Black Men don't like Black women with natural hair...

[HeavenlySkies]

What do you guys think?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_L_KIYgtPo​

 

[BrooklynSouth]

 

[that_1_grrrl]

I like how that despite the fact that it's just her husband's ignorant opinion, she seems to think it's the opinion of all Black men.

 

[msa]

I'm not even going to watch that video because I already know it's ignorant.

 

[Evolving78]

as far as the video, she started rambling and got off topic about men and natural hair. but, i guess her dh is ok with fake hair as long as it isn't nappy, because she did have a weave in her hair. but a lot of men and women are not feeling nappy hair. they love if you have wavier,curlier hair than nappy hair. i have to deal with crap like that at home. and the comments she made about not having time to make her hair look pretty, that just goes to show you that black women seem to think natural hair is hard to deal with. well it can be hard to deal with if you want to keep it straight all of the time, but my natural hair has been the easiest to deal with. i barely use a comb or brush and i always make sure my hair is neat and groomed. it doesn't take me a long time in the morning to get ready.

 

[gymfreak336]

In my experience, many men that say they don't like natural hair haven't seen enough of it to form an opinion. They have seen it maybe one way but once they see it in a style that they like, their opinion changes. I personally don't put much stock in what men say they do and don't like half of the time because at the end of the day the same ones talkin bout "I don't like this and this" stay running behind chicks that have of that as long as they think she looks good.

 

[ladytee2]

I didnt evern watch that whole video. Like most black women she is not educated about nautral hair herself why would she go ask a man about it? "Natural hair is not versitile. You have to take more time with natural hair"? These are false truths. Until we stop putting chemicals in our hair making it what it is not we wont know what natural hair can do. She need to sit down somewhere.

 

[HeavenlySkies]

I didnt evern watch that whole video. Like most black women she is not educated about nautral hair herself why would she go ask a man about it? "Natural hair is not versitile. You have to take more time with natural hair"? These are false truths. Until we stop putting chemicals in our hair making it what it is not we wont know what natural hair can do. She need to sit down somewhere.

I agree I burst out laughing when she said natural hair wasn't versatile. Granted I don't have enough hair to show it's versatility lol I know it's way more versatile then relaxed hair.​

 

[IDareT'sHair]

If A Man (and I'm talking a Real Man) really likes/loves you, He will not care how you wear your Hair. All that will be minor. Yes, He may say he has a "preference" but If He Really Likes/Loves you, He won't Care about How you LOOK !

All of that is Superficial Anyway. And most "Real" Men care about what's on the Inside of a Woman. The Heart of A Woman. Have you ever looked at a Man with a woman and think: "What is he doing with her?"

So..........If He's Into You, Really Into You, He won't Care if You're Bald

 

[vkb247]

I don't want to start anything but it drives me crazy when people start randomly throwing around the word black. I live in Bermuda and black men here love natural hair.
There are black people all over the world and you can't easily decide what all of them like or dislike.

But I know she meant Black Americans. My American boyfriends were always asking my why I didn't get my big, curly hair "done." Even when I had just come back from the hairdresser. I would ask them what I was supposed to get "done" to it. I think that many AA men feel like the only suitable hair for women with nappy hair is straight or braided (usually with extensions).

 

[BotanyGrl]

In my experience, many men that say they don't like natural hair haven't seen enough of it to form an opinion. They have seen it maybe one way but once they see it in a style that they like, their opinion changes. I personally don't put much stock in what men say they do and don't like half of the time because at the end of the day the same ones talkin bout "I don't like this and this" stay running behind chicks that have of that as long as they think she looks good.

cosigns...

When I told my SO I would be going natural he assumed I was going to be rocking "Lady of Rage" puffs all the time. He was ignorant about natural hair and thought that's what it was He was cool with the idea after I explained how versatile natural hair is.

I didn't watch the video because I can't take any more ignorance and generalizations today.

 

[Denise11]

I think most men like straight hair. It can be relaxed or even natural, flat ironed hair. I think they also like naturally curly 3c hair. But not the kinky, nappy hair. That's why we have to wear our hair for ourselves, not for men.

 

[msa]

I think most men like straight hair. It can be relaxed or even natural, flat ironed hair. I think they also like naturally curly 3c hair. But not the kinky, nappy hair. That's why we have to wear our hair for ourselves, not for men.

Exactly, ITA.

 

[that_1_grrrl]

Lol, that may be true, but I have had no problem attracting men of all races. The thing is your head is not the first stop on the eye train.

I think most men like straight hair. It can be relaxed or even natural, flat ironed hair. I think they also like naturally curly 3c hair. But not the kinky, nappy hair. That's why we have to wear our hair for ourselves, not for men.

 

[Denise11]

Lol, that may be true, but I have had no problem attracting men of all races. The thing is your head is not the first stop on the eye train.

We're talking about hair here though. Not booties or tatas.

 

[that_1_grrrl]

We're talking about hair here though. Not booties or tatas.

That was my point. I don't think most men care about what's on your head if they see something else on you they like, or if they truly like your personality. I think hair, for the most part, is the least of their concern.

 

[Denise11]

That was my point. I don't think most men care about what's on your head if they see something else on you they like, or if they truly like your personality. I think hair, for the most part, is the least of their concern.

Girl please. Men look at your head FIRST. What you're talking about is not the real world. There's a lot of superficial people out there. Even good men can be superficial in some ways. They won't have a chance to know your personality if they find you unattractive. Cause they won't try to go that deep.

 

[Finewine]

Why is she speaking about Black women with natural hair that raggedy synthetic weave on her head?!

 

[gymfreak336]

Girl please. Men look at your head FIRST. What you're talking about is not the real world. There's a lot of superficial people out there. Even good men can be superficial in some ways. They won't have a chance to know your personality if they find you unattractive. Cause they won't try to go that deep.

I actually think men look at your booty and boobs first. At lot of men have the attitude that hair is something that is easily "fixed" via weave or wigs. Now a donkey arse on the other hand is harder to come by

 

[chicacanella]

I think that for the most part, mainstream African-American men only like 3c or higher. Some can't even stand this though but I don't think an educated, sound black men that can form his own opinion would say he doesn't like it. I think men like long hair though including most people but most people don't really see long flowing 4a/b/c/d hair even though with blowdrying can make it that way.

 

[Denise11]

I actually think men look at your booty and boobs first. At lot of men have the attitude that hair is something that is easily "fixed" via weave or wigs. Now a donkey arse on the other hand is harder to come by

Yeah, they look at it. But if they think your head is a mess, you'll end up a secret lover, or a bootycall, they won't introduce you to family or friends. LOL

I was talking about a man who's possibly looking for a mate.

 

[gymfreak336]

Yeah, they look at it. But if they think your head is a mess, you'll end up a secret lover, or a bootycall, they won't introduce you to family or friends. LOL

I was talking about a man who's possibly looking for a mate.

I'm talking about that too Rarely are you ( men or women) going to find someone that has every single physical characteristic that you like. There is always something that could change a little to be a 10 in that category according to your standards. We are all more flexible in some categories than others. My point is that when it comes to the hair, there are many ways to style and change it to fit a certain look, regardless relaxed or natural. And thee changes don't take a lot of time. It could just be as simple as some pomade and a headband. Building a better body takes more time. The hair for many men is easy to "fix."

 

[Liege4421]

some people are so stupid

 

[Liege4421]

I'm talking about that too Rarely are you ( men or women) going to find someone that has every single physical characteristic that you like. There is always something that could change a little to be a 10 in that category according to your standards. We are all more flexible in some categories than others. My point is that when it comes to the hair, there are many ways to style and change it to fit a certain look, regardless relaxed or natural. And thee changes don't take a lot of time. It could just be as simple as some pomade and a headband. Building a better body takes more time. The hair for many men is easy to "fix."

I agree with this. I work out a lot and I've always had short hair. I've found more men to be "forgiving" of my short hair (even if they liked longer hair) because I had what they considered to be a good body (and other good traits, too, I hope!). I knew they preferred long hair because they'd end up asking me about growing my hair out after one or two months of dating. In fact, my husband and I met in the gym because he was staring at me so hard I told him that if he could stare then he could speak, too.

 

[Denise11]

I'm talking about that too Rarely are you ( men or women) going to find someone that has every single physical characteristic that you like. There is always something that could change a little to be a 10 in that category according to your standards. We are all more flexible in some categories than others. My point is that when it comes to the hair, there are many ways to style and change it to fit a certain look, regardless relaxed or natural. And thee changes don't take a lot of time. It could just be as simple as some pomade and a headband. Building a better body takes more time. The hair for many men is easy to "fix."

I understand what you're saying. But you're speaking from a woman's point of view. I'm speaking from what I've heard, and hear many men say all the time.
It shouldn't be that way, but I think it is. I know so many men. Relatives, friends, associates, and their friends. And I hear this all the time.

But we gonna have to agree to disagree on this one.

 

[growth2come]

I refuse to watch... *runs out of thread*

 

[gymfreak336]

I understand what you're saying. But you're speaking from a woman's point of view. I'm speaking from what I've heard, and hear many men say all the time.
It shouldn't be that way, but I think it is. I know so many men. Relatives, friends, associates, and their friends. And I hear this all the time.

But we gonna have to agree to disagree on this one.

Nawl, I am speaking from what I hear men say. Like I said in my other post, I hear a lot of them say so in so but when I am out with my boo and see them at the movies or out to dinner with their dates, they contradict themselves a lot.

 

[Denise11]

Nawl, I am speaking from what I hear men say. Like I said in my other post, I hear a lot of them say so in so but when I am out with my boo and see them at the movies or out to dinner with their dates, they contradict themselves a lot.

ummmm....okay.

 

[slw980205]

I care more about what is going to be healthier for my hair than what a man likes. I am a natural 4b and I truly believe it depends on the health of your hair and how you keep it. When my hair was relaxed and APL and sort of healthy I got compliments from guys about it. When it started breaking off and it looked a hot mess but still longish guys looked at me sideways. When I was transitioning and was still trying to figure out how to do my hair guys looked at me like I had three heads. Now that I know what to do with my hair and it is much healthier, I wear it in two stranded twists or cornrows guys compliment me and ask me out all the time. I think some people including all types of black men not just african american men are ignorant when it comes to natural hair because they see what the standard of beauty is on tv which is not kinky 4b hair. I think it is up to us to keep living for ourselves and those same people will come around sooner or later.

 

[locabouthair]

The way she speaks is kind of annoying. maybe its just me.

Anyway, I met a man when I was natural and he loved it. When I eventually relaxed my hair he was upset

Every man is different.

Her husband is ignorant.