Have you lost friends over "hair" or see friends in a different light over LHCF?

[bludawnn28]

its been the opposite for me. two of my friends went natural 4 years ago and now, get their hair pressed every few weeks. they keep trying to persuade me to do it since i only get a few perms a year. i just haven't been brave enough to do it lol

 

[vestaluv1]

Thats why I dont tell people about this site, I cant deal with the ignorance.

Ditto!

In the past (a long time ago) I've had to deal with haters because APPARANTLY, my hair was 'long'. Actually, it was just past shoulder length .
Certain girls used to put their hands up in my head asking if certain parts of my hair were real erplexed, etc.

Now, my hair is always covered or I wear phony ponies, so most people I know don't even know how long my hair is or what it looks like.
I'll let some of them carry on thinking I have no hair to make then feel better ... .

 

[doll-baby]

I haven't lost any friends but when I told my bf about the site and showed her some of the ladies hair pictures she told me that our hair does not grow that long and that they must have good hair or something

 

[Vinyl]

Nope. I never share my hair goals with my friends, but I talk a lot about hair health and etc and most of them find it pretty interesting.

 

[Qualitee]

bump........

 

[SoCalli]

No...........they ask for hair care advice, but never quite get around to actually using it. Still friends though. They compliment my hair all the time. No hair haters here.

 

[HoneyA]

People I have met recently who were having hair issues always ask for advice. They call when they have a question about a product or a new technique they want to try. They run it by me first. I think they quite appreciate the info. I certainly haven't lost any friends over hair care but I only told a few. I have one friend I actually shared LHCF with and my hair goals with and she's just as obsessed as I am now. My boyfriend is the only other person who knows about the forum and my WL goal.

 

[_belle]

When I decided to cut my relaxer off one "friend " decided to warn me that they didn't hang w/ ugly people. You know just an fyi for my sake

 

[Covergirl5906]

nope..cause I don't get into discussions about hair or this site with anyone like that....most of the people I know aren't crazy about hair like we are so it wouldn't make any sense for me to talk about it with them....

 

[Curlee_lurker]

My bestie and I love hair the same. She's white and we share products too.

When I went home for Thanksgiving she took me to the professional beauty supply and she actually paid for my things and didn't care when I took forever to decide which conditioner I wanted to try.

Other than her I don't really talk about products unless someone asks.

 

[Allandra]

No. Like the poster above said, I let my hair do the talking.

 

[beans4reezy]

This is a really good thread. Other than my boyfriend, I haven't told any of my family (no friends) about my decision to embark on my journey to long hair. A couple of reasons for this: I am scared of the reaction I'd get and also, I have never had long hair and should I fail, I do not want to be mocked. I'm grateful for the support of LHCF.

 

[JustKiya]

Nah. Almost everyone knows that I'm obsessed with my hair, but I don't share my length goals except with others whose hair is already long, so I don't hear any naytalking.

 

[Tamrin]

Yes.... thats all im going to say on it. I no longer share my products or journey wth anyone anymore. I nowlet my hair speak for itself.

 

[BostonMaria]

This is a really good thread. Other than my boyfriend, I haven't told any of my family (no friends) about my decision to embark on my journey to long hair. A couple of reasons for this: I am scared of the reaction I'd get and also, I have never had long hair and should I fail, I do not want to be mocked. I'm grateful for the support of LHCF.

Awww don't think any negative thoughts. I'm sure you will have long hair. Your baby in the avatar pic is so cute btw

 

[caribeandiva]

This is a really good thread. Other than my boyfriend, I haven't told any of my family (no friends) about my decision to embark on my journey to long hair. A couple of reasons for this: I am scared of the reaction I'd get and also, I have never had long hair and should I fail, I do not want to be mocked. I'm grateful for the support of LHCF.

i never had long hair growing up either. The main reason I told them was because I really had to commit to it, no chicken out and I wanted them to have long healthy hair too. oh well.

 

[Tinkerbell19]

I have actually shared many tips and have even convinced some to join. One joined last night!

 

[Neith]

I don't have friends Just for this reason. People can be soooooo catty and that is just not me. I will drop you like a hot potato as soon as you start acting like that for whatever reason.

I've never told anyone about the board. I've never met anyone that wanted to actually take care of their hair better, they all want to throw some weave at it or relax it into submission.

The only one that I ever had say something about it was my mother. She now pretty much has nothing to say because she sees how my hair has turned abound and started inching its way down my back

 

[oooop2]

Nope..My friends actually take note, as my hair has done a 360 since finding the hair boards....

 

[chicacanella]

Well, I've only told three good friends about this site. One is interested and wants her hair to be as long as mine, BSL; the other I haven't spoken to in a while but she was very interested, and the third one I told her a long time ago and she joined but forgot her password and stuff. Now, she is going to pay attention to it more and I think it is because of seeing my hair go from barely SL after the BC two years ago to now BSL. Plus I showed her some links of some of the members on here so I think that has inspired her a bit more to listen and learn some of the tips on this site.

 

[Lady Kay 21]

Same here! I started off telling everyone who would listen about all of the new discoveries I made about hair care. To my surprise, it was mostly women who were negative including my own mother and other family members. Now I just dont say anything. I shaved my head completely bald in January, and now I'm SL natural thanks to all of the knowledge out there on haircare including LHCF. When people see me they ooh and ahhh and ask me if my hair is real and what ave I done to make it grow back so fast. Surprisingly my hair has taught me alot about people, and I have chosen to let some people in my life go because of that. IMO a person who hates on you , or acts different because of the way you wear your hair, shouldn't be in your life anyways.

 

[Blkrose]

Ive told my mother (who is always interested in healthy alternatives), my two sisters and a friend. At first they were skeptical but once I showed them a couple of pics from members on the site and they see how healthy my hair has become they too are interested except one of my sisters who I guess dont really care since she is in dreds. In fact she has been trying to convince me to go natural for years but I'm scared . Though the rest of them havent become official LHCF members they do ask me from time to time questions concerning hair products they are using and my mom has started to trust me enough to take care of her hair . Other than that I dont really have that many friends but I'm happy to share any and all info they I learned from this site with others even if its just to correct the misconceptions alot of people have about black womens hair.

 

[mistee11]

Since coming to this site I've shared a lot of tips with my friends and a couple of them have partnered up with me (we give updates and share our ups and downs with our hair). Haters are gonna hate and that's the way it goes sometimes... good thing that you upgraded!

 

[Mrs.Fitness]

The people I have told about this site think its only for women with long hair. They think everyone on here has some type of gene that makes their hair long....lol!!! Now I just keep it to myself. Who cares?

 

[caribeandiva]

Same here! I started off telling everyone who would listen about all of the new discoveries I made about hair care. To my surprise, it was mostly women who were negative including my own mother and other family members. Now I just dont say anything. I shaved my head completely bald in January, and now I'm SL natural thanks to all of the knowledge out there on haircare including LHCF. When people see me they ooh and ahhh and ask me if my hair is real and what ave I done to make it grow back so fast. Surprisingly my hair has taught me alot about people, and I have chosen to let some people in my life go because of that. IMO a person who hates on you , or acts different because of the way you wear your hair, shouldn't be in your life anyways.

Thank you! what I was trying to say in a nutshell.

 

[Naturelle]

Before lhcf, I was on a journey to a more healthier hair care practice and the determination to grow longer hair. My quest tho was really shared with my sisters more than my friends. Now my sister's hair (gr?) are thriving and they're much more conscious of how to care for their hair to acheive long or healthy hair.

My friends I didn't tell them esp, my best friend cause I knew what her reaction would be (which it was the other day - I mentioned it in another thread) and she just kind of scoffed when I told her my goals. Before that tho a number of them had seen that I was making some of my own prodcuts and being very selective about what hair prodcucts use. They were (some still do) ask my opinion and seek advice but don't really go beyond that.

That's ok. My sis' appreciate it and my fam comes first. I work on my goals cause they're my goals, not anyone else's