Black Men don't like Black women with natural hair...

[Filmatic]

1st I don't base my hair decisions on what men think or even women for that matter. Anyone who knows me knows I'm do what I want to do with my hair and they better get on board or get pushed off.


And I am tired of these overused generalization. Everything she is saying is a lie. Black Men don't like natural hair? Lie. Why? You don't know every black man so you can't tell me their opinion.

 

[LightEyedMami]

LOL....my Husband likes my Natural Hair because its growing faster (than when i was relaxed), and all he cares about is that it is LONG, rather it be nappy,curly,wavy,straight..relaxed OR natural. I think thats alot of Husbands/SO. and why he reminds me to Deep Condition

 

[IDareT'sHair]

I think "Women" Are More Critical of How Other Women Look than Men. I still think Men look at other qualities IN Women that other Women don't even see. (I think We Pay More Attention to the Appearance of Other Women...How her Hair looks, Her Clothes, Her Weight etc....)erplexed

It has been my experience that Men find Women Attractive for a Variety of Reasons other than Hair. I am in an All Male Department at Work and spend 3.4ths of my time around Men. And you would really be "surprised" at what Men really think. All Superficiality Aside. On the Serious tip.

Some Men Love Smart Women, regardless of how she looks. Some Men like women that are Slim, Heavy, Curvey, Flat Chested, Big Busted, No Behind, Large Behind, Big Lips, No Lips etc......it varies. And most of them find a variety of Women Appealing. They are "fickle" like that.

I remember when Lauryn Hill was real popular and all the Men was in Love with her. Her Hair. Her Skin. Her Lips. Completely opposite from a "Mariah Carey" cookie cutter type, but nonetheless, Men were expressing themselves outside of the supposed Norm.

Therefore, IMO Hair is only a small part of the equation.

 

[Cheleigh]

I'm not going to watch it because what she will say can be proven to be a gross generalization. "HER" man doesn't like "some" women with natural hair. I'm sure there's some natural haired woman somewhere he'd be slipping the number to, but I'm guessing that she's really talking about kinky and nappy haired women, not so much "natural" women.

Maybe because I was already seeing someone when I went fully natural (but was single when transitioning) or maybe because I'm old (and therefore not a factor for anyone) but I don't get this obsession that men and/or women have about attractiveness/professionalism/etc. and natural hair. I haven't had very many men or women make derisive comments about my hair at all. I've had a few, but no more that I'd receive if my hair were relaxed. The vast majority of people who knew me relaxed and natural prefer my natural hair. IA with other posters who state that most black men (or women) don't know enough/haven't seen enough natural hair to make an informed opinion anyway.

 

[mj11051]

I don't care what any man thinks of my hair including DH, Even though Dh loves my hair, however when I decided to go natural I didn't ask his permission. He don't ask me for permission to do what he wants to his hair. To me a man the wants me to wear my hair anything but natural is man that can go straight to the devil.

 

[gitana0801]

Men are really fickle beings to begin with ... i.e., what's hot today -- may not be hot tomorrow, what looks good on one woman -- they may not like at all on another, and whatever woman they say they wouldn't date, trust, you'll probably see that same man out with that woman or another woman with similar characteristics sooner or later.

I truly believe it is in poor taste to generalize in general and even poorer taste to generalize about black men specifically. I would hope that whatever your texture, and whatever style you wear it in, you are wearing it because it's what YOU like.

As I said initially, men are fickle and a constant contradiction when it comes to their likes, dislikes, tastes, attitudes, etc. when women are the subject matter.

If a woman changed her hair to suit a man-- she'd have to change that hair everyday!

 

[Always~Wear~Joy]

this video is crazy

I don't think any woman can say she knows what all black men want. It's impossible. What your guy friends or family tell you is not how all black men think.

 

[MonaLisa]

I think "Women" Are More Critical of How Other Women Look than Men. I still think Men look at other qualities IN Women that other Women don't even see. (I think We Pay More Attention to the Appearance of Other Women...How her Hair looks, Her Clothes, Her Weight etc....)erplexed

It has been my experience that Men find Women Attractive for a Variety of Reasons other than Hair. I am in an All Male Department at Work and spend 3.4ths of my time around Men. And you would really be "surprised" at what Men really think. All Superficiality Aside. On the Serious tip.

Some Men Love Smart Women, regardless of how she looks. Some Men like women that are Slim, Heavy, Curvey, Flat Chested, Big Busted, No Behind, Large Behind, Big Lips, No Lips etc......it varies. And most of them find a variety of Women Appealing. They are "fickle" like that.

I remember when Lauryn Hill was real popular and all the Men was in Love with her. Her Hair. Her Skin. Her Lips. Completely opposite from a "Mariah Carey" cookie cutter type, but nonetheless, Men were expressing themselves outside of the supposed Norm.

Therefore, IMO Hair is only a small part of the equation.

Good post.

I totally agree with you on the Lauryn Hill tip...so many of my boys were jocking L!..even the dude I was seeing at that time..

and I feel what cousin Gym was saying...I've always rolled with dudes in my crew...at some points in my life I had more male friends than females (can't deal with females sometimes, it's been a struggle all my life) and I ain't never near heard one of them worrying about a chick's hair when it came to doing her, wifing her up, time to ask chick to be his girl, etc.
There may have been commentary, oh I like her when she wears her hair like this...but that ain't never stopped them from bringing her to meet the crew or mama and the fam.

Yes, dudes constantly contradict themselves...I've called my boys out many a time on it (what they say and what they do...night and day sometimes) and then they start stuttering trying to backtrack on what they said..

And slightly off topic...

on the tip about wearing hair for oneself and not a man..
I wish more black females would adopt that same mindset about living their lives the same way and stop worrying about a man this and a man that all the f'ing time [I don't have a man/men won't talk to me because *insert the reason* I'm too dark, I'm too light, I'm too fat, I'm too skinny,my hair is not long enough, my hair is too short, I have three nipples, My v-jay jay smells like a forest, etc., (a man can sense that too)..]

Do..YOU..and focus on being the best YOU possible...
Go down your road with that mindset and most times what you're looking for companion wise will cross your road and want to roll with you..

again, I really think women need to have at least ONE true male friend in their lifetime..

 

[knt1229]

I understand what you're saying. But you're speaking from a woman's point of view. I'm speaking from what I've heard, and hear many men say all the time.
It shouldn't be that way, but I think it is. I know so many men. Relatives, friends, associates, and their friends. And I hear this all the time.

But we gonna have to agree to disagree on this one.

Your comment about men being attracted to a woman's hair has me cracking up. I have heard men say alot of things about women but NEVER have I heard one say he just had to get with so and so cuz she got a bangin hairdo..LOL. Now alot of men will trip over themselves for a woman with a nice booty, nice breast, or any other physical body feature you can think of. But I don't think I have seen a man do a double take cuz of some woman's hairstyle...LOL

 

[Denise11]

Your comment about men being attracted to a woman's hair has me cracking up. I have heard men say alot of things about women but NEVER have I heard one say he just had to get with so and so cuz she got a bangin hairdo..LOL. Now alot of men will trip over themselves for a woman with a nice booty, nice breast, or any other physical body feature you can think of. But I don't think I have seen a man do a double take cuz of some woman's hairstyle...LOL

You interpreted my post wrong, evidently, because thats not what i said. I was'nt say that a man would want you because you have a bangin hairdo, cause you can be ugly with a bangin hairdo. I said MOST men aint gonna want to want to talk about dating someone who's head looks effed up to them.

 

[JinaRicci]

I won't watch- I refuse to. I already know the kind of 'man' she's talking about and that kind is not for me.

 

[knt1229]

You interpreted my post wrong, evidently, because thats not what i said. I was'nt say that a man would want you because you have a bangin hairdo, cause you can be ugly with a bangin hairdo. I said MOST men aint gonna want to want to talk about dating someone who's head looks effed up to them.

Well based on what you just said I think I interpreted your post correctly and I still think it's funny...There are some men who can't even accurately describe a woman's facial features but they can tell you how big and round the booty was. So I doubt hairstyle is at the top of the must have list for most men.

Men will evaluate and draw conclusions about a woman based on the total package. How you look, how you act and how you respond to him. I don't think hairstyle will be a deciding factor as to whether or not you will be considered wife material or a booty call.

 

[glamazon386]

Well based on what you just said I think I interpreted your post correctly and I still think it's funny...There are some men who can't even accurately describe a woman's facial features but they can tell you how big and round the booty was. So I doubt hairstyle is at the top of the must have list for most men.

Men will evaluate and draw conclusions about a woman based on the total package. How you look, how you act and how you respond to him. I don't think hairstyle will be a deciding factor as to whether or not you will be considered wife material or a booty call.

I would have to agree. Men will say all kinds of stuff and when it really comes down to it, it won't matter if the overall package is pleasing to them. If I had a nickel for every man that went on about how they hate fake hair and weave yet approached me not knowing I was wearing one until I told them, I'd be rich. As long as you look good to them, 9/10 of men are not that picky.

 

[that_1_grrrl]

You only need one these days?

Your comment about men being attracted to a woman's hair has me cracking up. I have heard men say alot of things about women but NEVER have I heard one say he just had to get with so and so cuz she got a bangin hairdo..LOL. Now alot of men will trip over themselves for a woman with a nice booty, nice breast, or any other physical body feature you can think of. But I don't think I have seen a man do a double take cuz of some woman's hairstyle...LOL

 

[FluffyRed]

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[divya]

I agree that the majority (at least in the U.S.) do not like natural hair on women. It's fine on their own heads as men, but the woman's appearance needs to be closer to "white" or rather what is perceived as "less black." "Black" is ok, but not "too black." I agree with one of the comments below the video that says that this is all the more reason why we as woman should wear our natural hair. So the coming generations can have more of an appreciation for natural beauty.

The girl in the video just needs to add a question mark to the title because in the video she talks about her husband and then ASKS whether or not black men don't like black women with natural hair?

 

[knt1229]

You only need one these days?

Girl men ain't picky. As long as you got one breast that's all ya need....LOL

 

[IDareT'sHair]

I have a Guy Friend/Business Associate who is Single, Eligible and Rich (and many women felt was 'good looking'). And He was Sought Out by Sooooooo many women. Women that I thought were Attractive. That I thought was the Complete Package, Had it Going On, Beautifully Coiffed and Impeccably Dressed etc......But He Ended Up Finally Falling In Love.

Then A Mutual Friend of Ours got Married and He Brought the 'mystery' Woman He had fallen Head Over Heels in Love with to this Wedding. And of course, the string of "beautiful" broken Hearts he left behind were all waiting for him to show up with His Date. When He (they) Finally arrived Everyone was like:

She was "nothing" like the Women who had loved him/had crushes on him/had dated him thought he would have Fallen for.

She was a "Natural" Moderately Dressed, She had Big Hips, actually Slightly Chunky, Skin Tone to Match, Divorced and she was nothing like everybody thought he would have ended up with.

 

[knt1229]

I would have to agree. Men will say all kinds of stuff and when it really comes down to it, it won't matter if the overall package is pleasing to them. If I had a nickel for every man that went on about how they hate fake hair and weave yet approached me not knowing I was wearing one until I told them, I'd be rich. As long as you look good to them, 9/10 of men are not that picky.

Exactly. Men will say they don't like this or that. But most men don't know enough about most of the things we do to look good to be able to tell the difference.

Shoot put Halle Berry or Beyonce in a fro or some twists and I bet men would still want to get with them even the ones who claim not to like natural hair.

 

[Rei]

I know every single black man on Earth, and I have it on good authority that they don't care about anything else except if you have long flowing straight hair. It's true. All the rest of ya'll are just in denial. I also know that they prefer girls with only one breast, rather than two, it's more rare, you know? Now remember, I know every single black man so, my opinion is more like a fact in this matter.



In all seriousness though, saying "most black men/women" always makes me think immediately "oh so you took a survey did you? you know most black men/women? On this entire planet, right?"

 

[Nice Lady]

I'm not even going to watch that video because I already know it's ignorant.

You are definitely right about that.

 

[favorc]

most people tend to assume my hair is natural and i get a lot of compliments on my hair from black men. I wear my hair with a braid on each side pulled into a bun (nothing special).Basically off the compund look.I do admit that am surprise when I do get the compliments becasue I really do not like the style I wear it in but that is all I can do to it now until a straighten it. So not all black men are like that.

 

[bermudabeauty]

I recently transitioned from relaxed to natural. I transitioned for 3months and bc'd. My squeeze likes my hair curl pattern, however he dosen't like the fact I cut it short. That he dosen't like. He likes me with long hair but I don't give a *&% its my hair and I am cute regardles..

 

[CurlyMoo]

I want 8 minutes and 10 seconds of my life back.

 

[Denise11]

Well based on what you just said I think I interpreted your post correctly and I still think it's funny...There are some men who can't even accurately describe a woman's facial features but they can tell you how big and round the booty was. So I doubt hairstyle is at the top of the must have list for most men.

Men will evaluate and draw conclusions about a woman based on the total package. How you look, how you act and how you respond to him. I don't think hairstyle will be a deciding factor as to whether or not you will be considered wife material or a booty call.

Whatever. You're entitled to your opinion. I'm just gonna leave it at that, cause I'm tired of this thread. Bye.

 

[HeavenlySkies]

Speaking on my own personal experience my SO never dated one that was "natural". He said down where he's at "people don't go outside like that". Low and behold when we were talking I was transitioning out of a perm and when we got together it wasn't long before I cut it off and guess what he's still around lol Not saying he likes it or anything but he loves me for me not my hair. Of course he did ask me one day "When your hair grows longer are you going to keep it like that? (a fro)" I thought it was cute. But anyway a man will say nah or whatever but I think it all depends on the woman if she knows how to rock her 4bz whatever she could pull any nonbeliever.​

 

[Freespirit02]

He needs to shut his face!

 

[that_1_grrrl]

I know every single black man on Earth, and I have it on good authority that they don't care about anything else except if you have long flowing straight hair. It's true. All the rest of ya'll are just in denial. I also know that they prefer girls with only one breast, rather than two, it's more rare, you know? Now remember, I know every single black man so, my opinion is more like a fact in this matter.



In all seriousness though, saying "most black men/women" always makes me think immediately "oh so you took a survey did you? you know most black men/women? On this entire planet, right?"

 

[discodumpling]

Who cares? It's hard enough loving & accepting me for me. I just don't have the energy to care what people INCLUDING my DH have to say about my hair.

 

[glamazon386]

I agree that the majority (at least in the U.S.) do not like natural hair on women. It's fine on their own heads as men, but the woman's appearance needs to be closer to "white" or rather what is perceived as "less black." "Black" is ok, but not "too black." I agree with one of the comments below the video that says that this is all the more reason why we as woman should wear our natural hair. So the coming generations can have more of an appreciation for natural beauty.

The girl in the video just needs to add a question mark to the title because in the video she talks about her husband and then ASKS whether or not black men don't like black women with natural hair?

I really don't think men care that much. I've been wearing my hair in natural looking styles (Rarely ever straight) for years and I still have men in my face all day everyday. And nothing on me looks or is close to white whether my hair is straight or nappy. Natural hair looks good on me. It looks better with my features. Straight hair does nothing for my face. In my experience, as long as your hair is done, it does not matter to them one way or another. I've noticed more men with an aversion to short hair (which a lot of men equate with being bald headed/masculine) than natural hair.

I've read some people posting about they stopped getting cat calls since they went natural or that they didn't attract as many men or a different type of men (which usually was a positive change) but that didn't happen to me. And I think a lot of that has to do with confidence factor. If you are not so sure about your new natural hair or are not comfortable with it just yet, men may be picking up on that and not approaching. But if you are confident and secure and carry yourself that way men will take notice and see that glow around you. A lot of women have said they felt the most beautiful in their TWA stage. It made them feel fierce.

ETA: I will admit that natural hair acceptance may be higher in some areas than others though. I live in the Baltimore/DC area and natural hair is very common here. Same thing with NYC.