely. Or you can have a companion and be open to compromises here and there. Do you really want a guy who let's you have your way on everything? Who never challenges you?

tinkat hang in there dear. Hope things get better and glad your guy is so understanding.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I'm not just talking about the cable. I'm talking about the ideals....letting someone help in whatever way.....jmo...

You are right. I get that. Sometimes I'm so stubborn I do dumb ish.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I know, I know. I tend to be very controlling too, so I understand, but the thing is that is not what relationships are about. You have to learn how to compromise while still maintaining your sense of self and integrity. Perhaps God sent him to you to teach you this lesson. Open your heart to him and the lesson. You can have almost complete control of your home and be lonely. Or you can have a companion and be open to compromises here and there. Do you really want a guy who let's you have your way on everything? Who never challenges you?

tinkat hang in there dear. Hope things get better and glad your guy is so understanding.

Lonely but in control is where I have been for a long time. You are right and I need to work on that and stop being so closed on everything like I am.

 

[tinkat]

Thank you hopeful !!!

 

[Lucie]

I keep remiscing over Florida. I discovered 2 things about him. He wastes soap and does not put the toilet seat back down. I saw the 30% left soap in the trash and we were in tears laughing at his reasons why it had to be thrown out. I miss listening to him talking to his mom on the phone. Those 2 are like a mom and son comedy show.

I can't believe he ran after a raccoon to take a pic. Fortunately Floridian raccoons are polite. A NY raccoon would have mollywhopped him. That dude makes my skin smile.

 

[firecracker]

I think you should approach him, in a casual friendly way, when the opportunity presents itself.

I agree she needs to put herself on his radar. Chile smile, greet him and try to find something to say work related or simple random current events.

Still struggling on a small point. I'm moving this weekend and don't plan on getting cable. I've not had it for the last month and things have been great. He will be over quite a bit and said that he needs to be able to be comfortable and watch all his shows. The bottom line is that he is paying my cable bill going forward. I just said fine to avoid strife. My question is did I do the right thing by giving in? I could give two craps about cable as long as I have Netflix, huluplus and hbotogo(he used his login/account to put it on my roku). I just felt a little like I was losing myself a small amount by allowing him to get it at my house. Maybe I was being selfish. Maybe there really is no issue and I'm over thinking things.

Chile I feel ya but if anything happens all you have to do is order the service off period point blank. You have to allow your man to do things for you. Compromise without over thinking simple things. Its no longer just about you.

Well it's my twin's birthday and I'm not there for him . A lot of things going on with me personally. I'm not the type to moan and feel sorry for myself so I won't! I love how patient he is and although I was not with him when the clock hit midnight, I was on the phone wishing him a happy birthday. I made him a video, I'm going to upload it on YouTube just so he can see. I wish I was with him but my nana is sick and my mother has to be there for her and I will be looking after my lil brother who is in school. Plus there is other things but I prefer to focus on the now and how things will be great in the end.

All man I'm so sorry your grammy is sick but as crlsweetie says I'm sure he understands. You guys can celebrate his bdy after this calms down. I'm not celebrating with my guy til next week.

Hey sis...if I could interject, I think you are looking at this from the wrong perspective.
Be thankful that you have someone that is willing to step in no matter what. Isn't that what we all want in a man? Protector? Provider? Stable?
Shoot, I'll come out there and snatch him up! Cause these busters in Baltimore!
Love you.

I'm not just talking about the cable. I'm talking about the ideals....letting someone help in whatever way.....jmo...

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I know, I know. I tend to be very controlling too, so I understand, but the thing is that is not what relationships are about. You have to learn how to compromise while still maintaining your sense of self and integrity. Perhaps God sent him to you to teach you this lesson. Open your heart to him and the lesson. You can have almost complete control of your home and be lonely. Or you can have a companion and be open to compromises here and there. Do you really want a guy who let's you have your way on everything? Who never challenges you? A reason and/or a season. [/QUOTE]

[quote="Je Ne Sais Quoi, post: 16829237"]Lonely but in control is where I have been for a long time. You are right and I need to work on that and stop being so closed on everything like I am.[/QUOTE] Try to remember this when you want to fight tooth and nail over nonsense the devil is throwing your way.

[quote="Lucie, post: 16830323"]I keep remiscing over Florida. I discovered 2 things about him. He wastes soap and does not put the toilet seat back down. I saw the 30% left soap in the trash and we were in tears laughing at his reasons why it had to be thrown out. I miss listening to him talking to his mom on the phone. Those 2 are like a mom and son comedy show.

I can't believe he ran after a raccoon to take a pic. Fortunately Floridian raccoons are polite. [B]A NY raccoon would have mollywhopped him.[/B] That dude makes my skin smile.[/QUOTE] To the bold you ain't neva lied. I lived at the border of Hastings/Yonkers damn raccoons used to jump out at me causing me to jump on top of a car. Another one chase me from the Greystone station to my building.

 

[firecracker]

eta: I had to edit this post entirely. A bird chirped in my ear. I really didn't miss a thing so don't be concerned fire.
nappystorm Not being clever at all. Just want to discuss the good, bad & ugly in this thing called love, lust whateva it maybe. They didn't say we were prohibited from starting Random Threads in this forum did they?

My thread is asking a direct question. After that misunderstanding in that random thread all I have to say is if you don't want folks to post an opinion nor encouragement in your relationship endeavors etc then posting on the innanet isn't the place to be. Its really no different IRL. We all need another view or opinion so releasing here shouldn't be a problem. All of us can learn and grow from each others experience and stories.